Hi, i'v been in a state for the past couple of months and i am wondering if others have ever been through it.

I was a 20 year old in my final year and there was this wonderful guy who was crazy about me. He was nice, sweet, caring, selfless and Godly but.... at the time, i thought i was too young and wasnt ready for a serious relationship and he was.
He was a few years older, also in his final year and was very serious about me. I didnt want to be married too young to my first boyfriend so i lied to him about having another boyfriend which i didnt have. He was hurt but he let things be, i later confessed to him when we graduated but he didnt trust me anymore and i let things be. Years have passed and i have met cuter, richer, more intelligent guys but no one has cared about me as selflessly as he did. Now, i find myself thinking what if?
Who knows, i might not be happier or as fulfilled but a part of me wishes i had given him a chance, you know? So share your own stories....

OP, HBD...

Hmmmmmmmmmm

Here to read lies...

You guys, its not just for the girls to comment oh. I am sure there are girls who might have asked you out or encouraged you that you snubbed.....

IamSINZ:
OP, HBD...

Sorry, its not my birthday today, i mistakenly filled in that date.

Op, it has happened to me. Not just with one guy & sadly, they are married now...I attribute it to naivety, immaturity and youthful exuberance. Such costly mistake can't happen again with what I know now about the important attributes to look out for in a marriage patner.

piroux:
Sorry, its not my birthday today, i mistakenly filled in that date.

It must be your birthday by force
HBD

Why will I have regrets when I don't derive my happiness from any guy/man?.

Modified.
Those of you quoting me should save it. Have never had regrets for losing someone, and I'm not a lesbian. There's always someone else to occupy a vacant space.

Benita27:
Why will I have regrets when I don't derive my happiness from any guy/man?.

Really?

IamSINZ:

It must be your birthday by force
HBD

LWKMD
Na by force?!! Nairalanders ehn

MissJoy29:
Op, it has happened to me. Not just with one guy & sadly, they are married now...I attribute it to naivety, immaturity and youthful exuberance. Such costly mistake can't happen again with what I know now about the important attributes to look out for in a marriage patner.

I get you, i like to think i'm older and more mature now. Such shouldnt happen again.

IamSINZ:


It must be your birthday by force

HBD

Okay, i accept, thank you very much

Very good
I love hearing stories like dis
Op just watch how some galz would attack u 4 dis....dey won't learn
dey will be busy slaying nd forming feminists

MissJoy29:
Op, it has happened to me. Not just with one guy & sadly, they are married now...I attribute it to naivety, immaturity and youthful exuberance. Such costly mistake can't happen again with what I know now about the important attributes to look out for in a marriage patner.

I guess you were quite young then and will always think there Is enough time. That's why I like talking to ladies from 25yrs n above. They tend to know what they doing.

piroux:

Really?

Yeah. The world isn't centred around one person.

doughziay:

LWKMD
Na by force?!! Nairalanders ehn

Yes na, I nor fit collect my wishes back. So she must accept am

Victornezzar:
Very good
I love hearing stories like dis
Op just watch how some galz would attack u 4 dis....dey won't learn
dey will be busy slaying nd forming feminists

Yes ooo..dey r already around.

piroux:
Okay, i accept, thank you very much

Na now you come
Where's the party holding? I'm coming with a host of angels.

Victornezzar:
Very good
I love hearing stories like dis
Op just watch how some galz would attack u 4 dis....dey won't learn
dey will be busy slaying nd forming feminists

Its for guys too.

piroux:


Its for guys too.

But it won't pain guys like dah na

#No regrets

I have said no to someone who was caring and nice but just didn't do it for me. Do I regret it ? Not at all because after that I said yes to a nightmare or what I would call a devil. The devil was a good experience for me , because without having him in my life I wouldn't have been able to appreciate a good man . So saying no to the angel gave me a chance to experience the worst so that when I meet the best I will know how valuable and precious he is and never to take him for granted .

Benita27:
Why will I have regrets when I don't derive my happiness from any guy/man?.

Correct divk never Bleep you.

Lionessza:
I have said no to someone who was caring and nice but just didn't do it for me. Do I regret it ? Not at all because after that I said yes to a nightmare or what I would call a devil. The devil was a good experience for me , because without having him in my life I wouldn't have been able to appreciate a good man . So saying no to the angel gave me a chance to experience the worst so that when I meet the best I will know how valuable and precious he is and never to take him for granted .

Reverse psychology.

Funny thing is, you may never meet a man who is as loving and caring as the one you rejected.

Life is all about choices so you better learn how to live with the devil you chose.

slayking:


Cotrect divk never Bleep you.

When I know my future husband will shower me with unconditionally love, why will I be mourning over a lost course?. Correct dick or no correct dick, I don't have regrets whatsoever.

slayking:

Reverse psychology.

Funny thing is, you may never meet a man who is as loving and caring as the one you rejected.

Life is all about choices so you better learn how to live with the devil you chose.

I might never meet someone like him and I don't mind because I found someone better suited for me , being nice and caring without having chemistry doesn't do it for me. So I'm glad I met both the angelic type I rejected and the devil I left behind, both taught me different things about what it is that works for me.

Lionessza:
I have said no to someone who was caring and nice but just didn't do it for me. Do I regret it ? Not at all because after that I said yes to a nightmare or what I would call a devil. The devil was a good experience for me , because without having him in my life I wouldn't have been able to appreciate a good man . So saying no to the angel gave me a chance to experience the worst so that when I meet the best I will know how valuable and precious he is and never to take him for granted .

hmmm incredible

No need for regrets .

Its has come and gone.

A better guy will come your way , just be wise when u choose again.

OK, I don't regret it per se but I've always wondered what if.

I met a "perfect stranger" once, it was when I was about 17 or 18 years old. It was the school holidays & I was going back to my hometown, to spend time with relatives. My sister dropped me off at the bus terminus & I boarded my bus, really not looking forward to the long journey ahead. I was sitting alone, the seat next to me was empty & I put a bag on it on purpose because I didn't feel like small talk with whomever was going to sit next to me. The bus moved from one city to the next, it was there that he boarded the bus. There was not that much available space inside, so I had to give up "my" other seat. I didn't even look up to see who was sitting next to me, I was feeling that much antisocial at the time

A very long moment of silence between us went, but then he broke the ice by asking if it was my 1st time going to EL. I told him no I was born there. He admitted it was his 1st time & that he was going there to meet his brother. The conversation soon moved on to other general things. We were no longer strangers. He talked a lot lol. As he spoke, I was busy "studying" him. He was attractive

Long story short, he did some things for me during our trip, that really touched me to the core. 1) was when the bus stopped so we could all stretch some legs & buy refreshments. I've bought food before I boarded the bus but I didn't buy anything to drink. I planned to buy some juice at the place where it stopped. But it was dark & freezing cold outside, so I didn't feel like going outside the heated bus. He said he wanted to buy airtime at the convenient store & asked if I needed anything. I gave him money to bring me some juice. To my surprise, he came back with so many things, he could barely hold them. He gave me back my money & said everything he bought was for me, his "new friend". I almost cried. Honestly, I'm easily touched by random acts of kindness. I was really digging him at this point, just not in a BF/GF kind of way. Anyway, the next morning we arrived at my hometown. It was raining hard.This guy quickly bought an umbrella & we huddled under it like a couple I told him I was gonna go catch my taxi home, but he begged me to wait with him. His brother was coming to fetch him. Since he's been good to me & it was his 1st time, I decided to sit with him until his brother arrived. When his brother arrived, he offered to drop me home. Amazingly, we were going to the same part of the city, so it wasn't going to be an inconvenience on their part. His brother told me he had to 1st drop groceries at his house as some things were going to melt. I had no problem going with them because he was talking to his wife on the phone, so I knew I was safe going with them to their house. OMG, when we got there, the wife made such a huge fuss over me. She thought I was the younger brother's GF lol. I explained that we met at the bus, she said but you make such a cute couple blah blah blah She said no you can't go home now, you have to come in for breakfast etc. I spent almost 3 hours with them. They were such a lovely family & they treated me like family too. Later they dropped me off at home. I saw them again 2 or 3 times after. I was invited to a party they were throwing. The "boo" gave me his cell number, but I didn't have a phone at the time, so we kinda lost touch that way.

I will never forget those people for as long as I live. Plus I was at a dark place in life at the time, so they really made me feel like I was human, yanno.

Benita27:
When I know my future husband will shower me with unconditionally love, why will I be mourning over a lost course?. Correct dick or no correct dick, I don't have regrets whatsoever.

How sure are you that your future husband won't treat you badly.

Lionessza:


I might never meet someone like him and I don't mind because I found someone better suited for me , being nice and carrying without having chemistry doesn't do it for me. So I'm glad I met both the angelic type I rejected and the devil I left behind, both taught me different things about what it is that works for me.

You made a good point. Its all about the chemistry. That i agree with.