there is this guy i dated i thought loved me he is a very interesting person i liked him very much 2. i lost my dad n was preparing to travel for the burial he asked me if he should come and i told him if its convenient for him he should come, he said he does not know yet if he will come.only for the D-day i called me and told me he was in my town with his cousin that i should give him description which i did. i was happy and thanked him for coming.

While i was still in the village i noticed that he stopped calling me like before, i asked him and he called that day after that day he stopped again i also stopped calling him after some days like 5dys i asked him y he dsnt call he said he should be asking me.i went back to lagos when ever amn in the office and i call him he will tell me to drop the phone and go to yahoo messenger so we can chat. One day i called him at night and he shouted at me that he wants to go to sleep that am disturbing him i felt so bad and promised never to call him again.

i made up my mind not to call him but i had to know the reason why he aws behaving funny after a week i confronted him, he said nothing i begged him to please tell me even if we have to break up i need to know what his reasons are and he said he is not ready for marriage and he does not want anybody to get hurt or would i want to be his sex partner, and he is the first son but i never asked him to marry me or discussed about marriage or put up a behaviour about him marrying me, there was a time he wanted to come to my come i told him later that he was rushing everything he said ok.

i didnt agree to be his sex partner i felt it cos i was hurt and i am still not satisfied with his reasons for breaking up. i had to move on with my life.
after 4 months till now he has been disturbing me with phone calls almost everyday when ever am on line chatting he send a post to me asking me hw am i doing?

One day he begged me to respond to his post which i did he said he was so happy i did that he wants to see me can i come to his office i turned him down o.he also asked me y have i been dodging his calls and post i told him am a busy person.

the annoyin part of everything was after he told me he wasnt ready for marriage he asked me to collect a loan for him to buy a car that he will pay me back? that was the height of everything i realised how wicked he is? i told him i cant.

N.B i only picked his call once.

please tell me why is he calling me? what does he want from me? and what should i do?

abeg no curse me just respond i need your advice.

Me think your friend is only interested in a bed mate. And the effrontery to ask you to facilitate a car loan for him cuts him out as not only being insensitive but should also be accorded recognition as a 5-star gold digger. As girls often do,you may still have a sneaking feeling for him but be fair to self and FLEE!

He wants 2 eat his cake and have it. Hw old is he? What did he c or hia in the village thats makin him act funny?Hw old are u? I just believe u are too matured 4 him. There is definatly no future 4 both or u, so y linger. U dont need that sort of joke in ur life. NB: why do i have strong feelings about u? Pls hala me at xtfranks005@yahoo.com. I'll like 2 b ur frend.

Don't live your life for people who doesn't appreciate it. Move on!

The guy is not your man. Period.
He is only a distraction. Double Period.
Delete everything about him (phone numbers, YIM, memory, emotion, feeling, empathy, sympathy, acquaintance). Triple period.

Your question has been answered. Is now left for you to do the right thing

C'mon sis. U r'nt blind, r u. itz obvious he wntz 2 gt richer wif ur help.

Pls run

La cuzy:

there is this guy i dated i thought loved me he is a very interesting person i liked him very much 2. i lost my dad n was preparing to travel for the burial he asked me if he should come and i told him if its convenient for him he should come, he said he does not know yet if he will come.only for the D-day i called me and told me he was in my town with his cousin that i should give him description which i did. i was happy and thanked him for coming.

While i was still in the village i noticed that he stopped calling me like before, i asked him and he called that day after that day he stopped again i also stopped calling him after some days like 5dys i asked him y he dsnt call he said he should be asking me.i went back to lagos when ever amn in the office and i call him he will tell me to drop the phone and go to yahoo messenger so we can chat. One day i called him at night and he shouted at me that he wants to go to sleep that am disturbing him i felt so bad and promised never to call him again.

i made up my mind not to call him but i had to know the reason why he aws behaving funny after a week i confronted him, he said nothing i begged him to please tell me even if we have to break up i need to know what his reasons are and he said he is not ready for marriage and he does not want anybody to get hurt or would i want to be his love mate, and he is the first son but i never asked him to marry me or discussed about marriage or put up a behaviour about him marrying me, there was a time he wanted to come to my come i told him later that he was rushing everything he said ok.

i didnt agree to be his love mate i felt it cos i was hurt and i am still not satisfied with his reasons for breaking up. i had to move on with my life.
after 4 months till now he has been disturbing me with phone calls almost everyday when ever am on line chatting he send a post to me asking me hw am i doing?

One day he begged me to respond to his post which i did he said he was so happy i did that he wants to see me can i come to his office i turned him down o.he also asked me y have i been dodging his calls and post i told him am a busy person.

the annoyin part of everything was after he told me he wasnt ready for marriage he asked me to collect a loan for him to buy a car that he will pay me back? that was the height of everything i realised how wicked he is? i told him i cant.

N.B i only picked his call once.

please tell me why is he calling me? what does he want from me? and what should i do?

abeg no curse me just respond i need your advice.

that is the reason why he is calling

La cuzy:

there is this guy i dated i thought loved me
While i was still in the village i noticed that he stopped calling me like before,
and he said he is not ready for marriage but i never asked him to marry me or discussed about marriage or put up a behaviour about him marrying me,

You find it difficult to know what he wants from you because you’ve failed to understand men and how they think.
You thought your man loved you but you never cared to know what your man thought about you.  You didn’t care to know if he loved you because you were romantic or good in bed; or because of your personality. And so on.
Secondly, his travel to your village might have revealed something about you that he never knew prior to the period of the travel. There are things you might have hidden from him that he was shocked to learn about in your village. It was obvious he interacted with some of your relations and if he is the drinking or smoking type; he must have visited a road side bar or restaurant where he learnt something disturbing about you or your family.
Thirdly, you might not have discussed marriage with him but you’d wish to marry him. Make no mistake; men have a special ability to detect a woman’s feeling. You might not have discussed marriage with him but what about your actions?
For instance, in your village the following might have ensued to make him believe you want him to marry you:
You introduced him in your village in a way that suggests he is your fiancé or would be fiancé.
Somebody addressed him in a way that suggests he is their in-law or would be in-law.
This must have infuriated him so much that he decided to breakup the relationship.
Don’t forget, men flee from women who are desperate for marriage.
Lastly, the car loan he requested was simply a man’s tactics of chasing away a woman especially when there is love-loss. His strategy is to make you run away by appearing selfish. For instance; he wants you to be his bedmate without emotional attachment.
He also wants you to help him collect a loan from your company.
All these are mind games. He already knew you’ll react the way you did. He wants you to see him as evil and wicked and then flee.
He wants you to flee. So what do you want?
To be successful in your love relationship it is vital that you understand men.
http://advice4women..com/

listen, i joke all the time on this forum, but i am going to be very serious first time, pls leave this guy for good. no matter what u feel. i have seen this things many times, HE DOESNT LIKE YOU, HE JUST USING YOU, AND WILL DUMP YOU IN NO TIME, WHEN HE HAS SUCKED ENUF OUTTA YOU.

@davemart
tanx for the advice . In every relationship i always have it in mind that it either works out or not i dnt force my self on guys.

ABout me introducing him as my fiancee no way i dnt do dat cos most guys are scared of commitment so i wont scare them by doing that, also he came to my village with his cousin and they were not my only frends that came from lagos to my fathers burial, i also introduced them (him n his cousin) as my frend not fiancee.

I am not desperate for marriage if there's anything i think of all the tym is my career

I also asked him if he heard anything about me in the village that i didnt tell him he said nothing and wen we started dating earlier i told him about my family ie the things i know he can hear outside and wont be happy about.

davemart probably never read the OPs initial post.

I think the OP's man is in need of a bed mate. I suggest you follow Opokonwa's advice.