I have actually just gotten over a very serious breakup in January and about 2 months ago I met a lady. I was willing to actually make sacrifices which I am not really used to but because I believed no one is perfect.

2 weeks ago she asked me for some money to start a business, I was impressed and willing to help because I believe that will make her more independent. She was supposed to visit my house for the first time last weekend and due to job clashes I had to cancel at the last minute. She flared up and I have always warned her of her anger problems which is about the only issue I have with her. In my heart I was hoping to propose next month, however after the scene last weekend we settled over the weekend and I just thought I must do something about this her anger problem so on Tuesday she asked about the money which I promised to give this week and I said I have decided not to give anymore but because she is now calm I will give her and that I will still find a way to ensure I destroy that her anger problems as I must have a positive impact in her life. That was all I said then she started shouting, calling me names and saying things like is it because of money you want to give me that gives you such guts to tell me I have anger problems what have you ever done besides paying for my hair twice etc.

I was dumbfounded because I can't imagine where I have gone wrong. I really want to enjoy marriage and not put up with a fighter. Does anyone think I can help her or I should just move on with my life? I'd prefer ladies views if I have said too much.

1st thing first.Don't propose yet!

Tho u were kinda wrong to say you won't give her the money cux of anger issues.What if she decided to pretend she's calm just to collect the money



And by the way,from her statements.I doubt its only anger issues you've got to deal with.She kinda sounds belittling and unappreciative.


Sit her down op and talk to her.Let her know her shortcomings and how you really don't like them.Her response will determine your next step.If she decides to try and be calm,you can put her to some tests.And if otherwise.You know watta do



Just make sure you don't go ahead proposing to her when you've still got things you're not comfortable with so as
to avoid bigger probs


Wishing ya all the best

Leave that girl alone ooo. The signs are there looking at you.

Go ahead and marry her if you want to end up with domestic violence or high blood pressure.

That girl is obviously a big liability. Use your head.

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She will make your life a living hell when you marry her, living with someone that have anger issues is not easy, they flare up at any lil thing and throw insults at you.