Hello distinguished ladies and gentlemen, I've decided to share this interesting topic so as to encourage and admonish some of us here and myself too. This post is also open to questions and contributions, it is important that we teach ourselves and learn as well.
Thank you in anticipation of your of your positive responses.


#1. MY DREAMS/GOALS CAN WAIT

What should your dreams and goals wait for? Or perhaps who are you waiting for??
Isn't your goals and dreams one of the most important essence of life??
Most times, you just find so many people whiling away time because of other purposes which are not important. You can build for your dream/goal while carrying out other important and necessary activities in life(multi-tasking).
Your dreams and goals must be achieved as quickly as possible and early enough. Such feeling you get with achieving your goals and dreams can give you inner peace for the rest of your life. It will also create a larger room for you to contribute to solving life's challenges.
hey! do not delay. start now for there's no limit to what you can achieve.

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#2. I DON'T HAVE TIME
At the beginning of my journey as a university undergraduate, I was always told about the importance of time management. I have disciplined myself to accept such principle and put it into practice all the time. It has really helped me a lot till this day.
When you say you do not have time, it is another way of saying it doesn't matter. Naturally, what matters should take your time. If you must achieve so much then time management is an effective tool.
What are you doing with your time?
Not having time is not enough excuse. Make a fine plan, such that every activity or work that is aimed at driving you towards the goal fits in.
You have limited time but of course you have time! Only make it count.

#3. I'M NOT TALENTED ENOUGH

My late Dad once asked me many years ago why I wasn't a member of my church choir, my reply to Him was that I didn't have the talent to sing in the choir. That reply hit Him; it was disappointing and the disappointment was written all over Him for a few days. He had heard me sing a good number of times and He had already seen what was in me. Maybe my excuse was childish so He just let it go but not without a great admonishing.
I realized that if I am not so talented, at least I am good at singing and if I had to be one of the best, I have to set to work. We need to learn the difference between talent and work. Most celebrities we see on the screen today may not have been too talented, they are people who just worked a little bit harder.
I believe that everyone has got at least a little bit of talent. Constant practice makes you better, persistence enhances talent. Therefore, you need to work hard and practice to harness your talent. A little bit of talent and a great deal of work can take you to the goal.
Not being talented enough is a thought you should discard as quickly as it comes.
Gracia!

#4. THE PROBLEM IS TOO BIG TO SOLVE

Once it is a problem, there can always be a solution. Of course a problem can be categorized as big, but not bigger than having a solution.
In trying to solve a problem, time and energy must be spent. But then you should not see your dream as a problem. Problems would surely come while you have set to work, these problems could be a source of distraction but, no problem too big for you to solve can come to you. If at a point you feel too burdened, discouraged, depressed, do not let go. There's a few good people you can always talk to; no man is an island.
Desist from seeing a problem as too big. If it gets harder, put in more; The harder it gets, the sweeter the taste of success.

#5. It Doesn't Matter
At some point, You may find yourself deliberately ignoring some small things while the little voice in your head will whisper to you that it doesn't matter. Do not forget that you need a set of bits and pieces to make a whole.
Everything matters and everything counts; if not today then perhaps tomorrow. Never throw away or neglect any detail no matter how small, you never can tell just when it may come in handy.
Stay focused and keep in touch with everything. Life goes around, life comes around.

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#6. I Am Not Prepared

You've been prepared to face life right from the day you were born. But, what gives you the impression that you are not prepared? Sometimes it is laziness, it could be the voice of discouragement and it could even be as a result of distraction.
Having identified your goal/dream, set your mind to work and open your mind to making the best out of every situation; this is the basic preparation you need for preparation basically starts in the mind.
You can achieve what you want to achieve.

#7. I Should Wait For The Right Time

Hey! Why delay? Every time is right for you to put your hands to work that will lead you towards actualizing your dream. Make hay while the sun shines, so that when it comes to that point where the sun might want to take a rest from shining, you could have covered many grounds.
Delay could be dangerous. Do not forget that a stitch in time saves nine. There's no time more right than now; do what you have to do at any given point with the aim of making one or more steps forward.
Sometimes, you might just decide to fold your hands and wait for opportunities, that is very wrong. Learn to create opportunities. The world is not static, move along with the pace of a goal getter. There's so much to achieve but with limited time.
Always keep it in mind that time waits for no one.

#8. I know I'm Not Good Enough

I must admit that I've had this kind of thought severally. How can you know how good you are if you don't give a try?
When this thought springs up, it shows you have lost faith and confidence in yourself. When you lose these two essential items, there is not much places you can go because, while confidence makes you walk through some seemingly huge doors, faith can get you what you want once you've passed through the door.
Sometimes, the thought of not being good enough can raise a kind of fear such that in trying, you might fail since you think you're not good enough. But I tell you, your greatest fear should not be your failures but successes in things that do not matter.

Being prepared, setting to work with a mind of achieving your dream without delay makes you good enough already. Do not deny yourself the task which has been given you. No man is too good but desire, hard work, commitment can make any man better while driving Him towards his goal.
You are better than you think and you can achieve what you want to achieve.

#9. People Have It Much Easier Than Me

Everyone was created equal. Naked and bare, that's how we all came to this life, though we met different conditions, but everyone was given a shot at survival. Some couldn't survive but you did.... Now, that's a good starting point for you and I and everyone else.
As everyone is different, so are their problems. Some people may be so wealthy and influential but trust me when I tell you that many of them have more problems than you. Do not compare yourself with people, there's absolutely no need to do that. Life in itself is not easy, there are wars to be won if one must be great.
Hard times would always come, like an adversity. It may last for such a long time but then, do not be overwhelmed neither should you be discouraged, take it up like a challenge. Know that in every adversity, there is a message. Every great success requires some struggle to get there.
Discard the very thought that people have it much easier than you as soon as it springs up, it is a thought of discouragement that will take you nowhere.

#10. I Have Nothing To Be Thankful For

If you've heard the saying that "dead men don't talk" then you should understand that being alive is enough reason to be thankful. Being grateful for the little you have now can fetch you something bigger tomorrow; appreciation can open doors.
Do not always compare yourself with people who you think have it much easier than you, by doing that you might get discouraged and when discouragement sets in, you are already on the reverse gear and that won't lead to a happy ending. Be contented with what you have. It doesn't really matter if your glass is half empty or half full, be thankful that you have a glass with something in it; you have life with a lot of potentials.
Be thankful for your yesterday and your experiences, be thankful for today with its opportunities, be thankful for the people you love. Like the saying goes: all is fair in love and war, it will not always be the way you want it. Forget the seemingly perfect situation of others and focus on your big dream.
Even in nothing, be thankful.

#11. I Have Too Many Flaws

A famous tale among the Chinese says that "there are only two perfect men, one dead and the other unborn". Assuming that was true then you would agree with me that naturally, It is not wrong to have flaws, no man is perfect. Everyone was born with a potential for greatness in them but not without flaws or imperfections.
I love to say constant practice and work makes one better while others believe it makes one perfect. While it is natural and not quite bad to have flaws, it is very bad when you do nothing to correct, improve or totally move away or perhaps rise above your flaws.
It is not enough to give the excuse that you have too many flaws and then let it go on to override you. If you think your flaws are much and you wouldn't succeed, at least first give a try. It is okay if you mess things up because it is better if you try and fail than not trying at all. Not trying is failing. Do not let your flaws be a stumbling block, rather step on it and make progress. There is a stream of perfection running through nature, but you may be hindered access to that stream if you allow your flaws be in charge.
The thought of you having too many flaws may be a source of discouragement, but while you might want to give discouragement a chance, remember, you have a very big dream, do not let your flaws drive you away from achieving it. Do not forget, you can achieve anything you want to achieve.

#12. I Don't Have What It Takes

One of our network providers here (MTN) used to give a ring back tune which starts with the line "you have all it takes to be better."
That line has so much good content and that is the good news I bring to you today.
Certain circumstances can bring up such thought of not having what it takes in your mind, it is not unsual. At one point in my life, I heard people sing with so much talent and I eventually said to myself that if I wanted to be a singer, I didn't have what it takes... But, guess what? That's a fat lie.
Never let your current situation or circumstance becloud your judgement, rather do not reach conclusions yet. No matter what, learn to always encourage yourself. Be your own source of strength and let others build on that.
You have all it takes to make it good, you have the power to make it better and you can do more to make it one of the best if not the best. It is within you.... You have all it takes to make your dreams come true.

#13. I Don't Have Time For Anyone Else

Every individual life is a personal race. But, where is the beauty in a life that cannot be shared? What is the essence of doing it alone when two good heads are far better than one?
This kind of thought may arise as a form of reaction to previous disappointments, heartbreaks, betrayal and every negative thing that people could have done to you. You feel withdrawn and you may even go ahead to decide that you don't need people in your life anymore. It is okay to feel betrayed, disappointed and any of such feeling because at a point, we meet disappointments and betrayals, but it is not enough to give up on people. Look! There's still people who would stand by you through thick and thin. No one can survive alone for long.
Obviously, the number of bad people is larger than that of the good. Yet, there are still a few good people. Some people are there to help you move higher the ladder perhaps in those times when you get weary.
If you don't have time for anyone else, how then can others hold your hand and pull you up when you're down? On the other hand, how can you show love and kindness? Do not forget that what you give is what you get, maybe bigger.
You do not have to involve everyone all the time but there are some good people you can involve sometimes. Do not always do it alone. Learn to share some things about your dreams, goals and aspirations but you must be careful in doing that. Some people are brought to you, so that through them you can achieve your dreams.
Merci.

#14. My Closest Relationships Can Wait

Fortunately, this Comes as a sequel to the previous topic which says "I Don't Have Time For Anyone Else". Having this kind of thought could seriously affect your closest relationships.
Firstly, how would you define a close relationship? The answer to that is relative. But, one very important thing is the people you keep close relationships with. Learn to keep close relationships with good people; those who have earned your trust and family. Yes, some are just family by name but there is no close relationship.
When you have close relationships, the people involved with you become an essential part of your life. At some point, they have very important roles to play in achieving your dreams through support in every wise.
Do not keep your closest relationships aside for the purpose of achieving your dreams, they are more important than you think. If you think you're not getting all the support you need from a close relationship, work on improving it. We all have flaws yet we can make things better when we involve each other, work and walk together.
Always involve the good and close people in your life. Perhaps, it may be much easier to get to the goal when you take their hands and at some point, allow them take your hand.

TWENTY TINY THOUGHTS CRUSHING YOUR BIGGEST DREAMS

#15. I Can Break My Promise Just This Once

Promises? Don't ever break them. Rather than break promises, don't make them. In breaking promises, you could earn a bad name and you don't need a bad name if you must ascend towards your dream.
Make sure you don't make promises when you're angry, excited, sad, depressed or in a hurry. Make sure to make a promise when you're most normal. Also, learn to make promises of things within your power and means, if it is not within your means then don't make any promise; you haven't broken any law if conditions don't permit you to make a promise at any point.
A promise is meant to be kept. It is evil to break promises even for once. It creates a negative impression about you. Know that even if you succeeded in keeping ninety-nine promises but failed in keeping one, somehow, people will forget and that one could be used against you (such is life).
Therefore, be on the safe side, keep a clean record by discarding the thought of breaking promises even for once. If you break a promise once, you would break another again and the streak continues. Once you earn a bad name through breaking of promises, the path to achieving your dream is altered. Eventually, people stop believing anything you say and may lose total interest in anything you have to offer even if you wanted to offer sincerely.
Your dream is too important to be cut short by one little promise not kept. So, rather than break promises, do not make them.

TWENTY TINY THOUGHTS CRUSHING YOUR BIGGEST DREAMS

#16. One Little Lie Couldn't Hurt

As far as the east is from the west, that is how far you should keep yourself away from lies. One little lie may be insignificant today but tomorrow...? It may be the cause of your downfall.
Why tell a lie when the truth can set you free? As impossible as it may seem at some points to not tell a lie, the choice of presenting the truth or sticking with a lie is yours to make. The thought can come at any time, you oblige and decide to tell the little lie just that one time. Most times, it may happen that you would have to tell another lie to cover up the previous one. It goes on that way and you eventually realize that you are caught up in a web of lies; once you've been caught in that web, you get to lose so much, so much more than words can describe.
A lie today can prevent you from laying hands on something big tomorrow... Now imagine the big thing to be all you had ever dreamed of and worked towards achieving. A little lie can create distrust; you are most likely to get something big and good easily from others when they trust you.
Listen to your conscience, keep your name clean. If you think the lie was necessary to tell at that point, it is not too late to come clean. Do not forget that the truth will always surface, therefore always stand for the truth!
Your dream is much bigger than one little lie.

#17. They Care About Me But Just Too Busy To Keep Their Promises

In properly assessing the situations from whence this kind of thought arises, you may be wrong or right. In this case, it is like a two way street.
Though there are people who genuinely care about you in this life, others do not. But in all honesty, someone who cares about you should always make out time for you and a means of keeping up with their promises to you. Know also that sometimes, situations beyond their control can prevent them from fulfilling their promises at the time.
But, when things do not happen the way you thought it would, do not let it change your life entirely. Always have another plan, and maybe another. In as much as you need people with their helping hand sometimes, do not let that be your only option all the time. Be ready to take every opportunity just as they come.
There are people who genuinely care about you. They may have failed or disappointed you sometimes but remember they're not perfect just like you're not. Most times, these people are meant to be part of your story, do not jump into conclusions and put them aside yet.
If others failed you, do not fail yourself.

#18. My Heart Has Been Broken Too Many Times To Take Much Risks

Everyone gets a heartbreak at some point in their lives, you are not alone on this one. Funny enough, those who are supposed to be like a shield around you are the ones who eventually break your heart and that is much more devastating than a lot of things.
Maybe there is a place where you had eyes on and desired to be there, or some good people you wanted to be with, your dream job or an opportunity you saw as yours but just when you went for them, you were rejected; It is indeed heartbreaking. Your struggle is part of your story, being rejected from something you often want could mean that you are being directed to something you need. People and situations can break your heart but don't let them break you.
Take risks! But, do not take it if it is not necessary. Do not let previous heartbreaks determine your life, you have the power to heal.
Though it is not as easy as it may sound, yet I see no choice better than you rising from your heartbreaks, learning your lessons and forging ahead. Heartbreaks come and they will always go so, stick to your dreams, take risks only when necessary, succeed and then, achieve what you wish to achieve.

Sorry for the delay.... I'm here to finish it up now.

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#19. I Refuse To Cry

Sometimes, just let the tears drop freely from your eyes. Unlike what most people think, crying at some point is not a symbol of weakness. It is not a taboo to cry if at a point the burden seems too much to bear or if you are faced with a negative situation.
Always holding up things inside and not letting them out is very unhealthy for the mind and to some extent the body. It is not a symbol of strength all the time if you always bottle up. Now, if your mind is not stable as a result of a lot of things being bottled up in it, how far do you think you can go with such type of mind?
Pull yourself together when you find yourself in a devastating situation but that doesn't mean you shouldn't cry; yet, do not cry like one who who is without hope. Rather, let each tear inspire you, give you a new hope and remind you that even though the past may have been rough, there's a bigger and better dream waiting to be achieved.
Know that the tears clear your eyes, clears your head and with clear eyes and head, you can more readily define a good path to walk on towards achieving your dreams.

Sorry good ladies and gentlemen for the delay. I had completed it on my facebook page since the 20th of August. I thought I had done the same here....
Here's the last one.

#20. I Refuse To Forgive

Firstly, I must confess that forgiving a person who has really wronged you is not easy at all. But, forgiveness is one thing that you must learn to dish out to people who have erred against you at all times.
You think they must pay for what they took from you even when in your heart of hearts you know it wasn't meant to be yours? Let it go! Letting go is hard, but not as hard as holding onto something that isn't truly yours or that cannot be yours. They have done you a huge favor in the process.
Grudges cast a great deal of weight on your mind but when you forgive, that weight is removed and you feel at peace. Do not always wait for people to ask before you forgive. Do not forget that the measure you give is the measure you receive; the more easily and readily you are willing to forgive, in like manner will you also be forgiven because definitely, you must step on toes at some points.
When your mind is clear of the excess weights in form of grudges, you feel lighter and you are more fit to face great challenges. Keeping grudges is so much burden already so let it go. Love your neighbor like you love yourself (it is still possible). Practice the tradition of kindness and forgive even those who hurt you. With less weight, you can more easily climb the ladder to achieving your dreams.
Grudges are too small to stand between you and your dreams. Greatness is within you!
cheers.

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