i'm getting lean everyday and could hardly eat or concentrate on my job because a girl i loved so much and sacrificed a lot for sold off an investment of about 700k which i opened for her, the following day which was val'z day she came to my house to drop a letter saying she is walking out of our two-year relationship.
This february made us 2yrs in the relationship and i was even planning to get married to her but i found out she was deeply in love with her ex-date whom she told me she had nothing to do with him and was even planning to travel out, so when i confronted her, she denied this and the following week she sold off my investment without telling me and then wrote me a letter thaat she is working out of the relationship.
If i didnt truly love her i wouldnt bother, i would just leave it that way, but because i truly loved her and she was just the only serious girl in my life ,  so its not been easy for me at all, though my friends have told me,  you're a man with a good job working with an oil servicing firm, you can easily see better girls out there,  but in reality its not easy to see true and genuine love.
It really hurts but i'm still trying to think positively about life but sometimes i just feel like ending it all instead of suffering terribly emotionally. i dont know if i'll ever see someone who truly loves me .
I feel so miserable now and i cant just figure out what to do again. its so hard for me concentrating on my job and even sleeping at night, my heart keeps pumpimg fast, i cant even eat, i'm really miserable, i was planning to get married next year, i just dont know where to start from again now.
EAZYMAN.

eazyman:

i'm getting lean everyday and could hardly eat or concentrate on my job because a girl i loved so much and sacrificed a lot for sold off an investment of about 700k which i opened for her, the following day which was val'z day she came to my house to drop a letter saying she is walking out of our two-year relationship.
This february made us 2yrs in the relationship and i was even planning to get married to her but i found out she was deeply in love with her ex-date whom she told me she had nothing to do with him and was even planning to travel out, so when i confronted her, she denied this and the following week she sold off my investment without telling me and then wrote me a letter thaat she is working out of the relationship.
If i didnt truly love her i wouldnt bother, i would just leave it that way, but because i truly loved her and she was just the only serious girl in my life , so its not been easy for me at all, though my friends have told me, you're a man with a good job working with an oil servicing firm, you can easily see better girls out there, but in reality its not easy to see true and genuine love.
It really hurts but i'm still trying to think positively about life but sometimes i just feel like ending it all instead of suffering terribly emotionally. i dont know if i'll ever see someone who truly loves me .
I feel so miserable now and i cant just figure out what to do again. its so hard for me concentrating on my job and even sleeping at night, my heart keeps pumpimg fast, i cant even eat, i'm really miserable, i was planning to get married next year, i just dont know where to start from again now.
EAZYMAN (08035375493)

Have you ever cheated on her b4? I mean, do u have other unserious girlfriends? Why are u droping ur number?

Yes u can still find true love.Just be patience and be calculating.

justwise:

Have you ever cheated on her b4? I mean, do u have other unserious girlfriends? Why are u droping your number?

In case any lady is interested to console him.

What do you really want? Is it a new relationship or to get back with your girl or to get your investment back?
Cos if your depression no reach the one wey be say you fit drop number , I wonder o.

nikkykay:

Yes u can still find true love.Just be patience and be calculating.In case any lady is interested to console him.

Hmmm aren't u clever? Are u giving him a ring?

Its okay for him to drop his number. You can never tell where the ideal girl will be met.

justwise:

Hmmm aren't u clever? Are u giving him a ring?

Nehi Nehi

eina:

Its okay for him to drop his number. You can never tell where the ideal girl will be met.

Abi oooo

Sorry dude. Hope u'll get the right person this time,but you don't have to put everything to a halt,cus life is beautiful and relationship is just one out of the beauties of life. Be happy!

@poster
just treat the whole saga as a "bad investment" and move on with your life. you will find many more hiccups along the road of life and you better man up and accept that life aint easy all the time!
there are ups and there will be downs, the catch is to be able to get back up after being floored by such action.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
just treat the whole saga as a "bad investment" and move on with your life. you will find many more hiccups along the road of life and you better man up and accept that life aint easy all the time!
there are ups and there will be downs, the catch is to be able to get back up after being floored by such action.

Thanks men, i'll just try to though its really painful and difficult to forget.

dude just try to take it easy.

think of better things and try to make ur mood better.

Its not going to be easy and will take time but work through it and u will come out a better man. Remember it could always be worse, imagine if she has like 2 of your kids then decides that she wants to leave u or go back to her ex that kind of thing is even harder.

take it easy and make sure u enjoy ur weekend.

Is not the end of the role, life still continues. U get luck say u neva propose

Take heart my brother; its one of those things.

Duniverse:

Is not the end of the role, life still continues. U get luck say u neva propose

Yeah my broda life goes on, thanks a lot, i'm beginning to pick up my pieces, i now know that there are good thinking people on nairaland, at first i was skeptical sharing my mind here, because most of them here are just here to make fun of serious issues.

@ Post

Exactly my point about women & ingratitude. "sold off my N700k investment without telling me". And, "dropped a letter saying she was walking out of the relationship". Ha! Why shouldnt one be paranoid about these serpentine descendants of Eve?

My brother, the only lesson here is that you MUST terminate 'love' from your heart forever. I've since realized that the more you show love and commitment to these creatures, the more the serpentine demons in them nudges them to take you for granted, despise you and crush you! If you like, fall sheepishly in love again with the next girl; she'd repeat the 'feat' of her predecessor. The truth is bitter, but you must swallow it for your own good.

its well and by God's grace it will continue to be well.

@poster ,

I am very sorry for what your girl did to you. Attilla is correct that you should be thankful you did not get married to that she-devil. I think the adage "every dissapointment is a blessing rings true in your case". Don't listen to pro01 about deleting love from your heart, love is kind, love is unselfish, love is all encomapssing and we all need a little love in our lives. With time, I am sure you will find a woman worthy of your love, until then be careful. I wish you the best of luck.

Classical mugu. , all ye men of no control, learn the ways of true control and bury misery.

eazyman:

i'm getting lean everyday and could hardly eat or concentrate on my job because a girl i loved so much and sacrificed a lot for sold off an investment of about 700k which i opened for her, the following day which was val'z day she came to my house to drop a letter saying she is walking out of our two-year relationship.
This february made us 2yrs in the relationship[b] and i was even planning to get married to her[/b] but i found out she was deeply in love with her ex-date whom she told me she had nothing to do with him and was even planning to travel out, so when i confronted her, she denied this and the following week she sold off my investment without telling me and then wrote me a letter thaat she is working out of the relationship.
If i didnt truly love her i wouldnt bother, i would just leave it that way, but because i truly loved her and she was just the only serious girl in my life ,  so its not been easy for me at all, though my friends have told me,  you're a man with a good job working with an oil servicing firm, you can easily see better girls out there,  but in reality its not easy to see true and genuine love.
It really hurts but i'm still trying to think positively about life but sometimes i just feel like ending it all instead of suffering terribly emotionally. i dont know if i'll ever see someone who truly loves me .
I feel so miserable now and i cant just figure out what to do again. its so hard for me concentrating on my job and even sleeping at night, my heart keeps pumpimg fast, i cant even eat, i'm really miserable, i was planning to get married next year, i just dont know where to start from again now.
EAZYMAN (08035375493)

Why are you all ALWAYS PLANNING to marry her after she messes up huh? 

Well Kpele. . .obviously it wasn't meant to be. . .so MOVE ON!

ThoniaSlim:

Why are you all ALWAYS PLANNING to marry her after she messes up huh?

Well Kpele. . .obviously it wasn't meant to be. . .so MOVE ON!

Nna mehn, it's very hard 2 move on from the loss of 700k.



@ OP: Ndo e, U've been chopped and screwed, guess now U know that feeling U had for that chick wasn't love. However, I really don't see the wisdom in dropping ur number here, anybody that calls U now might just be thinking "There must be more money where that 700k came from". I'll advice you to take time and recover from the heartbreak, so U don't fall for some rebound chick, hurting urself more in the process. Besta luck

ravenzord:


Nna mehn, it's very hard 2 move on from the loss of 700k.



@ OP: Ndo e, U've been chopped and screwed, guess now U know that feeling U had for that chick wasn't love. However, I really don't see the wisdom in dropping your number here, anybody that calls U now might just be thinking "There must be more money where that 700k came from". I'll advice you to take time and recover from the heartbreak, so U don't fall for some rebound chick, hurting urself more in the process. Besta luck

You bet you bottom dollar it is hard

chic2pimp:

You bet you bottom dollar it is hard

Infact, if no be say I don repent, I for tell the guy make him go Okija go do something for the girl, which kind expensive break up be that?

@ Poster

What are you doing crying and feeling sorry for yourself. Just co cos you lost her doesn't mean there's not better person out there for you. We've all been hurt and betrayed by the people we loved but dat doesn't mean you shd give up on love totally.

I'll advice you to relax, take your time to heal. Don't worry about love, it'll find you!

eazyman:

Yeah my broda life goes on, thanks a lot, i'm beginning to pick up my pieces, i now know that there are good thinking people on nairaland, at first i was skeptical sharing my mind here, because most of them here are just here to make fun of serious issues.

Good to hear u are picking up the pieces. Take it Eazy man

I don't think I can even believe all this story, because it's like the guy is just using this opportunity to find a true love here on Nairaland and apart, How can a person sold your apartment without you doing any f**cking thing to it? ARE YOU A BIG F**CKING FOOL?.

If this story is true then I think TO HELL WITH THAT YOUR F**CKING GIRLFRIEND.

MAY BOTH HER AND HER EX DIE IN JESUS NAME,

tai2:

Classical mugu. , all ye men of no control, learn the ways of true control and bury misery.

Wasere, you've said it all.

700k ?!! U need 7 serious slaps to wake u up.how can u open a business for a girlfriend.she's not ur wife yet and she's been using the proceeds of your money to help her sharper boyfriend who's been givin it "HOT" to her.i dont pity u cos if id begged u for 10k to fund small business,ud tell me of economic depression.i hail that babe.learn control just like Tai has been talkin about.anyway come to the Beer parlour let me give you 3 bottles of your favorite then i go give u one fine okpeke to help lessen ur sorrows. But u'll pay for the peppersoup oo.

sofeco:

I don't think I can even believe all this story, because it's like the guy is just using this opportunity to find a true love here on Nairaland and apart, How can a person sold your apartment without you doing any f**cking thing to it? ARE YOU A BIG F**CKING FOOL?.

If this story is true then I think TO HELL WITH THAT YOUR F**CKING GIRLFRIEND.

MAY BOTH HER AND HER EX DIE IN JESUS NAME,

My broda,  if only you knew what was going on in my mind, many evil thoughts crossed my mind, infact i havent been myself yet, for the first 3 to 4 days i couldnt sleep and my heart was beating so fast that i just had to seek help anywhere as fast as possible, my colleague even saw me dosing off while on duty but i tried to cover it up because if i made it known that i was having emotional problems then that will make me a hazard at work and could even make me loose my job.
I even droped some prayer request on some christian sites like CBN- Christian Broadcasting network, House on the Rock because i was desperate for divine help as i didnt wana do something evil, tho my mind pushed me to but i still tried to hold my peace. CBN replied me thus;
Thank you for allowing us to share with you concerning the need to trust the Lord.  When you turn to Him for comfort and reassurance, realize that His response includes the wisdom of One who is seeing beyond the present situation, into the past, and into the future.  His ultimate concern for your welfare centers around the destiny of your soul.  He will use all things together to bring you to spiritual good health.

When things are good in life, our human nature tends to become lax about thanking God for His goodness.  Trouble, on the other hand, gets our attention right away, and we are usually quick to call on the One who always comes through for us.  Thank God for the trials in life that draw us back to Him.

You may never understand the wisdom of why certain things were allowed to occur in your life.  In difficult and trying times, you must believe that God is doing the very best thing for you and your loved ones.  If you learn to trust Him in the small things of your day-to-day living, then you will have your faith strengthened to trust Him in the hard times too.

As trials come and go, remember that the Lord's ways are not ours.  Our pleading prayers won't always bring the answers we want.  Then we must pray as Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane to His Father saying, "not My will, but Your will" (Mark 14:36).  His will for us is to lean on His wisdom and love, not on our understanding (Proverbs 3:5).  When we join our Lord in Eternity, we will be able to say of every trial as Joseph said to his brothers, "Though it was meant for evil, my God used it for good."

May God bless you with the comfort of His presence.


Yours in Christ,
Pat Robertson    

And House on the Rock replied me thus;
Warm greetings of grace and peace to you in the fellowship of Christ our Lord and king!


You are Elohim special child! The reason for your creation hasn’t been changed! God is mindful of you! His plans haven’t changed! What He is developing in you will be perfected soon! You will start your season of laughter not many days from now! God’s ways are pass-finding. The fact that you are alive is the sign that God wants to use you for His glory. Delays are not denials, rejection  doesn’t mean you are not in God’s plan; they are God’s training school to work out some positive things in your live.



Sure God will fulfill His Word in your lives. You are God’s special child, and He will bring His Word to pass. Trust in God and do not give up. God has done it and your dreams will soon be realized. If she goes, it means that God has something better for you. It will hurt for awhile but you will get over it. ‘the Storm will be Over’!

Please make these declarations over your life. If you can print them out and take them with you everywhere you go, and use it every time you have the chance. It has helped me and many others too. God hears and answers them speedily. In Jesus’ name! This is the beginning of your next level! Halleluiah!, etc

Tho it hurts me so much but with some advice and encouragement i'm getting, life has to go on, tho its really painful, i still dont have appetite to eat, sometimes i just stare at my food while my mind is thinking , but with time and God helping me i will be able to put this behind.
Many evil thoughts crossed my mind but somehow God has kept me, i think God has something much more better for me, maybe thats why He allowed this.
I was so inpired by this txt i got today; THE CHALLENGES OF LIFE  ARE THERE TO STRENGTHEN US, THEY ARENT THERE TO RUIN US. I just pray God keeps on giving me hope and prevent me from doing something evil, its really really painful. God gave everyone conscience yet some people could really be heartless yet look innocent . I will just try thinking positively and try to put this behind. There will be light at the end of the tunnel.

D problem is that u are lookin 4 lov wen u dont evn no what it is. U are not evn man enuf 2 handle the next girl, that mean u are goin 2 b duped again. Why are u so much interested in true love. U hav been use and dumped yet u talk about true love, a pure sign that u havnt learnt ur lesson. The only advice i can give is 2 carefully read tai2's thread on hw 2 control a woman and learn 2 b a man 4 once in ur life b4 its 2 late. God, if i were the md of these oil companies or big establishments, weak men like u will neva b employd

frank3.16:

D problem is that u are lookin 4 lov wen u dont evn no what it is. U are not evn man enuf 2 handle the next girl, that mean u are goin 2 b duped again. Why are u so much interested in true love. U hav been use and dumped yet u talk about true love, a pure sign that u havnt learnt your lesson. The only advice i can give is 2 carefully read tai2's thread on hw 2 control a woman and learn 2 b a man 4 once in your life b4 its 2 late. God, if i were the md of these oil companies or big establishments, weak men like u will neva b employd

FRANKLY SPEAKING, the way the poster sounds in all his post even in the last one, he has already figured it out that his's not man enough to handle a lady. I think he needs to learn a lot.

@ POSTER

And on a neutral ground, if the poster seek for another girl it might also result to this, but I just felt the best luck you have for now is that the place you are working, cos you can use that to attract a lady that is also desperately looking for husband that has work and financially capable and ready to settle down like you, even despite the kind of mentality you still have she would still be able to cope with you.

These are happening to you due to the way you were brought up, and the kind of area you lived during your childhood or where and the kind of people you were exposed to, and also the lack of communication between you and girls/ladies or the way you communicate or interact with them.

But in short, for now I think you just need to focus on your work and your life and please (grow up) cos in as much you keep on chasing ladies all in the name of seeking for one kind true love, mennnnnnn forget the more you are into it, the more you mmmm

Take care.

frank3.16:

D problem is that u are lookin 4 lov wen u dont evn no what it is. U are not evn man enuf 2 handle the next girl, that mean u are goin 2 b duped again. Why are u so much interested in true love. U hav been use and dumped yet u talk about true love, a pure sign that u havnt learnt your lesson. The only advice i can give is 2 carefully read tai2's thread on hw 2 control a woman and learn 2 b a man 4 once in your life b4 its 2 late. God, if i were the md of these oil companies or big establishments, weak men like u will neva b employd

I went thru Tai's thread, sure there are some few things to learn there but mainly for young guys who specialize in multi-dating girls.
There is a stage you get to in life and you outgrow some habits.
Its said,  Once beaten twice shy, like i said earlier i dated this girl for 2 years and i felt i was so sure of whom i was dating to the point of planning for marriage, so the thought of investing for her while she wasnt my wife yet  didnt arise, but sometimes things happen for a reason, sometimes to propel you to something greater.
Like they say every dissapointment is a blessing, some people may not get a better job untill they loose their present job,  so having learnt my lesson, i'm not gonna fall so cheaply, i'm gonna take my time and by God's grace i'll get the best which He has for me.

Ujujoan:

@ Poster

What are you doing crying and feeling sorry for yourself. Just co cos you lost her doesn't mean there's not better person out there for you. We've all been hurt and betrayed by the people we loved but dat doesn't mean you shd give up on love totally.

I'll advice you to relax, take your time to heal. Don't worry about love, it'll find you!

Thanks, i'm taking my time already, i'm just trying to focus on my job and myself for now.