Lets share the best and worst marriage advice you received, heard or gave.

For those married: can you share your best/worst advices you were given or gave

For those unmarried: can you share the best/worst you think you have heard or given to someone/couples





** the use of the word, bad and good is subjective here**

If you eat your flesh in marriage, you should always wait for it to come back and bite you.

^^^ are you sure you have brains----

mama-gee:

If you eat your flesh in marriage, you should always wait for it to come back and bite you.

Lol. how does one eat their flesh in marriage? mamagee abegi explain na

"Your husband is always right" worst advise given me on my wedding day which turns out to be completely a farce! Husband should be treated like a King but not always right

Babe, as if u knew what I had in mind. I was planning to start a similar thread.

I will be married soon. Some of d good ones;

"don't share your family affair with a third party"
"Don't be stingy, make your resources available for your family i.e your husband and kids"

Bad ones that usually come from girlfriends;

"don't let your spouse know your income"
"keep somethings secret from your husband"
"it's not compulsory you make pounded yam for him. If he can't manage poundo yam, buy from the nearest eatery"

Tgirl4real:

Babe, as if u knew what I had in mind. I was planning to start a similar thread.

I will be married soon. Some of d good ones;

awwww . . .darling am very happy for you!!!   congratulation!!!
[size=2pt] when r u sending ma very special invitation?[/size]

Tgirl4real:


"don't share your family affair with a third party"
"Don't be stingy, make your resources available for your family i.e your husband and kids"

most definitely agree with the first one. so very super true! some couples dont know/where to draw the boundary when it comes to keeping some things to themselves and when to invite a third party. the only instance that requires the immediate attention of a third party is when domestic violence is involved IMO.  (2) stinginess in marriage that one recipe for disasters!

  Bad ones that usually come from girlfriends;
"don't let your spouse know your income"
"keep somethings secret from your husband"
"it's not compulsory you make pounded yam for him. If he can't manage poundo yam, buy from the nearest eatery" 

na wa oo for the first two.  last one got me LMAOing

chaircover:

Do not let kids come between you and your husband. The kids will grow up and leave home and you will be left with your husband - Very Good Advise my late aunty gave me.

this one na super fabulous advice!!! has very ink of truthfulness written over it.

Bad advise given to me - No man is trustworthy, so make sure that you dont spend all your money on the home but keep some hidden away from your husband.

chai! LMAO women will not kill me!!! lol

Iranoladun:

"Your husband is always right" worst advise given me on my wedding day which turns out to be completely a farce! Husband should be treated like a King but not always right

ewoo very bad indeed lol. thought it was the wife who was always right

interesting thread

Best: Respect and Communication always.  marriage without them is doomed

Best:  Never take each other for granted and TRY to never let the sun go down on your anger

Funny: When a man acts like a child, it forces his wife to act like his mother - and a man cannot make love to his mother. **you know the rest!**

Best: Endurance. no marriage survives without endurance.

Best:  forget about all those sayings that marriage is a 50/50 thing. marriage requires 100% from the man and 100% from the woman to stay strong   
           and last

Best: don't involve any third party in your marriage and, especially, don't discuss your relationship's issues with friends (or anybody else actually), discuss them with your husband directly.

I can't say how many times this advice has helped us, I have learned to be very secretive about our relationship, and always make sure my husband is the first one to know any of my thoughts or feelings concerning our marriage.

I would also add the same advice when it comes to raising children, two people are in charge of their education: the mom and dad, others should take care of their own business


Another good advice: there are no rules in love that can fit everybody. Make your own rules (with your partner), build your own relationship according to them. Don't follow other people's example (even if their marriage is great), it might not work for you


As for the worst, I already forgot them

Never let the sun go down on your anger

I forgot this one, I definitely agree! I would also say never let your partner leave the house angry, you don't know what can happen outside,

Miss_Ife:

Best: don't involve any third party in your marriage and, especially, don't discuss your relationship's issues with friends (or anybody else actually), discuss them with your husband directly.

I can't say how many times this advice has helped us,  I have learned to be very secretive about our relationship, and always make sure my husband is the first one to know any of my thoughts or feelings concerning our marriage.

I would also add the same advice when it comes to raising children, two people are in charge of their education: the mom and dad, others should take care of their own business


Another good advice: there are no rules in love that can fit everybody. Make your own rules (with your partner), build your own relationship according to them. Don't follow other people's example (even if their marriage is great), it might not work for you

absolutely makes perfect sense!!!

This is the only advice I've gotten 'yet' from my mother.

What you can't take in the night, do not take it in the morning.

Night here means the marriage proper, morning means before the marriage.

Meaning, don't pretend to be what you are not just to get married. If you feel something is not right about the man's views or family or you feel uncomfortable about something, say it and do something about it. Don't ever pretend to like it.

stillwater:

Meaning, don't pretend to be what you are not just to get married. If you feel something is not right about the man's views or family or you feel uncomfortable about something, say it and do something about it. Don't ever pretend to like it.

So true!!!

Never follow a man to fight anyone ie family members. Rather be the peace maker because when things go south; He'll side his family and so be the peace maker.

I like this thread

stillwater:

What you can't take in the night, do not take it in the morning.
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My imagination ran wild until I saw the next line:

stillwater link=topic=401266.msg5561950#msg5561950 date=1266848252:

Night here means the marriage proper, morning means before the marriage.

Please keep em coming I need advices too

chika98:

Never follow a man to fight anyone ie family members. Rather be the peace maker because when things go south; He'll side his family and so be the peace maker.

Most definitely agree !!! Oftentimes, some women think it's normal to fight along with your husband afterall, you're his wife therefore you both are in it together! Being the peacemaker sounds foreign to some women especially when the husband is involved.

chamotex:

I like this thread


LOL u sef

Please keep em coming I need advices too

mama-gee:

If you eat your flesh in marriage, you should always wait for it to come back and bite you.

Hehehehehe

Make una no mind Mama Gee oooooo

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chamotex:

I like this thread


Please keep em coming I need advices too

i wonder how many ppl got what chamo was saying. . .

@chamo
you will not kill me o. . .lmao

ftmom:

Best - Always resolve issues between yourselves without third party interference/intervention

I'm a strong advocate of this, no point inviting other people's opinions and interpretations into your marriage. My position is, you found and decided to marry each other so you should be able to resolve your differences by yourselves

yes oo!!! dirty laundries should be washed and hanged inside the house.

chic2pimp:

Hehehehehe
Make una no mind Mama Gee oooooo

i would have liked her to explain her statement

Something I always hold on to :

Never hesitate to apologise when you are wrong. Sincere apology.

Secondly: be your partners/husbands best friend.

P.s. Am not married. But these are rules I will stick to when I get married.

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Best~ Treat your parents in laws as you would treat your own parents. Do not look at your mother in law as moster in law

Bad ~ Always remind her who wears the pants in the family.

wow! I am loving this thread for us future wifey, lol. I think the best one so far is let ur husband be your best friend. There is nothing like being free and open with each other.

When you are having problems communicating with each other, don't talk to each other to work it out. Silence is the best answer because your spouse doesn't give a flip to what you have to say anyway, so save your energy.

funkybaby:

Something I always hold on to :

Never hesitate to apologise when you are wrong. Sincere apology.

Secondly: be your partners/husbands best friend.

am loving this two!awesome!. the second one is soo true because love DO fade eventually especially when you have been in it for a longtime. so you need that friendship to hold on to and possibly rekindle the love. and yes we need to apologize especially when you know you're wrong but some people are so caught up in their little world that they find it very extremely difficult to let their guard down, swallow their pride and say "i am sorry".

chocomillo:

Best~ Treat your parents in laws as you would treat your own parents. Do not look at your mother in law as moster in law

nice nice nicie! but the first one, you got to admit would be a little hard for some folks to follow because some MIL are just pure devils . very hard to please. leaving many DILs with no choice but to . . . .

Bad ~ Always remind her who wears the pants in the family.

LOL very bad indeed!!!

Temilade£:

When you are having problems communicating with each other, don't talk to each other to work it out. Silence is the best answer because y[b]our spouse doesn't give a flip to what you have to say anyway, so save your energy.[/b]

LOL

Best: from a couple who has been married for over 50 years getting to 60 now and still have a very strong marriage.

Question: what has been keeping you both together for this longest time? whats your secrert?

Answer: "secret? there is no secret my dear. just perseverance, endurance, sacrifice, respect and God. you see the problem with so many todays marriage is that they lack this virtues. you have to preserve in marriage. you must [/b]make sacrifices in marriage. and you must learn to endure. she continued. respect is  a huge part because you cant have two captains at a wheel at the same time. you [b]MUST [/b]learn to respect each other. and you cant forget those three word "i am sorry"

finally, she said the biggest one is GOD. remember there are three people involved in a marriage. God, you and your spouse. if you take God out of the equation, you will have a hard time balancing things out. NEVER forget him. [b]make him the captain of your marriage. you will encounter many storms and waves of the ocean in your marriage, but with God in charge, you
will NEVER be shaken"

best: "dont marry someone because you THINK they are right but marry someone because you KNOW they are right".

worst:
- "beat your wife regularly; even if you don't know why, she will".
- "to keep your wife on the rails, beat her - and if she goes off the rails, beat her."

funny ones
- "they say love is blind, and marriage is an institution. Well, I'm not ready for an institution for the blind just yet."
- "when a man opens the car door for his wife, it's either a new car or a new wife."
- "most women hope men will change after marriage but they don't; men hope women won't change but they do."
-"a lucky husband is a man who can find a wife that spends less than he earns, a lucky wife is one that can find such husband."
- "i never knew what real happiness was until I got married, and by then it was too late."