Apologies that are criticisms in disguise should not be made. Examples:

“I’m sorry that you feel that way.” (The blame is being put on the other person.)“I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings.” (And if I didn’t hurt your feelings, then what I said is OK? Again, blame is being transferred.)“I’m sorry if you took that the wrong way.” (Again, the blame is being put on the other person.)“I’m sorry if that offended you.”

Apologies, in general, should not be conditional (containing the word “if”). Proper apologies sound like this:

“I apologize for what I said.”“I apologize for what I implied.”“I didn’t mean what I said, and I apologize for saying it.”“I was wrong in saying that, and I apologize.”