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Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Ogashub(m): 11:09pm On Aug 28, 2017
Note this post is not meant to ridicule the Islamic religion or insult Muslims but to have clear explanations and education on why they allow child marriages

I shared my blog post on almost 15 Facebook groups were i always share links and spark up conversations related to the link I shared and I have also shared same link and Post on nairaland

http://ogashub.com.ng/once-shes-been-penetrated-shell-no-longer-be-a-girl-northern-man-who-married-a-very-young-girl-says/

The post is about a northern man who married a 12 years old girl and he said ( once she has been penetrated she will no longer be a small girl) the same group I usually share links that sparks conversations insults and deliberations on bad government went mute when I shared this link today and 85% of the members of this groups are Muslims so my question is why are they always shying away from addressing the issue and giving a concrete reason for the act?

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by chibike69: 11:19pm On Aug 28, 2017
Na pedophiles dem be nah

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by babtoundey(m): 12:00am On Aug 29, 2017
I guest they grace your post with silence because of the way you present your point. Attributing child marriage to Islam(muslim) is a kin to attributing terrorism to Islam. Islam has a religion has nothing to do with child marriage. Though there is no specified age for a woman to marry but consideration is given to the Maturity if the said lady. It now depends on how you interpret maturity. From my own perspective, it seems emphasis, in most culture, is given to physical maturity (rapid body development) which does not translate to intellectual maturity.

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by guy1234: 1:29am On Aug 29, 2017
babtoundey:
I guest they grace your post with silence because of the way you present your point. Attributing child marriage to Islam(muslim) is a kin to attributing terrorism to Islam. Islam has a religion has nothing to do with child marriage. Though there is no specified age for a woman to marry but consideration is given to the Maturity if the said lady. It now depends on how you interpret maturity. From my own perspective, it seems emphasis, in most culture, is given to physical maturity (rapid body development) which does not translate to intellectual maturity.



So if a 10 year old girl is smart, well behaved, obedient and all, goes to mosque as at when due and doesn't give anyone problems, she's mature for marriage?

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Ogashub(m): 7:58am On Aug 29, 2017
guy1234:



So if a 10 year old girl is smart, well behaved, obedient and all, goes to mosque as at when due and doesn't give anyone problems, she's mature for marriage?

Watch how he will avoid this question

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Quality20(m): 9:09am On Aug 29, 2017
Well those who mostly practice teenage/ child marriage In Nigeria are mostly hausas, though I'm not hausa but having spent a long time in d north I believe I can give some reasons
first and foremost there is a very high tendency for a girl in her early teens to get defiled and corrupted if she or her parents do not have any future education plans, so to forestall that since she isn't gonna be doing any meaningful schooling its better she is married off, than watch her become a neighborhood fuckaholic, and mind u, premarital pregnancy is something no family up north will ever tolerate cos it will give d family a bad and black name, so u may see abortions up north but hardly can u see an illegitimate child.
Another important reason is because most men up north like to marry their wives as virgins and it's quite easy to find virgins among the younger girls as against older ladies, in fact In a typical hausa society you can hardly find a lady who is 25 yrs and above who has never married, except of course if she is reading courses like medicine
Still another reason is bcoz of the need to have a good and stable family, the younger a lady the more easier it is to groom her and she gonna respect and cherish the man more as against older more experienced women who know various ways of dealing with the huaband
Also in Islam women are generally not expected to work and earn a living, but she may if there is need . So if she isn't expected to work or her parents don't want to sponsor her further, why should she not be married off at an early age before her sexual urge and instincts will prompt her to immoral unions?
So all in all it is to maintain morality and prevent indecency, let a girl grow up knowing that sex is only done under the cover of marriage and not for a girl to get married later in life after haven slept with so many men in her younger years premaritally - such women may not find satisfaction in marriage and can easily resort to adultery

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Greene66: 9:43am On Aug 29, 2017
Ogashub:


Watch how he will avoid this question

Lol

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by tosyne2much(m): 9:44am On Aug 29, 2017
babtoundey:
I guest they grace your post with silence because of the way you present your point. Attributing child marriage to Islam(muslim) is a kin to attributing terrorism to Islam. Islam has a religion has nothing to do with child marriage. Though there is no specified age for a woman to marry but consideration is given to the Maturity if the said lady. It now depends on how you interpret maturity. From my own perspective, it seems emphasis, in most culture, is given to physical maturity (rapid body development) which does not translate to intellectual maturity.

So who should we attribute terrorism to? Christians?

My brother every sane person knows that those who are terrorizing this country and the world at large are practicing Islam. E.g Fulani herdsmen, Boko Haram, Osama Bin Laden, Saddam Hussain, etc

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Victornezzar: 9:48am On Aug 29, 2017
The world would av been a better place without the religion of piss

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Ogashub(m): 9:50am On Aug 29, 2017
Quality20:
Well those who mostly practice teenage/ child marriage In Nigeria are mostly hausas, though I'm not hausa but having spent a long time in d north I believe I can give some reasons
first and foremost there is a very high tendency for a girl in her early teens to get defiled and corrupted if she or her parents do not have any future education plans, so to forestall that since she isn't gonna be doing any meaningful schooling its better she is married off, than watch her become a neighborhood fuckaholic, and mind u, premarital pregnancy is something no family up north will ever tolerate cos it will give d family a bad and black name, so u may see abortions up north but hardly can u see an illegitimate child.
Another important reason is because most men up north like to marry their wives as virgins and it's quite easy to find virgins among the younger girls as against older ladies, in fact In a typical hausa society you can hardly find a lady who is 25 yrs and above who has never married, except of course if she is reading courses like medicine
Still another reason is bcoz of the need to have a good and stable family, the younger a lady the more easier it is to groom her and she gonna respect and cherish the man more as against older more experienced women who know various ways of dealing with the huaband
Also in Islam women are generally not expected to work and earn a living, but she may if there is need . So if she isn't expected to work or her parents don't want to sponsor her further, why should she not be married off at an early age before her sexual urge and instincts will prompt her to immoral unions?
So all in all it is to maintain morality and prevent indecency, let a girl grow up knowing that sex is only done under the cover of marriage and not for a girl to get married later in life after haven slept with so many men in her younger years premaritally - such women may not find satisfaction in marriage and can easily resort to adultery

I'm still not well enlightened

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by tosyne2much(m): 9:54am On Aug 29, 2017
I don't think you can ever find a suitable answer to your question

The truth is that, Islam is very misleading that the followers are naturally aggressive and arrogant, they are quick to anger and have zero tolerance level. They can commit murder in the guise of protecting the image of their Mohammed.

However, their Quran encourages misogyny, womanizing and pedophilia. And this is very evident in the life of their hero, Mohammed. He married multiple wives (both adult and children) and encourages others to do so provided they have the capability, so what do you expect from the followers nah? .

This is not blasphemy or anything, I'm only speaking the undiluted truth which most of them will find offensive

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Next2Bezee(m): 9:58am On Aug 29, 2017
It is for the same reason they would try to distance their religion from those that they feel ashamed about, instead of admitting that there indeed are a few bad apples among their bunch.

http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/america-tonight-blog/2013/12/20/meet-america-s-firstopenlygayimam.html

I brought this link to a few muslim friends. This is an imam who has co-ordinated many mosque prayers and events. Even heralded as an islamic scholar, but the moment he announces to the world that he is gay, muslims denied him openly. They said he wasn't islam and was a Christian planted to smear the islamic name.

That's their general response to anything related to their religion. They will either try to justify the action, deny that the culprit was ever muslim or just go to their backup plan and blame it on Christianity.

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Nobody: 10:02am On Aug 29, 2017
tosyne2much:
I don't think you can ever find a suitable answer to your question

The truth is that, Islam is very misleading that the followers are naturally aggressive and arrogant, they are quick to anger and have zero tolerance level. They can commit murder in the guise of protecting the image of their Mohammed.

However, their Quran encourages misogyny, womanizing and pedophilia. And this is very evident in the life of their hero, Mohammed. He married multiple wives both adult and children and encourages other to do so provided they have the capability, so what do you expect from the followers nah? .

This is not blasphemy or anything, I'm only speaking the undiluted truth which most of them will find offensive

Am a Muslim and i don't support Girl-Child marriage. In fact Boy-child marriage marriage self is a NO-NO!

Both the two gender must be psychologically, physically and financially mature enough before they settled in

But everyone can't have the same mentality and that is why you shouldn't judge ALL cos of SOME

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by tosyne2much(m): 10:10am On Aug 29, 2017
Next2Bezee:
It is for the same reason they would try to distance their religion from those that they feel ashamed about, instead of admitting that there indeed are a few bad apples among their bunch.

http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/america-tonight-blog/2013/12/20/meet-america-s-firstopenlygayimam.html

I brought this link to a few muslim friends. This is an imam who has co-ordinated many mosque prayers and events. Even heralded as an islamic scholar, but the moment he announces to the world that he is gay, muslims denied him openly. They said he wasn't islam and was a Christian planted to smear the islamic name.

That's their general response to anything related to their religion. They will either try to justify the action, deny that the culprit was ever Muslim or just go to their backup plan and blame it on Christianity.
It amazes me that most of them often say that Boko Haram are not Muslims.

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by MrCork: 10:16am On Aug 29, 2017
Ogashub:
Note this post is not meant to ridicule the Islamic religion or insult Muslims but to have clear explanations and education on why they allow child marriages

I shared my blog post on almost 15 Facebook groups were i always share links and spark up conversations related to the link I shared and I have also shared same link and Post on nairaland

http://ogashub.com.ng/once-shes-been-penetrated-shell-no-longer-be-a-girl-northern-man-who-married-a-very-young-girl-says/

The post is about a northern man who married a 12 years old girl and he said ( once she has been penetrated she will no longer be a small girl) the same group I usually share links that sparks conversations insults and deliberations on bad government went mute when I shared this link today and 85% of the members of this groups are Muslims so my question is why are they always shying away from addressing the issue and giving a concrete reason for the act?



...I all ways tell people to stay far far far far far far far far far far far far far away Muslims becozzzz that religion is dangerous...very dangerous.
All they say is alawakubag ((freedom of speech n expresion))...no oofeense!!
angry

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Next2Bezee(m): 11:42am On Aug 29, 2017
tosyne2much:
It amazes me that most of them often say that Boko Haram are not Muslims.

True, I've heard some say Boko Haram are actually christians who studied the Quran to ridicule islam and put it in a bad light sad

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Nobody: 11:48am On Aug 29, 2017
babtoundey:
I guest they grace your post with silence because of the way you present your point. Attributing child marriage to Islam(muslim) is a kin to attributing terrorism to Islam. Islam has a religion has nothing to do with child marriage. Though there is no specified age for a woman to marry but consideration is given to the Maturity if the said lady. It now depends on how you interpret maturity. From my own perspective, it seems emphasis, in most culture, is given to physical maturity (rapid body development) which does not translate to intellectual maturity.

True, there's no specified age for a woman to marry but there's difference between a woman and a girl child.

Would you as a person say a 6 or 12yrs old girl is matured even if she's the type with rapid body growth?.

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by tosyne2much(m): 11:53am On Aug 29, 2017
Next2Bezee:


True, I've heard some say Boko Haram are actually christians who studied the Quran to ridicule islam and put it in a bad light sad
Can you imagine? cheesy

So, Boko Haram are Christians disguising as Muslims just to spite Muslims? cheesy

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Ogashub(m): 11:58am On Aug 29, 2017
tosyne2much:
Can you imagine? cheesy

So, Boko Haram are Christians disguising as Muslims just to spite Muslims? cheesy
.
grin ;Dmaybe they are new Christians that we are yet to know of

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by MyNewJackeT: 2:08pm On Aug 29, 2017
even in Saudi Arabia they don't do child marriage but you can be betrothed to marry when you're matured, I'm not saying they didn't practice it before, I'm saying Nigeria is a little bit backward on the marriage issue, but not bad if you want to marry a virgin Sha, I love virgins too, and I think I will be marrying up north.
Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Brooke60(f): 4:03pm On Aug 30, 2017
MrCork:




...I all ways tell people to stay far far far far far far far far far far far far far away Muslims becozzzz that religion is dangerous...very dangerous.
All they say is alawakubag ((freedom of speech n expresion))...no oofeense!!
angry
you are a Londoner according to you but you know alawakubag

You must be madddddddd
Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Cuteamigo1(m): 4:43pm On Aug 30, 2017
i will do my best to answer you op, the only reason why this issue is comming up is because of a clash in islamic law and and the constitution or law of the land. belive you me when i say their will never be an answer that will be satisfactory to you because we are both looking at the situation from different angles and perspectives. am not running away from your question but take into consideration that religion both islam and christianity outrightly condem homosexuality but state laws allows and promote it, now tell me do you think people opinions from the opposing groups will ever agree on this issue? i think the answer is NO because everyone has a reason for supporting on thing or the other. back to your question i think its simply because it is allowed and no age was set for a girl or even a boy to attain b4 marriage but i do agree it must be regulated or else people will take undue advantage of it. thier is alot i would have said but my phone has a tiny keyboard and the typing xperience is horrible so i will stop here but if you need further clarification am sure someone i will try my best to respond. and oh b4 i forget, early marriage is a matter of choice and just so you know i dont support it and i wont condone it.
Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Cuteamigo1(m): 4:56pm On Aug 30, 2017
guy1234:



So if a 10 year old girl is smart, well behaved, obedient and all, goes to mosque as at when due and doesn't give anyone problems, she's mature for marriage?
well technically yes but islam allows for many of its laws to be reviwed given the changes is generations and way of life of people. look at it this way, turkey a muslim dominated country has a state law that strictly say women must achive age of about 16 to 18 ( am not sure which one) before they are aloowed to marry and when this law is broken, the man is arrested and jailed. this is simply because medical advancement has shown that women are likely to be damaged seriously both physically and mentally when they marry at a young age. an exanple is this VVF a thing which brings harm to women and just by looking at this you can regulate the issue of marrying at a young age for muslims because it can be physically harmfull to the woman.
Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by MrCork: 5:03pm On Aug 30, 2017
Brooke60:
you are a Londoner according to you but you know alawakubag

You must be madddddddd


^^Muslim...calm down son..life is not all ways about viooolense n revenge...calm down son!!
(No oofeense)
undecided

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Brooke60(f): 5:41pm On Aug 30, 2017
MrCork:



^^Muslim...calm down son..life is not all ways about viooolense n revenge...calm down son!!
(No oofeense)
undecided
mumu, I'm not a son undecided
A daughter
Your enemy
I'm back wink

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by MrCork: 6:26pm On Aug 30, 2017
Brooke60:
mumu, I'm not a son undecided
A daughter
Your enemy
I'm back wink



calm down Muslim...not every tin is about alawakunbat and violence!! undecided

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Sunnystooth(m): 6:53pm On Aug 30, 2017
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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Sunnystooth(m): 6:54pm On Aug 30, 2017
MrCork:




calm down Muslim...not every tin is about alawakunbat and violence!! undecided
Lolz,
MrCork got the spelling of violence correctly for the first time, because just replying to a Muslim on nairaland can be very dangerous and life threatening.

grin

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by ib0221: 7:50pm On Aug 30, 2017
@op n the rest, one your question is structured in a way that smells bigotry and arrogance and it is based on bad premise that will qualify it as hasty generalisation. Two, marrying someone at young age is even wide spread in some areas in US that has nothing to do with Islam (pls google child marriage case in US). 3, Islam, to my knowledge, does not stipulate age for marriage. It only states signs for puberty and age for not being a child anymore. what you see and semanticised is basicaly preference and culture.
Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Basic123: 9:00pm On Aug 30, 2017
guy1234:



So if a 10 year old girl is smart, well behaved, obedient and all, goes to mosque as at when due and doesn't give anyone problems, she's mature for marriage?
yes.
instead of being like Aba children

Girls in Aba start sex at age 10 , research shows
ON October 27, 2016 7:02 PM / IN News / BY
Okogba / Comments
A medical practitioner, Dr Godwin Uwaoma, said on
Monday that girls in Aba, Abia engage in active
sexual activities from the age of 10, raising higher
chances of contracting HIV.
Uwaoma, the Chairman of the Thematic Working
Group at the Nigerian Faith Based Advisory Council
for AIDS (NFACA), told the News Agency of Nigeria
(NAN) in Aba that a 2014 research revealed the
development.


He said that the study was conducted to find out the
awareness of preventive measures among youths in
the secondary schools for the Department of Public
Health at the Imo State University.


“We discovered that some girls in Aba start sexual
activities at the age 10 to 12 and that at the age of
12, girls in Aba have “regular boyfriends” with whom
they agree to have sex regularly.


“This was not known before. Usually HIV prevention
was targeted at age 15 upward but we now know that
before 15 they have become sexually active.
“And there is a lot of difference between when you
are forced into it and you remove yourself thereafter
and when at this age you now have a regular partner.
“That was what we discovered and it is not normal
but an aberration but obviously the fact is there,” he
said.


At a lecture organised by the Aba chapter of the
Nigerian Medical Association (NMA) to mark their
week, Uwaoma called for prevention rather than cure
which was unavailable for HIV cases.
He urged the students to desist from watching
pornographic films, playing sexual games with
opposite sex and keeping bad friends to save them
from sexual temptations.


In another lecture titled “Sex and Puberty,” Dr
Kenneth Ngwogu, a lecturer at the Abia State
University, said that puberty brought changes in
character and body composition to young people.
Noting that most youths ruined their lives through
dangerous actions like early sex, Ngwogu urged them
to consult doctors or adults to manage the
challenges of puberty.


He charged the youth to desist from sexual activities
which could refocus their attention while in school to
reach their goals of becoming successful people.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/10/girls-aba-start-sex-age-10-research-shows/

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Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Basic123: 9:02pm On Aug 30, 2017
Ogashub:

Watch how he will avoid this question
It really shows that you are not mocking the religion!
Re: Why Do Muslims Always Dodge Giving Explanations To Child Marriages by Akinbahm(m): 11:48pm On Aug 30, 2017
Next2Bezee:
It is for the same reason they would try to distance their religion from those that they feel ashamed about, instead of admitting that there indeed are a few bad apples among their bunch.

http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/america-tonight-blog/2013/12/20/meet-america-s-firstopenlygayimam.html

I brought this link to a few muslim friends. This is an imam who has co-ordinated many mosque prayers and events. Even heralded as an islamic scholar, but the moment he announces to the world that he is gay, muslims denied him openly. They said he wasn't islam and was a Christian planted to smear the islamic name.

That's their general response to anything related to their religion. They will either try to justify the action, deny that the culprit was ever muslim or just go to their backup plan and blame it on Christianity.
Islam is quite different from Muslim pls try and comprehend their meaning respectively, I'll have try to explain them here but am feeling sleepy due to my day that was hectic. I rest my case till tomorrow...

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