Dear Nairalanders,i am been emotionally worried over my girl.My girl who started her I.T in january this year at the one of the oldest bank in Naija located at owerri,imo state capital .She is a personal secr. to the bank manager,who is a married man.My girl always tells me that this man always disturbs her sexually from the first day she started working but doesn't dance to his tune to the extent that he calls her sweet heart and instructed her not to answer him back with SIR whenever he calls her.She rightly told me that he has been asking her out always but she never agrees to it.She told me she will never date a married man that she loves me and will never hurt me.But One faithful day she came to my place,surprisely i collected her phone and checked her messages both the one she sent but couldn't believed what i saw.Firstly,she wrote to the man that she is emotionally been violently on how other girls from outside the bank premises are coming to see him that she doesn't like it then the bank manager replied and said swthrt,pls dnt be so harsh to my visitors,that those girls thought that i has money as a bank manager that whenever you want me to take you out i will.She wrote back and said whenever you want us to go out that the wish is his and it wil be ok by her.When i read the whole text i showed her immediately she deleted it all and said that she doesn't have anything with him and will not date his manager,that she knows what she is doing that i should always put her in my prayers.I believe there is others things happening in that office which i don't know.The worst part of these all,is that i love this girl so much.She always cries for me whenever am asking her questions,that i use to accuse her and don't trust her.Pls,advice me on what to do,is she telling me the truth?.Is this kind of girl good for me?.After seen all the text that she sent and the ones the banker manager sent her,she still tells me there is nothing going on between them.What will I do?.Stanfordx.

Guy, investigate properly and try to get her red handed.Then, quit the relationship.but you wouldnt have allowed her to know that you have seen the text messages initially. so that, you can track her down anytime.

How do i track her down since am nt with her in owerri?.Am serving in Anamra state as a corper.

u are hooked with a pro.

she knows wat she is doin wit d man, n she gets jealous wen oda gals visit him, ur gals is playing games wit u

U are obsessed wiv a Beautiful liar.

nganihu:

she knows wat she is doin wit d man, n she gets jealous wen oda gals visit him, your gals is playing games wit u

what wl i do?

Most Of them cry when they lie in order to convince you, just try to withdraw from the relationship emotionally, if the bank manager is not married she would have dumped you a long time ago for him, she knows what she is doing like she said, just try your luck elsewhere she is not worth it.

Most Of them cry when they lie in order to convince you, just try to withdraw from the relationship emotionally, if the bank manager is not married she would have dumped you a long time ago for him, she knows what she is doing like she said, just try your luck elsewhere she is not worth it.

you caught her with incriminating texts and she's asking u to keep her in your prayers? That heifer is funny.

Guy try begin forget about her, she is playing smart cos she knws u luv her. be careful with her, she has fallen for the mans money but needs u 4 husband, so she will always want u around, just try other ladies , i knw it wil nt b easy, but the sooner the better 4 u, life goes on.ADMIT IT, u dont trust her anymore and your love for her is now unstable. dont keep a relationship u cant trust ur partner cos it is the foundation of every relationship not love. Take kia

Stanford, sorry to say this, but ur girlfriend is playing you like an ukulele, unfortunately, when u had the chance to nail her, you blew it! the advice i would give you is that you should start preparing urself for a broken heart. It hurts, i know, but better to be prepared, than it meeting you out of the blue.

see mugu you caught her with the evidence you need then she took the phone and deleted it and told you to keep praying for her and then you come on NL asking how to catch her and what you should do.


Damn that saying is true: A sucker is born every 30 seconds

ur babe don turn OKPO ooh

shes a hussler~

Its obvious that your girl is going out with her manager because he has every thing it takes to convince her to date him. He might have promise her so many thing which you cant do now and as a girl now she wont even have to rethink or even tell her that he wil secure a job for her immediately when she graduate. She nor get choic afterall u never de work so?

****walks in, shakes his head and mutters under his breath "All ye men of no control, when will ye learn?"****

The bank manager has artificial control and he is using it to play your woman like cybersleek's ukelele. A corps member dating another corp member is a recipe for disaster, who wants to bail who out, especially when its the sort of chick that doesn't come from a well-to-do home and is looking for money. All that one wey she dey talk na story, oga bank manager is screwing your woman five ways from Sunday and she wants to eat her cake and have it, she's crying and you're playing Oprah, are you trying to catch something like a bad STD or worse ?I'm sure you love her and screw without protection.  It's not your fault, you have no control.

Forget love, except you want to manage her like that and become a  bigger mugu. There are no two ways about controlling a woman, you either do it or suffer for not doing the control thing, this is my advice, if you like listen, if you like ignore it and listen to the fellow mugus and women who will throng this thread shortly looking for something silly to say.

This is what I implore ye to do in order to free thine self from bondage:

Invite her over, take whatever it is you have to take and screw her like a p0rn star. Give her the greatest f-uck of her life and then throw her out.  Nuff said.

you are a youth corper and you are dating someone working at a bank in another city - IN NIGERIA!

Shine your eyes and find your level.

The girl wants to eat her cake and have it - and you are a willing partner.

@Topic. My brother, since u hav discovered such things in her cellphone.(if ur evidences are true.) Call her & talk her out about the matter. Let her know the truth about the way u feel about the situation. As u're doing this, make sure that u're lookin into her eyes very well so as to prove to her that u meant every word u're saying. Try to let her know that whatever is her problem that u're willing to sort it out if only she can be truthful to u. But if she continues in her ways (in the events of all these pls I'ill advise u to be more investigative so as to prove ur evidences real) then u will be left with two options: Either u continue staying with her & bear with the consequences or u leave her for good. Period! I'm sorry, dude but that's the only way out of that. It's up to u to decide what's best for u. Goodluck.

Long distance relantionships hardly work so quit cryin over spilled milk.if u are very sure she is cheating on u,drop her like a used cd d manager has bar nd u are just a cooper,she has free money al she has 2 do is open her legs my advice 2 u is dat u find anoder gurl nd dnt always put al ur heart into a relantionship so incase there is phuck up u wil nt be crying in nl

Who Cares. . .
Go seek real help elsewhere instead of a discussion forum.

and what sort of real help would that be? police? pastor? Babalawo??

@ poster,the bank manager don dey chop ur moi-moi.you beta do wat tai2 has said.call her to your house,give her a good screw and let her go.or else ud be heartbroken at end of the day

i laugh in chinese.

@all,i realy welcome ur suggestions.Since she can fall for a married man emotionaly violent barely one month she startd workin wit him,what about oda single men in the same bank.Should i confront the bank manager because i once told her that she should gve me his no.bt she refused and said tat she stl doesn't hav anytin with him.Is it wise for me to confront him or cal him on phone to leave my girl only?

@all,i realy welcome ur suggestions.Since she can fall for a married man emotionaly violent barely one month she startd workin wit him,what about oda single men in the same bank.Should i confront the bank manager because i once told her that she should gve me his no.bt she refused and said tat she stl doesn't hav anytin with him.Is it wise for me to confront him or cal  him on phone to leave my girl only?  

Kgdavid:

and what sort of real help would that be? police? pastor? Babalawo??pls help me ask her.

waleski:

Long distance relantionships hardly work so quit cryin over spilled milk.if u are very sure she is cheating on u,drop her like a used cd d manager has bar nd u are just a cooper,she has free money al she has 2 do is open her legs my advice 2 u is dat u find anoder gurl nd dnt always put al your heart into a relantionship so incase there is phuck up u wil nt be crying in nl

u ar rite distance r/ship doesnt work perfectly.

Stanfordx:

@all,i realy welcome your suggestions.Since she can fall for a married man emotionaly violent barely one month she startd workin wit him,what about oda single men in the same bank.Should i confront the bank manager because i once told her that she should gve me his no.bt she refused and said tat she stl doesn't hav anytin with him.Is it wise for me to confront him or cal  him on phone to leave my girl only?   u ar rite distance r/ship doesnt work perfectly.

forget bank md , leave the lady, urless u still need more pain, u will only make things worse inthat she will never tell u anything  about her  secret love life anymore, meaning she will play more and be more careful. LEAVE HER, belive u me , she will b careful with d messages in her fone and d comments she makes to u. life is funny ,painful but sweet, turn ur sadness to happiness ,it will only take time, d sooner the better.

@stanfordx- u be AUTHENTIC MUMU!!!!

Interesting story and contributions. Am enjoying this thread. I cant remember going through a topic intresting like this here. Hmm

The Bank Manager has snatched your Girl Friend at this point she's no longer ur Girl friend ,

ohisng:

@stanfordx- u be AUTHENTIC MUMU!!!!

Dude, watch ur tongue.Lets act civilized 4once,dis forum is A place wher sensitive matters ar been discussed/delibrated.U hv to learn western culture to be serious wit ur life.I only needd ur advice as a fellow man because such can happen 2any man u knw.

She asked you to include her in your prayers lol what has prayer got to do with this issue? the fact that she is jealous of other girls coming to see her boss confirmed that she is already dating him, bros you better shine your eyes!

But some ppl are bad sha snatching other ppl girlfriend just because they have money. Na wa o but God dey sha