My brother is autistic
My mother died recently after suffering and dying of Cancer
My family is not close how I want it to be
I'm 24 whilst my mates are doing masters I am doing a course that is designed for 16-19 year olds, I have no degree or qualification past secondary school
Very insecure about my appearance and life
Jobless
Poor (on government welfare)
Had issues with emotional and mental health all my life and more

When I left school people thought I would be a big ahog as I was so hard working and determined but then my life went downhill from there.

Where has God got me? I'm a virgin age 24 yet my mum will never see my kids whilst my friend is 24 had a baby out of wedlock living with boyfriend their mother is alive and healthy. My bullies bullied me to the point of me being depressed in school, yet they are all succeeding etc and my life is a mess.

Help me, don't tell me about God because he isn't real I have realised that, I used to be such a strong christian but my life has crashed before my eyes.

Are you a Nigerian and reside in Nigeria?

I've been down this road before, just not this deep

Yes Nigerian been to Nigeria many times but live in the uk, I feel like killing myself because I am yet to see someone with a life worse than mine very few people

You just gat be hopeful that things will turn around one day or else you might end up doing something stupid...

Why are you comparing yourself to your friend and judging her? People like you really disgust me. Why not face your life and be positive? What concerns you with your friends personal life and who made you a judge? This is why you are not happy because you are envious of a friend. Try to focus on your own life and you will become happier.

Take it easy bro ... It ain't that bad. Our perception of a problem is very much worse than the actual problem. I lived in the UK for some years and it could get lonely and quickly go downhill from there but you can do something about it. Change your diet, eat less carbs and more vegetables, exercise and try meditation. Trust me, your life is way better than many folks down here in Nigeria ... When next you come visit you could take a trip and lend helping hands to some poor people living in squalor here. You'd be surprised what a quid would do for some people and observe how happy they seem to be even in deprivation. It might do a great deal to your perspective about your actual living condition and probably realise that you are likely being too hard on yourself.

Another thing, quit the 'my mates are ...' talk it does no good to you. Everyone has a different/unique reality defined by many factors. 24 is still very young and you've got so much life ahead, you just need to start working on things to live for. Try to get laid too A change of environment might help a great deal.

About your family not being as close as you would like, forget about it ... focus on the now, not what could've been or should be.

Good luck! just know that it is your battle to overcome so embrace it and work for the better.

Steady on dear girl....

Carry on as you are now. And just take it one day at a time. Only worry about today. Tomorrow is not even promised to any of us.

God will grant you the strength for day to day.

Take heart. Your time is coming. And, the last shall be the first. Never mind what/how others are doing. Just focus on your own journey.

I wish and pray for favor of God and blessings to come your way in the coming season of your life.

Sweetheart, take it easy...try to find your inner peace. It will end well.

OPERATION PYTHON DANCE 2

You're only robbing yourself of your own joy by comparing your life with others'. I'm sorry about your mom's passing. Stay strong.

My brother is autistic
My mother died recently after suffering and dying of Cancer
My family is not close how I want it to be
I'm 24 whilst my mates are doing masters I am doing a course that is designed for 16-19 year olds, I have no degree or qualification past secondary school
Very insecure about my appearance and life
Jobless
Poor (on government welfare)
Had issues with emotional and mental health all my life and more

When I left school people thought I would be a big ahog as I was so hard working and determined but then my life went downhill from there.

Where has God got me? I'm a virgin age 24 yet my mum will never see my kids whilst my friend is 24 had a baby out of wedlock living with boyfriend their mother is alive and healthy. My bullies bullied me to the point of me being depressed in school, yet they are all succeeding etc and my life is a mess.

Help me, don't tell me about God because he isn't real I have realised that, I used to be such a strong christian but my life has crashed before my eyes.

You think you have an awful life? Wait until you hear other poeple's problems. If everyone is given an opportunity to present their life stories or cases I think you will go home thanking God for what you've got and for your life. I have seen cases more ten times worst than yours and they are hopeful in their situations and you are here complaining.

Stop the comparison! That's a "dangerous trap" you've walked into:comparing yourself to others.Truth is,when you look outside,you'll always find someone who is doing well better than you.You will also see someone who you are better than.But for how long will you keep looking out there?
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You are 24,your mates are doing their masters,your friend has a baby out of wedlock,People thought this,people thought that.Stop focusing on all these.Are they your yardstick for who you want to be? Is masters a guarantee for a happy and successful life? Do you wanna have a baby out of wedlock?Is that your dream? Pls,stop the comparison.You are not the only 24 years old with ssce or virgin.Stop looking at what people think. Start looking within yourself.Focus on your life and your dreams.The answers lieth not outside but inside you.
Be positive minded and optimistic. A positive mind will let you do everything that a negative mind won't let you do.
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At 24,your life is not over and the world has not moved passed you.Cheer up dear.Everyone has a story.Don't drown your life with such thoughts.Always see each day as an opportunity to become who you wanna be.Life is one step at a time.You'll get there.
And if you really wanna compare,compare your yesterday to your today.
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P.S. God has not left you.Look up to Him.

It's a shame you deactivated and I hope you get to read this somehow!

Here's a big hug! That's a whole lot youre dealing with all at the same time

Good thing is for every thing that looks bleak around you there's something to be thankful for - your good health is one many people are craving for, you've managed to retain your purity till now, I tell you many non-virgins wish they had been able to keep theirs!

How about focusing on the positives for now? Leave the issues to resolve themselves or at least pace yourself while working towards a solution!

Sometimes too we go
Through challenges in life just to build us to be ready to meet our destiny! This experience will be useful in the future! Also like the poster above me said, you're only 24 and your life has only just begun!

Weather this storm you'd come out victorious and I tell you things will get better!

Hang in there and do come back here if you can, they're many people who are willing and able to encourage you through this storm

Hey your life, your life everything is about yourself, your mom, your sibling is autistic. what a selfish life you are living. Please stop living for yourself a life lived for self is lonely and lead toward depression and finally sucide.

You also said God brought this on you and nobody should tell you about him. Okay there is a vaccum in everyman that need to be fill some fill it with drug and get destroyed other fill it with perversion but it is eternal spirit of almighty that can fill that void.

Having said that stop living for self go out to motherless home to assist volunteer in greater course. So love to less prieveledge, visit hospital, prison and mental home do blood donation. I by the time you do all these you get better

GOD, will see you through no matter what. just let HIM in to your life.