I have been dating this girl for four years now,but am so shocked about her parents reactions to our relationship. They used the excuse of saying that she is from kogi and I am from cross river that the marriage can't work because my state is very far from her's saying that if quarrel ensue it will be difficult to settle but if it was from the same state it will be very easy.nairalanders we both love ourselves very well which the parents are aware of,but they said they have a family friend that she must get married to.this is someone she is not familiar to the way we are.please I really need your advice on what to do,am very confuse and emotionally disturbed thanks...

It's painful, but move on.

Not all battles should be fought.
Some are won by letting go.




(I have observed one thing in life as i go on, when you are not financially muscles, or secure lucrative job, excuses comes up why they don't want you to marry their daughter.

But if u are wealthy, everyone is blinded. They will not remember if you are north or south, born again or sinner, white or black, short or tall.)

Money is universal language indeed.

move on...there are many fishes in the ocean

Arranged marriage is always funny to me

Guy I know its hard u av to let go and the only person that can end the planned marriage is your girl If she says no and act on the no they will leave her speaking from experience

And I hope u won't leave her later after she fights away this arranged marriage

MAYBE YOU WEREN'T SERIOUS ABOUT HER AND THEN SOMEONE MORE SERIOUS THAN YOU CAME ALONG.

mafofo:
I have been dating this girl for four years now,but am so shocked about her parents reactions to our relationship. They used the excuse of saying that she is from kogi and I am from cross river that the marriage can't work because my state is very far from her's saying that if quarrel ensue it will be difficult to settle but if it was from the same state it will be very easy.nairalanders we both love ourselves very well which the parents are aware of,but they said they have a family friend that she must get married to.this is someone she is not familiar to the way we are.please I really need your advice on what to do,am very confuse and emotionally disturbed thanks...

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She four years old?? Lol dont sweat it. Matters of the heart is not by human strength

... if quarrel ensue it will be difficult to settle but if it was from the same state it will be very easy...

First red flag.
There is nothing I hate more than a snitch.
And you know what they say about people like that- snitches get stitches.
Normally, I'd say this is one of those that slipped through the net and you should fight harder not to lose her but honestly I think you dodged a bullet in this one. Count your blessings and move on.

Sorry about your investment on her, you have been rejected and the her family chose not to be blunt to you.

You obviously were not serious enough for their daughter.

U are lucky u didn't find out via a wedding invitation card.. D family has told u where dey stand and it's up to her to decide to go against dem which is very unlikely..

Hmmm
If she loves u..she will say no to that
Bt Bro, just move on
Sh*t happens in life

sorry about her

Bro . Walk away

ediama:
It's painful, but move on.

Not all battles should be fought.
Some are won by letting go.




(I have observed one thing in life as i go on, when you are not financially muscles, or secure lucrative job, excuses comes up why they don't want you to marry their daughter.

But if u are wealthy, everyone is blinded. They will not remember if you are north or south, born again or sinner, white or black, short or tall.)

Money is universal language indeed.

thanks bro,God bless...

selflessposhheart:
Arranged marriage is always funny to me

Guy I know its hard u av to let go and the only person that can end the planned marriage is your girl If she says no and act on the no they will leave her speaking from experience

And I hope u won't leave her later after she fights away this arranged marriage

my dear she's trying to,but the Dad says the next time that he hears that she visits me,she will throw her stuffs out of the house.

GloriaNinja:
MAYBE YOU WEREN'T SERIOUS ABOUT HER AND THEN SOMEONE MORE SERIOUS THAN YOU CAME ALONG.

my dear we were dating even before the both family got to know themselves.

oga count your loss and move on..there are many fishes in the water

mafofo:
my dear she's trying to,but the Dad says the next time that he hears that she visits me,she will throw her stuffs out of the house.

a girl who is not ready for an arranged marriage will gladly leave the house trust me the parent will come looking for her and see the seriousness in her No

Wen u saying No be ready to break rules and damn consequences not being scared

Look look, the fact that she is going along with it means you should MOVE ON !
Simple
She is the only one who can say no .. look regardless if they disown her or whatever bs ... they will eventually make peace and deal with the fact you are her husband .. it's not today it's been happening
So maybe she doesn't love u as much as you think she does ..

Life they say is unfair, try and move on dear.

go and use ojuju calabar na

The onli person who can alter this marraige plan is ur girlfreind, bt i cnt see that happening, cos with the present day modern nigerian girls family, that marraige will be a reality especially if the said dude is money stuffed.


Jst Brace Urself 4 D Worst, Be A Man And Move On.