Dear Agatha,

I really appreciate the way you solve problems. I am a civil servant in Akwa Ibom State. The man I am dating is also a civil servant. We have been together for sometime now and hoping to get married some day. Although he hasn’t mentioned anything to that effect, but I keep hoping he would ask me to marry him.

However something happened recently that is giving me cause for concern. I went to his place that night to visit when a text message came into my phone from a man I knew before I met him. Because he was with my phone, he opened the text message to read it. Unfortunately, this man and I had since gone our separate ways following a misunderstanding we had. Besides, I wasn’t so much in love with him.

In the text, he was apologising and declaring his love for me.

He became very angry with me after reading the text message and refused to speak with me throughout the night. He also transferred the text message to his home for him to show his parents and friends.

On Valentine’s Day, I went with some gifts I bought for him to his house, hoping his anger would have abated, but I still met him very angry. Though he collected the items from me, he still wasn’t ready to talk to me and still isn’t talking to me. He is also refusing to call me on phone.

Agatha, I love him very much and would want to marry him, but given the present situation, I don’t know what to do. I need your advice.

Christy.

Engage him in a heart-to heart discussion and tell him all about the text and the sender.
Don't think he will just forget the incident without you offering an explanation, relationship don't work that way.
Communicate.
Best of luck

Talk to him and make everything cleared to him, if he still continues then I think he doesn't love you that much.

Because a man that love his lady will always find a place in his heart to understand her feelings and forgive her, even though it might pain him, but I think it isn't that you cheated on him innit? So why is he taking it that far.


SHAME ON HIM, HE KNOWS HOW TO COLLECT GIFT BUT FIND IT DIFFICULT TO TALK TO YOU AND FORGIVE YOU.

Imagine the way some silly men pay back the true love their ladies have for them.

all you need doing is fisrt of all send him is bosom friend to talk to him meanwhile dont hide the friend the sutuation, so that he can understand with you, and let the friend plead for an audience with him for you, after ward go on and tell him all he need to know about your past live, so many a times we fail to do the right things at the right time. you should have tell him about this guy early enough so were as this thing that just cameup will happine he will understand what is going on. let me advice u further more please as 4rm today onward be sincere with ur man and be prioud to be in relationship, that break alot of guys winds or tosters.

thanks

Goodluck

SAT