Yeah, I’ve walked this earth more than 3 decades. I’m writing this as a letter to myself and for others finding themselves coming of the same age and perhaps with similar lessons learned, experiences had, and hopes for the future.
At times it feels like I’ve lived an eternity, and other times I am reminded at how far have yet to go. Life seems to be moving in slow motion and hyper speed at the same time. There are days where I feel completely in control of my life, and days when I don’t know which way is up
Gone are the all-nighters that turned into early mornings, and all the spontaneous shenanigans conjured by late night libations. Hangovers are haunting and strike me with an unforgiving ferocity. My priorities have shifted and my perspective is constantly being stretched, twisted, and redefined through experiences I have and the people I meet.
I’ve learned that struggle can definitely be real. If you haven’t experienced it yet, you will – in your own way and with your own obstacles. The rationing of paychecks, the nearly unbearable hit to the ego of sending in resume after resume only to get rejected, or even worse – no reply at all. There are times that 50naira can feel like 5000naira and has to be stretched to make every penny count. Then there’s the occasional self-inflicted psych outs where you become riddled with doubt and question every recent decision you’ve made and are currently making.
“Am I doing the right thing?”
“Am I where I’m supposed to be?”
“How come I can’t seem to win?”
I’ve had my ups and downs. My highs and my lows. But I am a firm believer that you can’t appreciate winning until you’ve experienced losing. The struggles have sharpened my sense of self and strengthened my resilience.
I’ve been lucky enough to fall in love. It was one of the greatest things to happen to me. It helped me understand what I bring to a relationship and what I need from my significant other. It showed me how empowered a man can feel with the right woman by his side, as a “teammate”. It made me want to be better. And even though that relationship is no more, the experience made me better, aware that something like that can exist, and appreciate the next relationship.
I’ve been blessed with amazing people around me, who support me, and teach me so much just by them being themselves. My friends come from different backgrounds, creeds, sexual orientations, ethnicities, and everything in between. I wouldn’t have it any other way. My family has stood behind me and backed me with love and support through thick and thin. I lucked out.
As I’ve matured, there are personality traits I’ve been able to tweak, strengthen, and even shed when necessary. But the one that has stayed throughout my life is my 'never say die altitude, my zeal to succeed. and have an unquenchable thirst to become the very best in everything i do. I hope in my coming years, no matter what happens to me, good or bad, I never lose it.
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So at age, it’s become evident that even though I have experienced a lot and learned more, I’ve only just begun. There’s no time to dwell on what could’ve been, what I don’t have, or where that I may not be where I’d like to be professionally. Call it cliché, but everything happens for a reason. The lowest lows can be the best lessons; lessons needed for later use.
Do what you can with what you have and keep your vision fixated on your goals.
I don’t believe in the pursuit of perfection. Perfection is unattainable. Instead, I am working on “perfecting the pursuit”; weaving the knowledge from lessons learned into my everyday life and working on becoming the best man I can be.
Happy Birthday to me!

I didn't read the above write up but happy birthday

Holyvurgin17:
I didn't read the above write up but happy birthday

I suggest u do

Thanks anyway

IamKashyBaby:



Aha...Nice letter for urself sha...

Happy Birthday

asante sana, lady kashy

More than 3 decades ? U look like a teenager with your dressing.
Make I go check the pics again so I fit find more birthday yab for you

Congrats on your 30TH Year

Too lengthy....Happy birthday sir! Wishing you all that you desire

IamKashyBaby:



@bolded...i dunno what does it mean

it means 'thank u' in Swahili

Api buyday

MrWondah:
More than 3 decades ? U look like a teenager with your dressing.
Make I go check the pics again so I fit find more birthday yab for you

na regular exercise make me look like that o

I would have appreciated it more if you had taken the picture with a camera.


Because the tin of milk you used in taking the picture left your picture blurred and brightened the unnecessary.

Feliz Cumpleaños from me to you.

Kenzico:


Congrats on your 30TH Year

Gracias, mi hermano

Lizzdeb:
Too lengthy....Happy birthday sir! Wishing you all that you desire

thanks a lot madam

Bibi294:
Api buyday

thanks dear

OrestesDante:



I would have appreciated it more if you had taken the picture with a camera.


Because the tin of milk you used in taking the picture left your picture blurred and brightened the unnecessary.

Feliz Cumpleaños from me to you.

Thanks bro

happy birthday short boy abi man

Draei:

Hmm, birthday mate...HPβ thou.

thanks bro

Happy Birthday to u too

jamarifox:
happy birthday short boy abi man

A 5ft 8" guy is not a shorty


Thanks sha

rawpadgin:


A 5ft 8" guy is not a shorty


Thanks sha

if you're 5ft 8" then LeBron James is 25ft 10".
just enjoy your birthday and stop lying.

Draei:

Hmm, birthday mate...HPβ thou.

Is today your birthday?

Happy birthday bro

LLNP

So finally u don enter 30


If u never find wife

I get one for u oo

Draei:

Yeah.

Happy birthday dear, age with grace. May God grant your heart desires.

Happy birthday, my best wishes

Happy birthday bro

Happy birthday to you. May Success continue to fall on u

Draei:

Hmm, birthday mate...HPβ thou.

10 points no be beans

see u next month