My girlfriend and work colleague is in real trouble. She has been dating this guy for the past seven years, but her sisters and her parents are not in support of this relationship. Why? because the guy is from a different tribe from hers. The sisters are instigating the parents against her, just yesterday night, the father sent a message to her that if she knows what is good for her she should leave that guy or she should not bother about bringing him home. The parents know the guy as a friend but they didn't know it is a serious relationship until few yrs ago.

This crises had always been like this for the past years, sometimes she will tell the guy she is no more interested but inside her she will be bleeding. The guy would come begging n they will make up. Now she has told me she can not leave the guy n she does not know how to handle the sisters n her parents. One of her sis is married, another one about to marry in May n the last one is younger than she is. They all tell her the guy is good for boyfriend n not for marriage, because they are from diff tribe. That is all their excuse. She is confuse n me neither do I know what to do. So am posting this to my fellow nairalanders. Plz genuine advice needed. Thank you.

Na wah oo, please what are their ethnicity?

@ hotstepper my girlfriend is from Anambra but the guy is from Delta (Ijaw by tribe). He graduated from ABSU n he speaks Igbo very well. So the question of communication is ruled out, so what is their fuse?

Are those people living in the 40s or what I seriously think they are living in another world what the


This is a tough one, but I am a strong believer in blessings, especially from our parents, I do not see my self getting married
without the approval of my parents. Hopefully they wouldn't abject to my choice of man LOL on a more serious note, I think
your friend should bear with her parents and try to make them see reason. If her BF really love her, he will try to win her
parents heart in anyway possible. You can not live on love alone, what if something terrible happend in the future, who place
will she run to? Never throw your relationship with your family away because of a guy. Let her try to be patient with them, and pray
to God to help her. offcourse there is an exception to everything, if her parents still continue to be stubborn, then two can sure play
that game.

@Rokiatu thank you, she is just waiting for her eldest sister to marry n leave the house b4 she can go n talk to the parents. We all pray they change their mind.

I hope one day all this tribal jargons will end in Nija

^^i pray also oo