Why did you delve into sex therapy in your writing; was it because other issues you were focusing on were not selling?

No, it was simply because I like it. When I was writing the other aspect, the thought of writing something that people would enjoy reading struck me. Mind you, people enjoy things that are erotic. My Facebook posts on sexual relationships revealed this.

Again, since I was already married and I had gathered experience in it, I told my husband of my intention to write on sex and relationships. I told him that people enjoyed reading those things and he endorsed it.

Did he not object, even when you used vulgar language?

Why would he? Doesn’t he have sex? It is hypocrisy. We have sex all the time yet we shy away from sexual discussions. It is like after eating akpu and when people start talking about it, we hide our face somewhere and even rebuke those that sell it.

As long as you are a person, you will have sex. Look at these companies that produce condoms; they know that it is not good to cheat on your partner or to get unwanted pregnancy, that is why they went into production of condoms for people to protect themselves. Even some brides get pregnant before the wedding, which means they have been having sex. So we should stop being hypocritical.

Most marriages are breaking up every day because of sexual issues. They would not tell anybody. They keep it to themselves until they divorce. So, before getting married, it is good for them to understand what sex is all about. Even as a virgin, you need to know what to expect on the first night, when you are to have sex.

Does it bother you that people may tag you as one who is wayward and wild?

People thought I was a wild woman until recently, when I started getting invitations from churches to teach sex. I have gone to so many churches. In fact, I have been booked this December also to speak to some married people. When they saw that I was unrelenting, people just accepted me.

Would you also say that many churches are failing in teaching the real truth?

Marriage counselling is different from sex counselling. Most marriage counsellors are not sex experts. Teaching somebody how to take care of the home, polish your husband’s shoes, cook good meals or how to relate with your in-laws is different. I don’t do that. The only thing I teach is how to solve sexual problems. There are questions I ask marriage counsellors that they won’t be able to answer.

For instance, many women don’t know that where the urine comes from is different from where the vagina is.

Since the bottom line is to make money, has it been good business?

It is good business. Sometimes, the way I make money while handling people’s sexual issues is by the selling books (on the issues at stake). But when it comes to helping people who have sexual issues, it is something I like doing, because many people can’t even afford to pay me as a consultant. So, I just help them by recommending some tips and urge them to buy some things. Some people can make a lot of money while solving sex issues. That is why you see that people who sell herbs are booming daily.

From your experience and training, would you say most married women are yet to know the role of sex in marriage?

When people call me, especially men, they complain that their wives don’t like sex. And I have discovered that 85 percent of them complain about the same thing. Also, I investigated it by asking young girls and married women what their problems are in marriage; I discovered that most young girls force themselves to have sex before marriage and after marriage the urge dies. And the men would start complaining. The problem is because they were not properly tutored before marriage.

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