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| Should I Leave Her Now by letus: 4:22pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
My brothers this story is a long one but i would try to cut it short. My wife whom we have married for sometime now and have a four years old son had a baby with another man whom she said that she loves. I know we had some quarrels and her reasons also was that i can't give her the kind of life she wants after marrying for five years now. Though iam trying my best. She took the baby away and after that promised to change. But she still communicates with this guy and this guy also knew that she is with me. Initially he said that she told her that she was a single mum,that's why he felt nothing wrong but i said to him but now you know that she hasn't divorced me yet then leave her alone. But he already fallen inlove with her and kept on saying that he won't let go. I went into prayers ,prayed ,fasted and had faith as a christain ,i do not believe in divorce and i love her very much. The worst happened recently,she told me that she didn't see her period and i know that i have been careful whenever we have sex and she knew. After the testing she is pregnant again, guess what she said it was the same guy and that she wants to keep the baby . Men believe me i couldn't believe it,i was taken offguard,even though she is confused and i mean she is a kind of happy to have that baby. My brothers what should i do,believe me i have never cheated on her for once. Then iam asking GOD why did this happen to me,someone you love,i don't womanize,i don't drink,i don't smoke, you know trying my best to live a pure life .i need advice my brothers. Iam going crazy,this guy is a muslem, i have nothing against his religion but his weakness. I don't know cos this is going to affect me and my son, next thing now is divorce and she said that she can take care of the babay alone. Should i let her stay and help her take care of the baby or what. Iam going crazy now please guys help me. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by idifu(m): 4:26pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
free d gal |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Nobody: 4:26pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
Hmmmn, na wa oh! Is this a true story   |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Nobody: 4:27pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
idifu: Free the girl? She's not just a girl. She's his wife and the mother of his child. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Nobody: 4:41pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
letus:okay am trying to imagine that am watching a movie here, but this seems very real. Okay (after a long shock/pause here is what I think you may not like it, but thats my opinion) You love her, but obviously something caused her to stray, and she was not even responsible enough to use birth control. The bottom line, is that she should have the child and not have an abortion, since this is not the answer to your problems. The child is innocent of the manner in which it was conceived. However, the child will be a constant reminder to you as a stepfather of how it was conceived and you will resent this child. It's one thing you married a woman with a child from a divorce or a widow, but in your case the child was conceived by a woman that broke your marriage vows! For the sake of your own self respect and this may sound weird, but for the sake of the child, it's better you separate. You may feel conflicted about it, because you still love her, but trust me: Leave her. (she didn't do it once but twice) Your pain will heal in time. Let her be a single Mom and raise the child by herself. Obviously her boyfriend wanted intimacy, but was not mature enough to take care of his own and you now have to support a child you didn't father. Let her go to him or be on her own, or whatever she wants to do: God bless and let the child be born and let your heart heal, you are a good man and deserve it |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Olami1224: 4:45pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
My brother, you have to try and let her go because according to your explanation her heart is sum1 else bet me after the Baby, if she still see's that guy thesame thing will keep happening, if this continues I wonder how you're gonna live long. Just let go, you will find sum1 better. Nothing is easy in Life Get ur mind of her , Olami |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by harakiri(m): 5:11pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
This is why i am determined NOT to marry (not to talk of having kids) till i hit 35.Women are so full of crap.Dude, i have two words for you : DUMP HER! ! ! You may be married to her but she is definitely not married to you in her heart.I used to think i was soft when it comes to women but your case is exceptionally pathetic.You even had the guts to come to nairaland to seek advise.DON'T GO WITH ANY ADVISE FROM THE LADIES HERE COZ THEY WILL ALWAYS DEFEND THEIR KIND AND EVEN ACCUSE YOU OF BEING THE CULPRIT! Dump her, do your best to take care of the kid and move on with your life.Life is very short my friend.Wise up! ! ! |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by iice(f): 8:07pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
 You're still there?She's lucky. Pesin for don wipe ground with her and rightly so. No respect whatsoever! |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Kunbee: 11:50pm On Mar 31, 2010 |
Free her pls |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Tinksh(f): 12:43pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Oh my gosh! I am so sad for reading your story. What a nightmare!! Take your child and dump her. She has proven she is not worthy of your love and commitment. I will not 'defend my kind' as one poster put it. I cant find words to describe how discusting her behaviour is. Leave her to the other man, she will do the same to him. Please take your child out of that situation and live a happy life. Focus on raising your child and you will be happy again. My prayers are with you in this time. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by otokx(m): 1:13pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
The story is not just making sense. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Jomodupri(m): 2:34pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Run DNA on the son to confirm the parenthood/fatherhood status. Leave her, she is not meant for u. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Nobody: 2:47pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
Hmmm. This is weird. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by WhiteOne(f): 3:54pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
What the brothers would say to a good christian woman, when her husband was and still is chetting on her and she had one or two children with him and the girlfried would fall pregnant for the second time and she (the christian wife) had took her chetting husband back by the first time she caught him chetting . . . sister, take the girl as you second wife and do not be so up set with her . . . you, as a good christian and nigerian should know "our girls" can not have only one child, they need two or three . . . do not be so greedy to him . . . he is just a man and do what all men are doing . , pray over it and take him/her in your heart . . . forgive him and thank god for your ownb children . . . Well, where is the difference? With her and yourself? |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by benedictac(f): 4:07pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
@ poster, if this is true, i deeply feel for u and i am speechless right now. u said u are christian by faith. as painful as it seems, i think u should just speak to ur pastors. aaah i am so so sorry. i imagine what u are going thru emotionally. Pls dont do anything crazy. |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by tpiah: 4:12pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
I dont understand your story. You're saying your wife (who you live with) is pregnant for another man? |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by benedictac(f): 4:17pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
tpiah: Gbam!!! for the second time |
| Re: Should I Leave Her Now by Outstrip(f): 6:28pm On Apr 01, 2010 |
I am sorry to tell you this but your wife is unrepentant. She should be ashamed of herself. If she was living under your roof and making it seem like she wants to work it out but spreading her legs for another man then she needs to be ashamed. I feel for you. You deserve to be happy and she does not seem to think about your happiness or the stability of her family. Even worse she could bring back a disease and I am almost certain that her boyfriend (yes, her boyfriend) is not only sleeping with her. When someone is not repentant then I don't know what else you can do but simply let her leave. She needs not be under the same roof as you. You do not deserve this |
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