I know he's married and his wife isn't as beautiful as me, I love my boss have ben sleeping around for a while.He keeps me happy and takes care of me so well that no man ever did,not even my parents, When I think about him I feel like crying and when we try to get away we feel so uncomfortable and everything goes against.I am 26 yeras of age and my life is so disorganized for the fact taht I am always waiting,talking(phone) or sitting with him, don't lose an opportunity to sneak together anywhere we find our way,

I am an Indian and my all near and dear ones think it's high time for me to get married.I sit alone and fear to get into groups.I only think of him day and night and don't know what will happen.

He has two kids who he loves the most and he has no reason to not be with me.His wife is the most humble lady I have ever seen I don't wanna ditch her and wreck her home.I can't snatch him from his kids and wife and can't even leave him for I know what I will lose , I can't live without him or stay away from him.Can this relation go forever?Would I ever sit alone waiting for him ?This is the second guy I have been close(physically) with ever!My future is soconfusing.

I can feel you babe.
1st option:Talk to your boss that you want to be his second wife! If he truly loves you, he should marry you.
Otherwise, stop the relationship and look out for your own man. There are equally good single guys out there.

2nd Option: Get pregnant for the man. You have committed him for life. short cut

@ tafari
God, that is such a 'maleish' reply!! easy for you to say , hugh? "get pregnant"
do you honestly believe that she should bring a child on this world just to tie up a man to her? and would that be fair to the child? what if he doesn't stay with her after all? then what? you have doomed a child to live without a father. Get real, that's only more trouble!


The thing is he already has a family and even if he'd choose to live a double life, it'll still be very difficult and high chances are that someone WILL get hurt in the end! So I think the best solution is to change ur workplace and even move out of there if possible. But make a clean cut. Don't get in touch with him at all, otherwise it'll be nearly impossible to let him go and you'll end up hurting cuz you're the one without the wedding ring. Then , just try to make new friends and you'll see that the sun will also rise on your street! Take care and good luck!

Tranquil:

I know he's married and his wife isn't as beautiful as me,

This is no justification for you to sleep with her man

Tranquil:

I love my boss have ben sleeping around for a while. He keeps me happy and takes care of me so well that no man ever did,not even my parents, When I think about him I feel like crying and when we try to get away we feel so uncomfortable and everything goes against.

Whatever this means, it is a misplaced love

Tranquil:

I am 26 yeras of age and my life is so disorganized for the fact taht I am always waiting,talking(phone) or sitting with him, don't lose an opportunity to sneak together anywhere we find our way,

At 26 you have your whole life ahead of you. Cease this opportunity and free yourself from his entanglement cos you probably do not have any furtue with him. You are too a blessed child to have a disorganised life.

Tranquil:

He has two kids who he loves the most and he has no reason to not be with me.His wife is the most humble lady I have ever seen I don't want to ditch her and wreck her home.I can't snatch him from his kids and wife and can't even leave him for I know what I will lose , I can't live without him or stay away from him.Can this relation go forever?Would I ever sit alone waiting for him ?This is the second guy I have been close(physically) with ever!My future is soconfusing.

Thank God you understood how he love his kids and the humility of his wife. O'h yes, you can live without him, because you were living before you met him. Don't break her home. Do unto others what you will want them to do unto you.

even if the guy marry you, you go still find another person wey u go say u fall in love with.

our mumu don do

oyinboaja:

even if the guy marry you, you go still find another person wey u go say u fall in love with.

our mumu don do

YES OHHH TELL AM MAKE E HEAR WELL WELL,

I understand the fact that often times people get caught up in circumstances beyond their control, but if you ask me, it is wrong from the start to start off a relationship with a married person, especially if this guy does not intend to make you wife number 2.

Though you have not said anything in this regard, it is more or less insinuated in your general comment.

My suggestion here is that you should ask yourself if you are willing to accept the position of a second wife, and for your own good, do not ever imagine this guy would send his wife packing for you. It is better you end the relationship than taking that option, because wife number one will curse you, and believe me, baby girl, it will catch up with you, its called natural law, and its supported in ALL religions.

So ask yourself if you are ready to be wify 2. If you are ready for that, then ask him and hear his opinion - some guys prefer adventure to reality, so be ready for a rude shock.

If you are not ready to be wify 2 then make a clean sweep as white nkem said, just leave. Leave your job, your house, it might be difficult, but by God withstanding the consequence of cheating with a married man is greater!!!!!

If you are the praying type, put this in God's hands and you will see what would come out of it.

Let him go. You think you can't live without him but the truth is that life will always go on. I don't think it is best to destroy your boss' love. If you love him well enough, you know that love is selfless. Think about the children involved. No child will want to have their dad sleeping around (it generates hate for the father). There are many fishes in the Ocean as they say. You will find an even better one but don't waste your time on a man who has already built a family. You need to build yours with a man that can be a thousand percent yours. That is better than leasing someone else's husband.

This is the weirdest thing ever happening in my life! He becomes too possessive at times and I feel like DYING at that moment, Looks like he doesn't even trust me and that doesn't mean he is , I love him only for the Smart person he is, subtle and rational but he can't bear the thought of me and any other guy!

He equally loves me and cares a 100 times more than anyone else does but how can he hurt the one he loves on the most trivial of the matters, Thought I would go away from his life and never come back but it is just not POSSIBLE!!!

wow
well just like everyone had said already

he is a married man wit childrens, consider that
plus U cant keep sleepin around with him if thats all he wants from U
to me he sounds like ur sugar daddy
aint noting gonna come from that
so plz forget all ur feelings for him and move on
find someone whos not married wit kids
dnt become the other woman plzzzzz

why won't your future be so confusing you are here destroying someones happiness and you not even ashame of your self at your age instead of you to go and get your self a guy you are here following a guy that you know your future is very very dark with,in a way you don't even love the guy as you claimed you are just after his money the high time you stopped seeing this guy the better for you cuz nemesis will definitely catch up with you.HOME WRECKER

Nonny You are rude and it makes me cry.Of Course he has money more than anyone else and I know it is not just that, I have never been after it even in my worst circumstances!

This is something really special and genuine, I know everyone will think like that but what do I do?Love is love and the necessities are altogether a different chapter, looks like you haven't loved anybody in your life that's the reason you behving so insensitive and for god sake I am not a home wrecker ! Can't even think about it but feel like dedicating my life to this Lad,

I will advice you to let him go, i know you said you cannot let him go , but i will tell you how to get your selves out of the relationship
Through prayer, go to God in prayer and resign from your office.


But before all these mentioned above give your life to christ.

I did not read ur story but with d TOPIC---THUMBS UP

( am also facing this case here) so My dear let him go, he is nt ur man pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Let him go, if he is yours he will certainly come back to ya, Put I can say in almost certain terms that he sure isn't yours baby

Either way you want to look at it, what you're doing is not only wrong, but will eventually lead to heartbreak and pain. Whatever you feel for him right now won't last forever. I know you don't want to hear this, but you gotta let him go. Yes, you'll hurt as a result, for a while, but YOU WON'T DIE! Don't believe that lie your emotions are telling you that you can't live without him, because you ain't the first person stuff like this will happen to, but in all cases situations like yours end-up TRAGICALLY. He most likely won't leave his wife and family for you, and by the time all that excitement and thrill he's getting from his illicit affair with you wear off [TRUST ME, IT WILL], you'll be old news and dumped like a hot potato. There's a certain thrill/excitement that comes with doing what you know you ought not to be doing, but the end result of it all will be excrutiating pain, guilt and emotional scars, and not mention wasted moments. I've learned that oftentimes, we humans do not know how to properly interprete our emotions, hence why we usually confuse infatuation and lust for true love. True love isn't selfish. My dear, sorry to say this, but you're being selfish by choosing to continue this affair. And you also sound like you have self-esteem issues, because you seem to think you can't do better or deserve, hence why you keep trying to justify the relationship by convincing yourself that he's the best man in the world for you. Come on now, you know you're wrong. Full stop.