Dedicated to all strong women persevering abuse. Walk away while you are still alive ...

Emotional abuse can be a sneaky killer of the spirit – and worse.

Psychological abusers don't go for the weak — they choose strong people because they 'like a challenge'

Another home breaker.

Nobody told you to be single.

Abusers humiliate their partners. They insult and put you down both in private and in front of others as a method of eroding your self-esteem, which they hope will make you more dependent on them.

Do you feel as if you’re doing something wrong and you deserve rebuke from your partner? Worse still, do you feel as if you don’t even know what you’ve done wrong?

... an emotional abuser will create a sense of “shame” in you – that vague sense that you are not worthy, neither of respect nor love – nor them.

... doesn’t want to hear about your pain, except to reinforce that you deserve whatever pain you feel. That you’ve brought it on yourself, or that it’s your deserved destiny to feel bad about yourself.


Does your partner always claim that everything’s your fault? Are they incapable of taking responsibility for their words and actions toward you and others?

One of the most confusing things about abusive partners is that while they shut you down in person and “don’t want to hear it”, they keep a close eye on you when you are apart.

Most people can identify a physical abuser. It’s simple – they hit you.

... emotional abuse is a sub-category of control, they will often resort to other methods of threat.

Some will threaten to leave you – and blame that choice on you. Some will threaten to hurt or even kill themselves – and blame that choice on you...

Everybody feels self-doubt, sometimes, which makes this behavior so destructive and so effective.


Sometimes an emotional abuser will deliberately lie to you to confuse you and make you doubt your perceptions.

... abusers will strategically create these momentary islands of feeling good to keep you hooked. They will surprise you with a meal or a piece of jewelry or a sudden compliment or getaway. They will overdo their apologies when they feel as if their mask will fall away and reveal the cruel abuser beneath.

This keeps the victim clutching onto the hope that “things will change”

... if you are in a relationship with an emotional abuser, you will awaken, live and go to bed in a state of anxiety. You will feel a consistent, irritating discomfort that you will unknowingly offend, insult, upset or provoke your partner into anger, disappointment or rage.

There is a very powerful saying that the first time you get abused you are a victim. But the second time, you are an accomplice.

Finally ...


Courtesy vixendaily.com

dafeyankee:
Another home breaker.

Nobody told you to be single.

These kinds of homes are broken already.