BluntBoy:

Bro, I don't think people mind rich guys dating poor girls. I don't mind myself. But I like it to happen like in the movies. The poor girl doesn't always have the ambition. It just happens that she catches the attention of a rich guy. Same for poor guy - rich girl. Remember Cinderella. She never had the ambition of going to the ball to nail the prince. She wanted to just go to the ball. Remember Jack and Rose in Titanic.
I begin to see a problem when a girl nurses the ambition to nail a rich guy.
Beauty and wealth are two different things. One is largely subjective and very ambiguous. You want a beautiful woman and when you find one, your friends may not agree that she is beautiful. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I don't suppose it is as annoying an ambition as wanting a rich man.

Wealth and beauty are both subjective. One woman's 'made guy' may be another woman's broke guy. I agree with you that its more idyllic when it happens naturally, still, wishing for it doesn't make it bad. My point is, its not something to be encouraged, but its not bad, so all these vituperations are redundant.

UltraMax:
Wealth and beauty are both subjective. One woman's 'made guy' may be another woman's broke guy. I agree with you that its more idyllic when it happens naturally, still, wishing for it doesn't make it bad. My point is, its not something to be encouraged, but its not bad, so all these vituperations are redundant.

Bro, perhaps, you might want to read my post again.

I didn't merely state that beauty was subjective, I wrote that beauty is largely subjective and ambiguous.

One subjective perception of objective wealth is money anxiety and another is plain mischief or even pride. For instance, Dangote and Otedola are both made men. You couldn't call one broke even if you were dating the wealthier guy. But beauty is not as straightforward. You may perceive your girlfriend as the most beautiful woman (a woman you have always dreamt of) but someone else may see her as ugly, because she/he perceives your girlfriend differently. The same cannot be said for wealth. When a man is made (has acquired a fortune), he is made. Anyone who perceives a made man as broke simply because he is not as wealthy as another made man is simply being mischievous.

If you said one girl's rich man is another girl's poor man, I would agree with you, because rich and poor are just as largely subjective and ambiguous as beauty.

BluntBoy:

Bro, perhaps, you might want to read my post again.
I didn't merely state that beauty was subjective, I wrote that beauty is largely subjective and ambiguous.
One subjective perception of objective wealth is money anxiety and another is plain mischief or even pride. For instance, Dangote and Otedola are both made men. You couldn't call one broke even if you were dating the wealthier guy. But beauty is not as straightforward. You may perceive your girlfriend as the most beautiful woman (a woman you have always dreamt of) but someone else may see her as ugly, because she/he perceives your girlfriend differently. The same cannot be said for wealth. When a man is made (has acquired a fortune), he is made. Anyone who perceives a made man as broke simply because he is not as wealthy as another made man is simply being mischievous.
If you said one girl's rich man is another girl's poor man, I would agree with you, because rich and poor are just as largely subjective and ambiguous as beauty.

You're absolutely spot on, but the crux of the issue isn't which concept is more subjective than the other, the point is that this lady has a right to hunt for rich men, even though I don't approve of it personally.

This oloriburuku is seeing marriage as a poverty alleviation scheme...... Dem go use u do ritual last last if ure not careful

UltraMax:
You're absolutely spot on, but the crux of the issue isn't which concept is more subjective than the other, the point is that this lady has a right to hunt for rich men, even though I don't approve of it personally.

You are absolutely right, bro.

In fact... ; ..this is so crazy...I have been laughing all alone to my self going through this thread,Let me quickly share my personal Story.

Myself and my hubby got married when he doesn't even have a roof over his head....we met in school and I had to collect Money from my sure Aunty then to rent a room so we could stay together....After he got 45000 naira job we moved to Oshodi into his late step father one room apartment alongside with his two other brothers.we were four in that small room then,bedbug shop the life out of me,Stinking pit toilet,we had to wake up early 4 or 5am to bath because no place safe and covered to do that and I carried his 2 month pregnancy then(Believe me I never complained once,I was just in love with this guy and I always hope for a better future)...
Sometimes I slept with Only garri in my protruded stomach and still have to treat him like a king.....

Fastforward ed to 6 years after when he applied to one Advertising Agency,that same year he got laid off from the working place due to lack of punctuality and he had to think of starting his own,

Fastforwarded to now,we presently live in our own personal house and my husband look more handsome and younger you wish he should be your husband....(He doesn't joke with me and had begged me at every slight misunderstanding).Am not painting a perfect marriage though but you had envy me if you see me now not knowing what I have gone through with my MAN

@OP....You should pray for a good and kindhearted man that both of yourself will get along together either rich,wealthy or POOR.....Wealthy Men have someone somewhere that made them.

safarigirl:
hi, I'm good. How are you?

am cool, seems u where away for awhile

Jamariwolf4:
How does one find this kind of man, or shud I say where?
I've packaged myself and checked every nook and cranny of Abuja to every stone and sand of kaduna also.


Experienced nairaland ladies pls drop suggestions.

Married wives of nairaland too (married to rich men only) should advice us on how they met him.

Thanks

Check Konga.com

Bellarod05:
In fact... ; ..this is so crazy...I have been laughing all alone to my self going through this thread,Let me quickly share my personal Story.

Myself and my hubby got married when he doesn't even have a roof over his head....we met in school and I had to collect Money from my sure Aunty then to rent a room so we could stay together....After he got 45000 naira job we moved to Oshodi into his late step father one room apartment alongside with his two other brothers.we were four in that small room then,bedbug shop the life out of me,Stinking pit toilet,we had to wake up early 4 or 5am to bath because no place safe and covered to do that and I carried his 2 month pregnancy then(Believe me I never complained once,I was just in love with this guy and I always hope for a better future)...
Sometimes I slept with Only garri in my protruded stomach and still have to treat him like a king.....

Fastforward ed to 6 years after when he applied to one Advertising Agency,that same year he got laid off from the working place due to lack of punctuality and he had to think of starting his own,

Fastforwarded to now,we presently live in our own personal house and my husband look more handsome and younger you wish he should be your husband....(He doesn't joke with me and had begged me at every slight misunderstanding).Am not painting a perfect marriage though but you had envy me if you see me now not knowing what I have gone through with my MAN

@OP....You should pray for a good and kindhearted man that both of yourself will get along together either rich,wealthy or POOR.....Wealthy Men have someone somewhere that made them.

I just pray she listens. thanks for sharing this.

Bellarod05:
In fact... ; ..this is so crazy...I have been laughing all alone to my self going through this thread,Let me quickly share my personal Story.

Myself and my hubby got married when he doesn't even have a roof over his head....we met in school and I had to collect Money from my sure Aunty then to rent a room so we could stay together....After he got 45000 naira job we moved to Oshodi into his late step father one room apartment alongside with his two other brothers.we were four in that small room then,bedbug shop the life out of me,Stinking pit toilet,we had to wake up early 4 or 5am to bath because no place safe and covered to do that and I carried his 2 month pregnancy then(Believe me I never complained once,I was just in love with this guy and I always hope for a better future)...
Sometimes I slept with Only garri in my protruded stomach and still have to treat him like a king.....

Fastforward ed to 6 years after when he applied to one Advertising Agency,that same year he got laid off from the working place due to lack of punctuality and he had to think of starting his own,

Fastforwarded to now,we presently live in our own personal house and my husband look more handsome and younger you wish he should be your husband....(He doesn't joke with me and had begged me at every slight misunderstanding).Am not painting a perfect marriage though but you had envy me if you see me now not knowing what I have gone through with my MAN

@OP....You should pray for a good and kindhearted man that both of yourself will get along together either rich,wealthy or POOR.....Wealthy Men have someone somewhere that made them.

Wow.. That's so nice.. Thank God you were patient with him