Acidosis:
Okay, you feel she's cheating on you because she failed to use your picture as DP on Val day?

What if she used your picture and still proceed to cheat on you? How would you have known?

* i wouldn't know but it will be a joke in her becos i believe most men wouldn't take a woman serious who display another man in her Dp and same having fun with u* if she decide to respect the man and becos of that didn't show love to me on her Dp then her loyalty or feelings is somewhere else* Y should i be working hard to keep roof over her head,put good on her table and money in her pocket and she can't celebrate me just this once in a year*

See, there is no proof that your girl is cheating on you. However (and truthfully), I think her mistake was failing to listen to you. Knowing that the relationship is a long-distance type, she ought to have uploaded your picture since that was clearly going to make you happy. Relationship is not always about one person, "me" but what makes the other happy.

Nevertheless, your action is way too drastic. Unblock her like you've always done. I'm sure this is not the first time you're blocking her, so go ahead and resolve your relationship issues.

nana228:
Op no offense but this is childish. If you have any suspicion of cheating then investigate. Using of pictures as dp does not equal faithfulness or love. There are deeper issues you guys need to work out especially how to come together as a family instead of long distance.

mrsmith11:


How do i investigate her when am thousands of kilometres away. If she can always chnge her Dp to celebrate others even co-tenant and my son school teacher so she can't celebrate me on lovers day when everyone is showing appreciation to there loved ones. 5years in Europe I never cheated on this woman and have always make sure they don't lack anything. .....I don't deserve to be celebrated? I need to ask for it?

crackhaus:
She may or may not be cheating, you can't be sure of that.
What is certain is that it means nothing to her to make use of your photo on her dp, and she certainly doesn't care how that makes you feel.

Either way, there is fire on the mountain.

Look for someone you trust enough to shadow her movements and report to you if it really means that much to you.
Remember she's not your wife yet, you still have time to rethink.

Horlubunmmy:
Five years in Europe and your son is three years old, how come

mrsmith11:


Visited twice. It was my 1st visit she took in

mrsmith11:


I don't have the energy to ask anyone to monitor her instead am walking away from the affair

crackhaus:
She may or may not be cheating, you can't be sure of that.
What is certain is that it means nothing to her to make use of your photo on her dp, and she certainly doesn't care how that makes you feel.

Either way, there is fire on the mountain.

Look for someone you trust enough to shadow her movements and report to you if it really means that much to you.
Remember she's not your wife yet, you still have time to rethink.

mrsmith11:


I don't have the energy to ask anyone to monitor her instead am walking away from the affair

mrsmith11:


I don't have the energy to ask anyone to monitor her instead am walking away from the affair

crackhaus:

It seems this issue of WhatsApp DP isn't the first you both are having...just a thought

BaeMercy:
Why Leave A Woman Alone For 5years? So Because She Refused To Use You As Her Dp Means She's Cheating? And That Is The Reason For You To Divorce Her?
You Have Anger Issues, Work On That. Even Your Fellow Man Couldn't Find A Fault In Your Post... You Are Not Ready For Marriage

mrsmith11:


I have visited twice and was suppose to be in Nigeria last December but had isssue with my passport.

Not using my pix on her Dp on Valentine is sth I shouldn't worry about? I remember how she made me do something in 2016 valentine day when I was in Nigeria with her but today it doesn't mean anything to her?

mrsmith11:


Nope . There is always an issue but I wouldn't want to go into because it would be unfair to her when she is not here to defend herself but she is that woman who is always right, sees no wrong in what she does as far she has an explanation or excuse for it.

mrsmith11:
I have a fiancee who lives in Nigeria with my son (3yrs+) and am pratically responsible for there welfare ranging from housing,feeding to school expenses.

Xday been Valentine I got a happy valentinr message from my so called fiancee then I used her pic as my Dp on whatapp and I was suprise she didnt do the same. I asked her y she not celebrating me on her Dp on whatapp......all she said was that *putting me on her Dp is for children doing Valentine * we argue back n forth about on way to work. After work xday when I put On my fone I was surprise she didnt really use it.

Last year she use my pic as Dp but something happened.....her both fones were switch off till 7:30pm in d evening saying her fone went off when she went for an exam.

So xday evening I deleted her and said am done with her.

mrsmith11:
I have a fiancee who lives in Nigeria with my son (3yrs+) and am pratically responsible for there welfare ranging from housing,feeding to school expenses.

Xday been Valentine I got a happy valentinr message from my so called fiancee then I used her pic as my Dp on whatapp and I was suprise she didnt do the same. I asked her y she not celebrating me on her Dp on whatapp......all she said was that *putting me on her Dp is for children doing Valentine * we argue back n forth about on way to work. After work xday when I put On my fone I was surprise she didnt really use it.

Last year she use my pic as Dp but something happened.....her both fones were switch off till 7:30pm in d evening saying her fone went off when she went for an exam.

So xday evening I deleted her and said am done with her.

StPete:
do not be deceived, I'd tell you the blatant truth, your lady is absolutely cheating on you. Also, I have this very weird feeling that your so called son may not be yours after all. Even though it's possible to conceive on first attempt, a normal thinking woman would avoid it since she's unsure of your availability. I think it'll have been a different story if you were based in Somalia or one havoc ridden country. You're more or less a meal ticket. And I sure do hope you don't realise this mistake when it's already too late. Whenever you come over to the country, insist on a DNA test and do it at a place you choose .

crackhaus:

This is one of the pitfalls of long distance relationships, every disagreement can be blown out of proportion.. nothing beats face to face communication when sorting out relationship issues.

You two should be having video calls (it's more intimate than just typing or voice calling), until you get to see again.
At least if you're going walk away from the relationship, you should do it face to face when you see her.

aflyingbird:
Can't believe a grown man's fighting his fiance for not putting his pic as her dp, like are you fckin kidding me right now?! U who put her pic on ur dp, does this mean u are faithful to her there in europe, the 5 yrs u've been there u haven't or aren't seeing anyone else there now? Wouldn't be surprised if u are cheating or seeing someone, men who're too quick to get upset at their woman over something like not putting ur pic on their dp are the ones cheating or seeing someone else. Abegi, grow up and stop being childish.

mrsmith11:


Nope . There is always an issue but I wouldn't want to go into because it would be unfair to her when she is not here to defend herself but she is that woman who is always right, sees no wrong in what she does as far she has an explanation or excuse for it.

mrsmith11:
I have a fiancee who lives in Nigeria with my son (3yrs+) and am pratically responsible for there welfare ranging from housing,feeding to school expenses.

Xday been Valentine I got a happy valentinr message from my so called fiancee then I used her pic as my Dp on whatapp and I was suprise she didnt do the same. I asked her y she not celebrating me on her Dp on whatapp......all she said was that *putting me on her Dp is for children doing Valentine * we argue back n forth about on way to work. After work xday when I put On my fone I was surprise she didnt really use it.

Last year she use my pic as Dp but something happened.....her both fones were switch off till 7:30pm in d evening saying her fone went off when she went for an exam.

So xday evening I deleted her and said am done with her.