Some girls that I had problems with when I was in secondary school, they just stopped talking to me and did not want to be friends again.

Now, my mother died they all came one by one and offered condolence.

I told a mututal friend that my mother died, I told her not to tell anyone.. turns out she did. And guess what, I invited her to my mothers funeral and she did not come? I am now wondering whether she was my friend at all, and if all what I told her in confidence - she went to go and tell others?

I am 24, and today - I who was the one shining, is now rock bottom. No job, no degree. Dead mother, no friends just in a low place and I feel that they know that I, who was once the one ambitious and succeeding most, has no degree, no job and now a dead mother - so the only reason they are coming to offer condolence to me is because they see my life is not good and they are happy, and it makes them feel better about themselves.. because if my mother did not die, would they have spoke to me at all?

There are people who are nice to you etc, when they see you doing bad - it makes them feel better about themselves "it could be worse, I could be [my name] '


Even, another girl I told her that my mum was ill - she NEVER asked me what was her illness. Even, she never asked me whether I work/study .. I thought, what a nice girl she does not pry. However, I realised she is dating my family friend .. and most likely he was the one who gave her the info about my mother's illness, work/study history.

I do not know who to trust.

I feel like everyone is talking about me and laughing at me.
There was this girl who was the perfect girl in my opinion.

GORGEOUS! Intelligent (went to Harvard to study law), seemed like the perfect daughter, well behaved etc..

She is almost 5 years older than me, so I always admired her from a far.

She was my role model I even had her picture as my screensaver at one point.

I one day plucked up the courage to message her on Facebook, I told her congrats for graduating university and I sent her a friend request.

After a long time of waiting my request was DECLINED and message ignored.

I was confused, so I added her again.

After a long time of waiting my request was again DECLINED.

I was confused, I did not have a profile picture at the time but we had mutual friends, and to be fair she did not really know me she saw me once at a party, but still if you have mutual friends with someone and they send you a congratulations message surely you will reply or something?

I moved on with my life.

A few years later she got married and her mom wanted me to be one of the people who help at the wedding. She introduced me to her daughter (the girl I am talking about), and her daughter was really friendly and smile-y and wanted to hug me but I did not go in for the hug so it was a bit awkward ... The reason I acted how I did because I was like, why am I going to hug you when you can not even accept my friend request or reply to my message.

Nonetheless, after reflection I was like let me give her the benefit of the doubt and I was friendly etc there after.

The next time I saw her was at her wedding, she seemed so so stuck up. The people (us black girls) she did not acknowledge us at all, whereas all her white friends she was so loving towards. She is also marrying a white man. She also seemed kind off like she did not like me by the glances she gave me.

I later sent her another message a few weeks later saying "hello Mrs [insert new surname here], how are you"

She made her facebook so I could not add her (the add friend button had suddenly gone!) and she replied 'All is well. You?' and I replied 'fine thank you' she did not reply again. Is that not rude, no THANK YOU for taking the day of work to help out at her wedding etc, she sounded so blunt.

I did not message her again after that, nor did I attempt to add her on Facebook.

2 years later, something tragic happened to me and I sent her a message telling her (her mom and my mom are good friends and she (the girl I am talking about) had been through something similar- I just reached out to her that is all! and she saw the message but did not reply.

How can someone hate me so much?

Someone I literally idolised.

Even at one point her mom's phone had me on block on whatsapp, and her family in general are really judgemental and stuck up. I think her brother has a crush on me also.

Their whole family make me feel uncomfortable.



And then I have a lot of "aunty" family friends who ask me personal questions about my life, one guy asked me whether my brother has started uni - I just feel like they all want to collect information about my life, laugh at me, gossip about me and feel better about themselves

Please help me

the truth is bitter! I said.

Can i spill it? out i askd....

Bloody hell.

How many more times do I need to tell you to let people who can actually help you help?

Or are you just gonna say you’re just “mourning my mum’s death”? You’re ill. You need professional help.

you just want to sedate me with drugs

Probz:
Bloody hell.

How many more times do I need to tell you to let people who can actually help you help?

Or are you just gonna say you’re just “mourning my mum’s death”? You’re ill. You need professional help.

2morogobeta:
you just want to sedate me with drugs

Anything’s got to be better than you asking the same questions on here and putting yourself up for exploitation. This thing you’re doing ain’t the answer and you know it.

Probz:


Anything’s got to be better than you asking the same questions on here and putting yourself up for exploitation. This thing you’re doing ain’t the answer and you know it.

my mum is gone

how did u celebrate mothers day today

my mum is gone

just tell me

1. did i kill my mum

2. how am i meant to go through my whole life without my mum

3. im traumatised by seeing my mother get ill, suffer and die

Probz:


Anything’s got to be better than you asking the same questions on here and putting yourself up for exploitation. This thing you’re doing ain’t the answer and you know it.

Oh are you willing to assist with bills and arrangements?

I believe you know its beyond just asking her to go for help. Someone has got to assist with bills and plan arrangements for her as well as monitor her progress.

AllforJesus7:


Oh are you willing to assist with bills and arrangements?

I believe you know its beyond just asking her to go for help. Someone has got to assist with bills and plan arrangements for her as well as monitor her progress.

It’s my job to do what I do. Keep your nose out.

Probz:


It’s my job to do what I do. Keep your nose out.

Easy young man and stop acting suspicious.

I could investigate you if I want. Albiet I am assured you will not succeed with an ulterior motive.

AllforJesus7:



Easy young man and stop acting suspicious.

I could investigate you if I want. Albiet I am assured you will not succeed with an ulterior motive.

And who exactly are you?

You ask her if I’ve got an ulterior motive. Investigate me all you like. In fact I’m inviting you to. Feel free.

You ask her about the time I drew her up an action plan, wrote her a letter for her to show her GP and get specialist referral and see if I’ve got a motive other than wanting to help out vulnerable people outside the view of a Nigerian forum where she’s open for explotation from all the sickos on here. I’m not the one you need to concern your head over, believe me.