Last week, I took my "friend" to see my girlfriend. My girl really hurt me by saying that my friend was cool and that I was not. Later on when my friend was behind us, she said that I should rather go back while my friend should come by her side, she was so happy & comfortable that she actually held my friend by the waist. I later went home sad.
Later the next day the guy called to ask where I was and when I flashed her much later, she called to ask me what I had planned, then when I confronted her, she relunctantly told me that my friend had come to woo her, bt that I should not ask him because he made her promise not to tell me and I told her that she actually encouraged him by her actions the previous day which she said wasn't deliberate.
Now I think she told me because she thought I planned it, otherwise she might have accepted or kept it from me, I dont know what to do. Please help me

How exactly do you mean ?

I want to confront this guy bt i dont know how to go about it, is it really neccessary ?

I don't think you should confront him but you definitely need to cut him out of your life. I don't understand why your girlfriend had her arms around your friends waist though. That just does not make sense. If it was your brother or dad I might understand but not a friend.

mcdokwe:

Last week, I took my "friend" to see my girlfriend. My girl really hurt me by saying that my friend was cool and that I was not. Later on when my friend was behind us, she said that I should rather go back while my friend should come by her side, she was so happy & comfortable that she actually held my friend by the waist. I later went home sad.
Later the next day the guy called to ask where I was and when I flashed her much later, she called to ask me what I had planned, then when I confronted her, she relunctantly told me that my friend had come to woo her, bt that I should not ask him because he made her promise not to tell me and I told her that she actually encouraged him by her actions the previous day which she said wasn't deliberate.
Now I think she told me because she thought I planned it, otherwise she might have accepted or kept it from me, I dont know what to do. Please help me

First off, how old are you? Maybe your babe is trying to tell you something. You better man up or you'll be catching feelings while your friend is drilling your babe. ^{*shakes head, Naija babes too sharp*}

newdeal:

Grow up and get a life ! that is what you should do

mcdokwe:

How exactly do you mean ?

Hahaahahaha nairalanders will kill me here one day with laughter

anyway,

I think you should end this relationship until she can show you she knows how to
respect boundaries. Trust me when I tell you that if she gets away with this, she'll
do much worse later on.

If she's behaving like this, she doesn't respect you, leaving her with show her you respect
you self, if she love you, she will straighten up and fly right. Infact you should have stop that
nonsense right the moment it took place. (being friendly with your friend, and flirting openly with
him are two different things.) You should have set the boundaries right that moment young man.
I suggest you completely re-evaluate the people you are surrounding yourself with.

:-@ thanks @rokiatu thanks bt do you think it is that easy to walk away ? I've attached much emotion to this girl and dont want to lose her

Well Rokiatu didnt really say u shld cut her off.She needs 2 define her boundaries n respect them.Tell her hw u feel about wat she did.Wat disrespect, !

flirting with your friend right in your presence and you still need someone to advice you on what to do? get a life

leave your GF and your friend for 3days @ the booth of your truck/car
so they can have time to themselves~

that should do~

This is one mistake we guys always make. When you fall in love with somebody, please LOVE WITH YOUR HEAD - not YOUR HEART. I was once like this!

When you love with your heart, your emotions take the better part of you. Also you are not likely to make any right decisions.

I think she has insulted you enough, and she prolly thinks you are helpless and she also disrespects you.

My advice: Leave now. I'm sure that when you leave this relationship, you'll find someone who'll appreciate you and show you the respect you deserve.

.NET

What of shes the one trying to woo him but confessed first before you hear it from your friiends mouth? Your girlfriend is a liar, first off , your friend met her that day, she ignored you and paid attention to him, later on, she's telling you that your friend wants to woo her and also TOLD YOU NOT TO TELL HIM, what is she hiding? why did she tell you not to confront him?she only told you cos your friend might have threatened to tell you himself and not becos she thinks you planned it, how old are you? dont you know that your gf might be telling you a big lie?

How dumb can you be poster?

I heard JAMB results are out. Have you checked yours?

Waist ko, groin ni

Radiant:

I heard JAMB results are out. Have you checked yours?

Na wa 4 you Ooooo.

Rubbish, i bet she sees you as a smaller man of the 2 of you (u and ur friend), grow to be a man so you won't have problems like this again.

Donno if to weep or laugh over the responses i get, @radiant it might interest u to knw that I am an UNDERG of UNN, precisely in my sophomore @jennykadry, i doubt if she wooed him, my *friend* i suspect is capable of that, and she doesn't look afraid of me asking him. Am not as dumb as u think.
@.net how am i suppossed to love with my head ? I thought love has to do with emotion which in turn is of the heart.
@190 maybe you should get me a car/truck

i love nairaland.