What am actually about to say happened in real life and not some fabricated or Nollywood movue,...

Been staying with my elder brother for roughly Four months now,there is this on and off girl he is dating at the moment,they started dating in 2012,but since then it's been an off and on relationship, I never met the girl until last month, but we do talk over the phone prior to us meeting..

The problem started on a Sunday,she had an argument with my brother and she said she's leaving, o had to plead for her to stay, my brother was not around then...After she agreed to staying, she was lying on the bed,and called me to cone and pet her to sleep, which I bluntly ignored and jokingly said am not her husband,few minutes later, I suggested we go to the market to get ingredients for lunch,and she stood up,telling me to hug her first,and not as her husband's younger brother,but as a casual friend, I found my way and didn't hug her..

We came back from the market, and I followed her to the Kitchen to help her out, by that time my brother was back and was doing his laundry, they were still not talking, while in the Kitchen,out of no where she kissed me it came as a shock,but still I didn't talk and just acted as though nothing happened..

That very evening I was supposed to go out with a girl I just met,she overheard my convo with my girl and she said I was not going to leave her like my elder brother did,and suddenly she acted all possessive, I ignored her,went out and came back, then she started giving me a bad attitude, I ignored her...

After then we made up,until a particular day,I told her I wasn't interested anymore, she got angry and said I should go ask my brother that guys don't reject her and she has lots of admirers, more reason my brother is always begging her after each break up,I got angry at those words and it all finished that day..she made a comment about how she was going to frustrate me in the house

Since,then it's been one argument and insult and a day came,she cooked ,counted the meat in her stew and went out,I was surprised, but didn't talk,then at night she served my elder bro,and he requested she put our food together, she said the food was only for my elder bro,he got angry and she beat her,this all happened at night and I wasn't home,the next day she said she was leaving, but my brother said I should help him plead,felt reluctant at first,but I obliged, and begged her,she left the following day,within me I was happy...

Then she came back last week Tuesday and we talked normal, until she started her hostility, she eats and drop the plate anywhere, she brought in neighborhood kids and the litter the room, i told her my elder bro about it,he said nothing, then a particular night ,precisely three days ago,I came in around past 10pm ,those kids were already sleeping, told them to go into their own room and sleep, cos there Dad and Mum were not back yet,instead she told them to all come to the bed and sleep, I got angry and left the room..

Yesterday morning, I told her about it as she was already packing her stuffs,cos she has measles and wanted yo go home to treat it,I told her how I wasn't okay with what she did the previous night,she kinda took my words wrong,and started talking and even mentioned how i was inconveniencing my elder bro since I came to Lagos and how I never knew how they survived,I was just laughing at her words then she called my brother and told him everything, he called me and asked while I was insulting her,I told him everything then went to his shop to tell him all that happened, Surprisingly my elder brother already knew all what happened, she told him, I asker him why didn't he ask me or talk about it,he didn't say anything, asked if I was inconveniencing him,he stylishly dodged the question, and said nobody will tell him who or who not to marry..I told my mum about it she was shocked at my elder bro response..... Now am really confused about what to do,would have packed out yesterday if I had somewhere else to stay.....

Need kindly advise on what to do

NB My elder bro has a kid with another woman and she knows,this particular girl drinks and smoke even while still pregnant....

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Do whatever U can do

u ar all messed up. just giv dem sum space man

OP, its time to leave the house for them, the.wife seems to have control over your brother

Your elder brother has got himself a drama queen and a nagging girlfriend at that. RIP in advance.
On a more serious note, it's high time you left the house so it doesn't look like you're the "intruder ".


My one pence though.

[/color][color=#770077] Time to be independent.

No one has d monopoly 2b acting anyhow.....if she acts anyhow....give it bk 2 her in double dosage...nd dont move an INCH from that house...she aint his wife YET.Do ur thing,dont intentionally get on her nerves,respect her....but if she becomes adverse 2 ur respect nd blackmail u.....blackmail her also...na ordinary gf she b.

Hmm. it is time to leave bro., if u don't have money to rent a place,think of a relation u can stay with.BRAINSTORM bro, that environment that constitutes u,ur bro and that lady is not healthy. vamoose from there!.before the story hits breaking news.

Thanks for the many advice,really appreciate, thing is I would have moved out since yesterday, but I actually have no nearby relative, I mean a place closer to my school,because I work in a school..... am hoping to move out at the slightest opportunity... Although she left for her place yesterday.... and I so much bet on it that as soon as I move out of his house, that's is the end to us being brothers......

For the sake of it am 24, my elder bro is 35 and the girl is 30

Somebody advised me to always leave the house in the morning as soon as the girl is around and only come back at night,am home presently because schools are on break....The only thing I wanna do in that house now is sleep, wake brush ,bath and leave.....

Mind your business. Stay out of their issues and make yourself scarce.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Mind your business. Stay out of their issues and make yourself scarce.

thank you dear

bro why is your elder bro acting like a sissy,if possible act interested in her and record her conversation and show your broda what a manipulative hoe he has as a girlfriend.set a trap for her,and watch her fall in it. family over everything.

Think of a friend or colleague you can stay with for the main time because I think the lady is mental retaid

Elder Brother... Sissy

Girlfriend... Drama queen/manipulative

OP ... Weak Good boy!

My brother, put her where she rightly belong. If anyone is to leave she should be the one except your brother decide otherwise

try and see if you can move out of the place

You need to leave that toxic environment.

I think the house is even too small for you to be living with them. You will always jam each other. Nowhere to stay and maintain your space.

You apply wisdom when dealing with ladies; not intelligence. You missed the mark from the onset trying to ride the same horse with her. When it was like you had control, When you pleaded that she stay and let bygones be bygones, it was perfect time to friendzone her subtly without scratching her pride and still keeping onto the new likeness she found with you. Women are densely emotional and sure know how to pull off the emotional game effortlessly over men. She's already having some influence on your brother which is why your brother ain't on your side any longer. Is a natural something. Whatever excesses your bro GF got ain't your goddamn fvvcking dandy business. You come off as somebody with the obsession of family first syndrome.You fail to realize that that isn't your house and if all things were to be equal between your big bro and his gf, you are just a guest; however, a guest with bloodlines whose days are numbered as soon as he finds his feet.
I would advise you to put your running emotions in check and lay low at the moment. You shouldn't have told your mum about it, as you are remotely justifying what he said that no one would tell him whom to marry.That could have also aggravated the situation. It's time to be very calm, secretly and steadily working your way out.Your new attitude will equalize the howling storm. In these times try as much as possible to avoid whatsoever that will tear you apart from any of them, you are sure to have your respect and peace once again. My little advise.

Rubbish.

koppa:
Thanks for the many advice,really appreciate, thing is I would have moved out since yesterday, but I actually have no nearby relative, I mean a place closer to my school,because I work in a school..... am hoping to move out at the slightest opportunity... Although she left for her place yesterday.... and I so much bet on it that as soon as I move out of his house, that's is the end to us being brothers......

For the sake of it am 24, my elder bro is 35 and the girl is 30

I understand your pain but do not let a woman come between you and your brother. Never! That's not a manly move and it is highly likely you would be unhappy with yourself in future if you submit to your emotions now.

Op even tho u will leave da hwz,don't do it in anger.make peace with them and move out peacefully.blood is thicker dan water,don't allow any bitch come between u 2.





I wounder da kind luv wey go make me reason my bro as visitor for my house o.