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Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Beke2020: 8:24am On Apr 21, 2018
Good evening ma,

I work in the same company with someone who introduced me to your whatsapp group. Though I have not been commenting,I read all the posts everyday. ma,please I need your help and your counsel. I know what I have done is really a heavy sin but I have been asking God for forgiveness. I just want to seek your advice because I dont want to die without telling anyone the truth.Please dont judge me. If you want to post on the group,its fine,I know you will not use my real name.

I am 31 years old. I was abused as a child by my brothers’ friend. I got exposed to s*x quite early. My parents were not always around,so it was me and my four siblings. We did alot of things children should not be exposed to. When I was 17,my landlord started to sleep with me. He would give me money and anything I wanted. I was his girlfriend for almost 3 years. My upbringing was rough ma. I thought having s*x with anyone is just a way of life once you just have the urge to do it. I also realized that it gave me what I wanted as a woman. I used it to pass most of my exams in my HND.

When I started working,I had a boyfriend but he was not the only one I was sleeping with. I was just not used to the idea of only one sxual partner. That would not be enough for me. Two years ago,I met my husband. He was a business man who shuttles between Nigeria and China and Turkey. He was into importation. My relationship with him was fine. He never suspected I was seeing other people cos he was always travelling. And to be honest,I am not a bad person,I just am a little addicted to sx. I treated him very well. Its just that the times he was not around,I was with another man. I knew how to disguise my business well.Last year,October,my husband proposed to me. We got married in November.

After our wedding,my husband traveled but came back again in December for Christmas. He traveled just before new year. I found out....Read full story from

https://livelystones.com.ng/confused-and-feeling-guiltyam-i-responsible-for-my-husbands-death/
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Offpoint: 8:27am On Apr 21, 2018
posting the full story here na crime ba? make I help you.

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After our wedding,my husband traveled but came back again in December for Christmas. He traveled just before new year. I found out I was pregnant in January. I knew this pregnancy was not my husband’s own. It was for one of my bosses that I was sleeping with at work. I was so scared. I didn’t know what to do. I decided to have an abortion. But something very strange happened,the day I went to the hospital for the abortion,I met our pastor’s wife in the hospital. She came for ante natal. she greeted me warmly and was telling me one day I would be like her and have my own babies. It was like God was talking to me. I just turned back and didn’t have the abortion again. I was thinking what if I do this abortion and never have a child again. So I made up my mind and told my husband I was pregnant. When I told him over the phone,he took the next flight and came home. He was so happy. I couldn’t believe how the thought of him being a dad made him so happy. I thought I made the right choice. No one needs to know the true identity of the father of this child. As far as its concerned,my husband is the father.
But ma,my joy was short lived. My husband died in March this year. He died in Turkey. He was not sick. He was not injured. He just slumped and died. My life has not been the same since. I have been mourning. I have been crying. I also feel so guilty. I feel so bad. I feel like I am responsible for his death. My people have a superstition that if a married woman is cheating on the husband and lies about it,the man will not live long. I dont know if that is true but with what happened to my husband,my mind has been troubling me. His family thinks this child I am carrying is their grand son. Should I continue to keep quiet and make them believe so? I am not a bad person,I just have made so many bad choices in life.
I have been asking God to forgive me. I want to confess my sin but I am so scared of the consequences. What will people say? My husband’s people will kill me. They will even take away all his property once they know this child is not for their son. Ma,should I continue to keep quiet since I have confessed to God and I have begged for forgiveness? What should I do? I have not been in peace ever since. Please help me.
Ososa (Not real name)
From Benin

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Cutehector(m): 8:30am On Apr 21, 2018
Every girl now uses the abused as a child story as an excuse for being sexually active...

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by sim37(m): 8:31am On Apr 21, 2018
if u can't complete d fabricated story here,4get it

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by ipobarecriminals: 8:36am On Apr 21, 2018
sad deep sigh! if dis tori is true,i can imagine how her toto go be now. Probably like typical face me/face u "shalanga" The moment u open ur mouth and ask God for mercy/forgiveness of ur waywardness/ s*xcapade.He hear u.God is a merciful God.But one thing is certain,ur evil will torment u still till old age.
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Samuelgr8: 8:38am On Apr 21, 2018
u have not sent ur
sim37:
if u can't complete d fabricated story here,4get it
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Samuelgr8: 8:39am On Apr 21, 2018
Clap for urself mr/mrs offpoint
Offpoint:
posting the full story here na crime ba? make I help you.

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After our wedding,my husband traveled but came back again in December for Christmas. He traveled just before new year. I found out I was pregnant in January. I knew this pregnancy was not my husband’s own. It was for one of my bosses that I was sleeping with at work. I was so scared. I didn’t know what to do. I decided to have an abortion. But something very strange happened,the day I went to the hospital for the abortion,I met our pastor’s wife in the hospital. She came for ante natal. she greeted me warmly and was telling me one day I would be like her and have my own babies. It was like God was talking to me. I just turned back and didn’t have the abortion again. I was thinking what if I do this abortion and never have a child again. So I made up my mind and told my husband I was pregnant. When I told him over the phone,he took the next flight and came home. He was so happy. I couldn’t believe how the thought of him being a dad made him so happy. I thought I made the right choice. No one needs to know the true identity of the father of this child. As far as its concerned,my husband is the father.
But ma,my joy was short lived. My husband died in March this year. He died in Turkey. He was not sick. He was not injured. He just slumped and died. My life has not been the same since. I have been mourning. I have been crying. I also feel so guilty. I feel so bad. I feel like I am responsible for his death. My people have a superstition that if a married woman is cheating on the husband and lies about it,the man will not live long. I dont know if that is true but with what happened to my husband,my mind has been troubling me. His family thinks this child I am carrying is their grand son. Should I continue to keep quiet and make them believe so? I am not a bad person,I just have made so many bad choices in life.
I have been asking God to forgive me. I want to confess my sin but I am so scared of the consequences. What will people say? My husband’s people will kill me. They will even take away all his property once they know this child is not for their son. Ma,should I continue to keep quiet since I have confessed to God and I have begged for forgiveness? What should I do? I have not been in peace ever since. Please help me.
Ososa (Not real name)
From Benin
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Kumar4india: 8:45am On Apr 21, 2018
This is not in any way justifying your actions,you were wrong on all accounts and I hope you have truly repented and made amends with God.

See a counselor or therapist to address your addiction,you cannot live like that anymore.

Beke2020:
Good evening ma,

I work in the same company with someone who introduced me to your whatsapp group. Though I have not been commenting,I read all the posts everyday. ma,please I need your help and your counsel. I know what I have done is really a heavy sin but I have been asking God for forgiveness. I just want to seek your advice because I dont want to die without telling anyone the truth.Please dont judge me. If you want to post on the group,its fine,I know you will not use my real name.

I am 31 years old. I was abused as a child by my brothers’ friend. I got exposed to s*x quite early. My parents were not always around,so it was me and my four siblings. We did alot of things children should not be exposed to. When I was 17,my landlord started to sleep with me. He would give me money and anything I wanted. I was his girlfriend for almost 3 years. My upbringing was rough ma. I thought having s*x with anyone is just a way of life once you just have the urge to do it. I also realized that it gave me what I wanted as a woman. I used it to pass most of my exams in my HND.

When I started working,I had a boyfriend but he was not the only one I was sleeping with. I was just not used to the idea of only one sxual partner. That would not be enough for me. Two years ago,I met my husband. He was a business man who shuttles between Nigeria and China and Turkey. He was into importation. My relationship with him was fine. He never suspected I was seeing other people cos he was always travelling. And to be honest,I am not a bad person,I just am a little addicted to sx. I treated him very well. Its just that the times he was not around,I was with another man. I knew how to disguise my business well.Last year,October,my husband proposed to me. We got married in November.

After our wedding,my husband traveled but came back again in December for Christmas. He traveled just before new year. I found out....Read full story from

https://livelystones.com.ng/confused-and-feeling-guiltyam-i-responsible-for-my-husbands-death/
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Destiblack(m): 8:53am On Apr 21, 2018
ososa, only God saves through Jesus our savour. let the sleeping dogs lies, give birth to the baby and conduct a DNA to confirm the real father before taking any decision. u might never tell d father by assuming is one of ur bosses.which of the boss any?
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Nobody: 8:59am On Apr 21, 2018
kirkirki ipobarecriminals grin

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by ipobarecriminals: 9:10am On Apr 21, 2018
embarassed lipsrsealed sad
Saviour22:
kirkirki ipobarecriminals grin
embarassed
Saviour22:
kirkirki ipobarecriminals grin
wetin i do oo.Why u dey summon me to winch coven
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Nobody: 9:22am On Apr 21, 2018
ipobarecriminals:
embarassed lipsrsealed sad embarassedwetin i do oo.Why u dey summon me to winch coven
no mind me jare grin

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Kumar4india: 10:32am On Apr 21, 2018
Wisdom !
thumbs up.

Destiblack:
ososa, only God saves through Jesus our savour. let the sleeping dogs lies, give birth to the baby and conduct a DNA to confirm the real father before taking any decision. u might never tell d father by assuming is one of ur bosses.which of the boss any?

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by DOUBLEWAHALA: 11:05am On Apr 21, 2018
women are always responsible for their husband's death
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Kumar4india: 11:18am On Apr 21, 2018
Statistics

DOUBLEWAHALA:
women are always responsible for their husband's death
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by dharamanil(m): 12:00pm On Apr 21, 2018
Reading this just made me so angry!!!!!!! So you knew about the superstition and you continued now he is dead and you want to hide in the comfort of his struggle to confess to God and continue enjoying ur life......... Some one even said raise the baby well and tell him you and daddy loves him, May God punish you first then forgive you later

You broke his trust, you lied to him for two years straight, to even worsen the case you said you are not a bad person but you just love sex!!!!!! Guess what I am not a bad person but I love money and I haven't done blood money yet.


Tell the family, they should take his house and take all from you, if they forgive then God has forgiven you but if not, just Bleep your way to the next husband.......Rubbish
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by DOUBLEWAHALA: 2:44pm On Apr 21, 2018
Kumar4india:
Statistics

too much expending
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Beke2020: 3:37pm On Apr 21, 2018
That I disagree with. Lot of women been victimized, just because one was found wanting in her husband death, doesn't make all same
DOUBLEWAHALA:
women are always responsible for their husband's death
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by vivie01(f): 5:10pm On Apr 21, 2018
Destiblack:
ososa, only God saves through Jesus our saviour. let the sleeping dogs lies, give birth to the baby and conduct a DNA to confirm the real father before taking any decision. u might never tell d father by assuming is one of ur bosses.
Seconded!
While not condoning what you did, I think you should still exercise patience till you give birth, Go for DNA test and confirm if your husband is the father. You take further steps based on the result.

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Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Beke2020: 10:35pm On Apr 21, 2018
vivie01:

Seconded!
While not condoning what you did, I think you should still exercise patience till you give birth, Go for DNA test and confirm if your husband is the father. You take further steps based on the result.
I concur
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Kumar4india: 3:09pm On Apr 22, 2018
really?
atleast there be a percentage or you use Buharic word, out of 60% , alot are uneducated . looool

DOUBLEWAHALA:

too much expending
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Nobody: 3:32pm On Apr 22, 2018
This sh1t here is why many men are scared of marriage. Imagine a married woman sleeping with men recklessly to the extent of getting pregnant.

The day God will touch the heart of hospitals to reduce the cost of DNA tests, 90% of Nigerian marriages will crash.

Idiotic woman, go and eat the corpse of your husband. Fool. angry
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Kumar4india: 3:23pm On Apr 23, 2018
God is our help.

But not just women that sleep around.

Some married men too flirt.

CaptJeffry:
This sh1t here is why many men are scared of marriage. Imagine a married woman sleeping with men recklessly to the extent of getting pregnant.

The day God will touch the heart of hospitals to reduce the cost of DNA tests, 90% of Nigerian marriages will crash.

Idiotic woman, go and eat the corpse of your husband. Fool. angry
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Beke2020: 9:04pm On Apr 23, 2018
Kumar4india:
God is our help.

But not just women that sleep around.

Some married men too flirt.

hmnnnn
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Kumar4india: 11:41am On Apr 24, 2018
smiley smiley smiley

Beke2020:
hmnnnn
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Beke2020: 6:35am On Apr 25, 2018
Bro you harsh oooh
CaptJeffry:
This sh1t here is why many men are scared of marriage. Imagine a married woman sleeping with men recklessly to the extent of getting pregnant.

The day God will touch the heart of hospitals to reduce the cost of DNA tests, 90% of Nigerian marriages will crash.

Idiotic woman, go and eat the corpse of your husband. Fool. angry
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by z11111: 6:43pm On Apr 26, 2018
smiley smiley smiley

Beke2020:
Bro you harsh oooh
Re: Confused And Feeling Guilty:am I Responsible For My Husband’s Death? by Beke2020: 8:17am On Apr 27, 2018
My sister only God can tell n can judge. Seek him

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