Gave Birth To A Baby For My Boss In My Hubby’s House

With Auntie Agatha gataedo@yahoo.com, agatha.edo@gmail.com Tel: 08054500626

Dear Agatha,

Please, I am very desperate and need your help urgently. I am in the worst kind of situations and don’t know how to go about it without losing everything as well as the support of the one person who matters the most to me.

Sometime last year, March to be précised, I found myself in a very uncompromising situation with my boss. One thing led to another and we ended up making love right there in his office.

Before my husband-to-be came on the scene, my boss and I were having an affair but stopped when I met my fiancé. To be very honest with you Agatha, if not for the fact that my boss was married with two children, we would have got married. Our feelings for each other runs very deep, a fact a lot his friends and mine are very much aware of.

I decided to marry my fiancé when I realised age wasn’t on my side. Difficult as the decision was, we both agreed it was the best. The mistake I made was in not disengaging from my employment.

But even if I wanted to, I needed the money to care for my family. My father was doing his best but it wasn’t just enough as my mother is one of those women who is hopeless at doing anything. She is one of those women satisfied with being a complete housewife.

Being the first of six children, I had no choice but to work to support my father who happens to be passionate about his children. Therefore, the money I was paid was very important not just for me but my entire family.

Because of the difficulties at home, I had done one or two things I am not proud of. Then I didn’t care about what people thought of me. I felt they had no right to judge me since they weren’t going through the things I was experiencing at home.

My father could enforce discipline as he would have loved to because not only was he always busy trying to make ends meet, the money I was bringing was also helping to reduce pressure on him, hence I grew a little too wild for my own good.

However, all that changed when my boss came into my life. He ensured I lacked nothing, hence I had no excuse to date several men at a time. He also gave me a huge some to settle my family in a good place and to open a shop close to the house where we sell foodstuff. My immediate younger brother manages that place in addition to going to school.

And when my fiancé almost refused to marry me because of my past, it was him who also came to my rescue. He told my boyfriend that what he heard were lies and also denied my ever being his girlfriend. To my fiancé, he is a family friend.

It was this sense of deep appreciation for the man who has done so much for me that made me sleep with him for the last time, a week to my wedding.

That same day I slept with fiancé. I didn’t think anything of it when I discovered I was pregnant or delivered my baby.

I also didn’t notice the baby’s striking semblance to my boss until my mother called me aside to ask whose baby my son is. I was very angry with her that I tongue lashed her. She didn’t say anything but told me quietly to make sure I kept the baby away from my boss.

My baby was a year old by December. My boss and his family were away on holidays. He, however, came with his eldest son to see us recently to wish the baby a happy birthday. When his son saw my baby, he commented on the semblance of the baby with his father and himself. Indeed when I looked at all three, there was no doubting the fact.

My mother-in-law who was present, heard and observed the whole incident must have told my husband whose attitude has not only changed towards me but also avoids carrying the baby. And last week, my worst fear was confirmed when he told me we would all be going to the hospital for some tests but providence intervened as he was called to go on a training programme outside the country for a month. Since leaving two days ago, he hasn’t called me expect to inform me through his mother that he got there safely.

Agatha, please help me because I didn’t deliberately foist this baby on him. There was no way I would have taken such a risk, considering the kind of challenges I passed through to get to this stage with him.

What should I do? Tell him about what happened? Would he ever forgive me of lying to him about my relationship with my boss and would that not confirm I also lied about my past life?

Worried Wife.
http://www.independentngonline.com/DailyIndependent/Article.aspx?id=13863

Now this is what i call being in deep shít!

She better start saving up for the rainy days to come, cos its gon rain on her like the days of Noah!

OMG
This is near doom for her marriage!!

I decided to marry my fiancé when I realised age wasn’t on my side

hmm!!!

maybe time was passing while you were waiting for your trifling boss to either make you his second/third/fourth/fifth/sixth wife or while you were waiting for him to leave his wife.

na today?

What a bad way to start a family.I'd advise her to go before the man kicks her out with rage.
leaving the house would give the man the time he needs to get over it if that would be possible.
na wao, God forbid,the worst gift any woman can give to her husband.
I'm hating this with passion.

But hey, this particular story ain't true tho such cases exist

I feel sorry for the dude. If I were him I would just tell her to leave and try to start my life over again. I would want to erase her from my mind.

The crazy thing is the lady doesn't even seem repentant.

It was this sense of deep appreciation for the man who has done so much for me that made me sleep with him for the last time, a week to my wedding.

What kind of trash is that? and she ended up lying with her boss to her husband.

If he doesn't leave her for good, then he's a fool.

Gheez! I am really speechless. If i am not a christian i would have advice you to commit suicide but God forbits it. My advice: You better pack your luggages including your child and move to your lover bosses house. Show him the fruit of his labour and settle down in his house even if it warrants you being his 10th wife. My fear is that you might now be a bit unmarriable especially in that your locality(area, state or region) because of this except if you move away from that state to elsewhere or better still move out of Nigeria cos you might have been doomed here.

u mean unmarketable!

Toto!i just tire

Welcome to the end of the road, just tell him the truth before he finds out through the tests.

Yet another reason why "I'm so paranoid about marriage". Women get themselves involved in all kinds of sh*t - accepting favours of all kinds from all kinds of men. . .for which they MUST pay back in kind. Before you know it you'd marry a woman whose loyalty belongs to 'something' in 200 trousers out there - ranging from her boss(es) to pastors, lecturers, pimps, generous neigbour, car dealer, 'uncles', 'family friends', the list goes on and on. And the scary part is that you may never find out that she's doing such dirt, or that the basterd child(ren) ain't really yours! This is crazy sh*t.

I understand where you are coming from and glad you know you are in deep s**t.nobody has a right to judge you they were not wearing your shoes.Your marriage will pass through severely rocky times the truth is that it may even break.You must begin to prepare yourself mentally for the wear and tear it wnt be easy.I have no advice to give you but this if you are a praying person begin to pray for help from God cos this one even if your husband wnts to forgive you there is the baby to remind him constantly of that one day besides how will you convince him you arent still doing your boss?pray for help and have a plan for the worst.

Just tell him the truth! if he drives you out, then that's the penance for your sins. You cant eat you cake and have it at the same time. Besides when you slept with your boss, why didnt you use any protection?

i tire o for you. I hope u have enuf money in your account becos am sure you know what ur husband will do.

pro01:

Yet another reason why "I'm so paranoid about marriage". Women get themselves involved in all kinds of excreta - accepting favours of all kinds from all kinds of men. . .for which they MUST pay back in kind. Before you know it you'd marry a woman whose loyalty belongs to 'something' in 200 trousers out there - ranging from her boss(es) to pastors, lecturers, pimps, generous neigbour, car dealer, 'uncles', 'family friends', the list goes on and on. And the scary part is that you may never find out that she's doing such dirt, or that the basterd child(ren) ain't really yours! This is crazy excreta.

Very interesting points, very very interesting indeed.

pro01:

Yet another reason why "I'm so paranoid about marriage". Women get themselves involved in all kinds of excreta - accepting favours of all kinds from all kinds of men. . .for which they MUST pay back in kind. Before you know it you'd marry a woman whose loyalty belongs to 'something' in 200 trousers out there - ranging from her boss(es) to pastors, lecturers, pimps, generous neigbour, car dealer, 'uncles', 'family friends', the list goes on and on. And the scary part is that you may never find out that she's doing such dirt, or that the basterd child(ren) ain't really yours! This is crazy excreta.

nice one boss!

God! i cnt believ this!

Sorry Dear!
I take one that has gone thru what u went thru to understand wat it means to feed n care for your familly at the tender age.

I blame all this to your Father and mother.

Take heart and pls run back n talk with ur boss b4 ur hubby comes back.

sorry

pro01:

Yet another reason why "I'm so paranoid about marriage". Women get themselves involved in all kinds of excreta - accepting favours of all kinds from all kinds of men. . .for which they MUST pay back in kind. Before you know it you'd marry a woman whose loyalty belongs to 'something' in 200 trousers out there - ranging from her boss(es) to pastors, lecturers, pimps, generous neigbour, car dealer, 'uncles', 'family friends', the list goes on and on. And the scary part is that you may never find out that she's doing such dirt, or that the basterd child(ren) ain't really yours! This is crazy excreta.

infact fed-up bro

God! i cnt believ this!

Sorry Dear!
It takes one that has gone thru what u went thru to understand wat it means to feed n care for your familly at the tender age.

I blame all this to your Father and mother.

Take heart and pls run back n talk with ur boss b4 ur hubby comes back.

sorry

pro01:

Yet another reason why "I'm so paranoid about marriage". Women get themselves involved in all kinds of excreta - accepting favours of all kinds from all kinds of men. . .for which they MUST pay back in kind. Before you know it you'd marry a woman whose loyalty belongs to 'something' in 200 trousers out there - ranging from her boss(es) to pastors, lecturers, pimps, generous neigbour, car dealer, 'uncles', 'family friends', the list goes on and on. And the scary part is that you may never find out that she's doing such dirt, or that the basterd child(ren) ain't really yours! This is crazy excreta.

small wonder men dey look for virgin to marry

Tomorrow they'll say men are heartless.

She knew she'd been sleeping with her boss before she got married. She should have aborted the baby first chance she got and saved the kid and other parties the potential misery.

Better still she could have done the unselfish thing and opted out of her marriage knowing she hadn't settled matters with her boss. Then if she had the kid no one would blame her.

No, she had to lie, cheat and deceive and put another man's life in misery and they're still talking of sorting stuff out with the boss, when the offended party is someone else.

na wah o, somethings people do.

Why do u guyz keep talking bout forgiveness, yep forgive but no way in hell am i going to acept another man's son. can u imagine the depth of the treachery of this lady, u couldn't even come clean. U now claim to give sex because the MD quelled things. So when next there's an issue and the Md helps out , then he gets laid.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrggggghhhhhhhhhhh

Na wa ooo,wahala dey.Just forget about the husband and settle things with the boss.There are consequences for each of our actions.First take d boss and baby for DNA test before the husband comes back.because sometimes the mind can play dirty tricks.If it turns out to be ur bosses baby, talk to him about it and be prepared to live the rest of your life as a baby mama.if the baby is for the boss, pack out of ur husbands house before he meets u there and strangles u.

2bad.

WOW !

What kind of advice can you offer.

This marriage is as good as over

i think you should ask him for forgiveness,though you lied about yourself to your husband,let him know the situation that led you to it,and that it was not intentional,but if he insist on behaving the way he is,though not saying it directly i am sorry my dear, you have to leave him.but bear it in mind that after the dark cloud,the sun is bound to shine.

This is some crazy story here ,
The marriage is so over. . . . . . . .

@Poster

Another reason why the concept of marriage seems less and less attractive to me with each passing day.Sometimes, i think it's best for a man to go into ONLY when he wants children and not because of falsehood called "love".Marriage is definitely NOT the road to happiness for a man.

Tomorrow, these same type of women will be the ones playing the victim.

Pant wey don slack better pass you, how could you do ''it'' a week b4 ur lifetime commitment? yeye