March 23 2016 we met in my church he came for rehearsal, I will say it was love at first sight cos I catch him looking at me countless time. few weeks later we started dating everything was going on fine we loved each other but weeks after my birthday he became broke for close to 8 months I didn't cheat on him I shared my pocket money with him I sleepover at his place sometimes and make him happy during this time he has a studio but people were not patronising him well but I still stood by him early this year things changed for him and everything became fine but we started having issues because of a girl we both know she's a slit but keeps saying she's like a younger sister to him that nothing is between them,few weeks later anytime I want to come he will ask me not to come because of my exam which wasn't disturbing but used that as a way to avoid m,and since then he has been giving me attitude everytime which I always beg him cos I really love this is a guy that promise me heaven and earth that no matter what happens I will be his wife and the mother of his kids,but few weeks ago he said he wants to breakup with me that I was bringing bad luck to him anytime he has sex with me that he went to a prophet and they told him we don't have a bright future together I just said okay and I left him not wholeheartedly cos I still love him the more I try to forget him the more I think of him beside me days later he blocked me on whatsapp and stopped talking to me and doesn't pick my call but am surprised he could do such cos we have both gone to different places and they say we're meant to be together and even said under no circumstances will he not get married to me,but looking at it now the love of my life had turned to someone that doesn't want to see me nor talk to me I love him,i really love him am just confused and finding it hard to move on

Premarital sex is not good...full stop.
Your body is the temple of God!

But you will move on so hold in there...

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LivingFree:
But you will move on so hold in there...

have been trying to move on but it's not working,just surprised he could say such

You're not the first that has found herself in such a situation and certainly won't be the last. The thing with such guys is that you made the mistake of making them the centre of your life while they saw you as another girl to use and dump when they feel the need to. Hurt as you could, cry if you have to but trust me, on the long run, you'll be grateful you moved on so just move on as your rightful man will find you.

kimbraa:
You're not the first that has found herself in such a situation and certainly won't be the last. The thing with such guys is that you made the mistake of making them the centre of your life while they saw you as another girl to use and dump when they feel the need to. Hurt as you could, cry if you have to but trust me, on the long run, you'll be grateful you moved on so just move on as your rightful man will find you.

thank you so much

AroOkigbo:
Premarital sex is not good...full stop.
Your body is the temple of God!

I know it wasn't worth it then but just had to make him happy

Hmmm Just move on...Life goes on

T1t1layo:
thank you so much

You're welcome.

One unfortunate InCel would Now inherit this expended, desperate Poosay.

He has already told you his mind...
Though you can commit it to God in prayer

T1t1layo:
have been trying to move on but it's not working,just surprised he could say such

Get rid of anything that reminds you of him. Phone number(s), pictures, block him on FB if you have him there, remove him on whatsapp, get closer to friends now 'cause being in company of people would distract you. That's how to move on from who you loved.

You really don't need to best yourself down. I'm not gon condemn you neither will I condemn your actions. Learn from your mistake, tell yourself you can do better, tell yourself you'll still be happy and loved. Tell yourself it's just a step closer to building you into the perfect woman. Don't let such a guy bring you down, Karma is always waiting round the corner. Rebuild yourself, Grow and see you'll meet the right person for you

T1t1layo:
March 23 2016 we met in my church he came for rehearsal, I will say it was love at first sight cos I catch him looking at me countless time. few weeks later we started dating everything was going on fine we loved each other but weeks after my birthday he became broke for close to 8 months I didn't cheat on him I shared my pocket money with him I sleepover at his place sometimes and make him happy during this time he has a studio but people were not patronising him well but I still stood by him early this year things changed for him and everything became fine but we started having issues because of a girl we both know she's a slit but keeps saying she's like a younger sister to him that nothing is between them,few weeks later anytime I want to come he will ask me not to come because of my exam which wasn't disturbing but used that as a way to avoid m,and since then he has been giving me attitude everytime which I always beg him cos I really love this is a guy that promise me heaven and earth that no matter what happens I will be his wife and the mother of his kids,but few weeks ago he said he wants to breakup with me that I was bringing bad luck to him anytime he has sex with me that he went to a prophet and they told him we don't have a bright future together I just said okay and I left him not wholeheartedly cos I still love him the more I try to forget him the more I think of him beside me days later he blocked me on whatsapp and stopped talking to me and doesn't pick my call but am surprised he could do such cos we have both gone to different places and they say we're meant to be together and even said under no circumstances will he not get married to me,but looking at it now the love of my life had turned to someone that doesn't want to see me nor talk to me I love him,i really love him am just confused and finding it hard to move on

Hey darling,
You will be fine. Okay? I am sorry for your pain. Guys and girls go through this sometimes. It is perfectly normal. Don't beat yourself too much, okay? Try to get up, even though it might be hard. Just take care of yourself, especially your mental health.

Bear hugs.
It is well.

kiddoiLL:
You really don't need to best yourself down. I'm not gon condemn you neither will I condemn your actions. Learn from your mistake, tell yourself you can do better, tell yourself you'll still be happy and loved. Tell yourself it's just a step closer to building you into the perfect woman. Don't let such a guy bring you down, Karma is always waiting round the corner. Rebuild yourself, Grow and see you'll meet the right person for you

thank you

SoapQueen:


Hey darling,
You will be fine. Okay? I am sorry for your pain. Guys and girls go through this sometimes. It is perfectly normal. Don't beat yourself too much, okay? Try to get up, even though it might be hard. Just take care of yourself, especially your mental health.

Bear hugs.
It is well.

thanks dear

kimbraa:
Get rid of anything that reminds you of him. Phone number(s), pictures, block him on FB if you have him there, remove him on whatsapp, get closer to friends now 'cause being in company of people would distract you. That's how to move on from who you loved.

my sister have done all that I don't have friends,he was the only friend I had for 3 weeks now have been at home nowhere to chill just me and my phone,to be sincere it's really hard for me

Who would have seen people in a religious gathering and imagine the heart is far from the word being preached or the service they render?

People you see in religious gathering aren't always the most decent and loyal


@poster : Always remember that a relationship is an avenue to learn something new (either favourable or not).
Things like this are needed at times just to build you.


Lack of preparation for a phase or action is the cause of people getting their fingers burnt.


Build your self esteem and read more (equip yourself with knowledge and pursue your dream).

Doing all this will earn you respect from him. Prove your life/existence does not depend on him.

You mentioned not having much friends (which isn't a crime), come to nairaland to read news/stories if you are less busy to lighten up your mood.....

T1t1layo:
I know it wasn't worth it then but just had to make him happy

I am surprised at what made you believe you are responsible for anyone's happiness.


If you intend to take it upon yourself to make people happy considering the situation of things in this country now, your guess is as good as mine on what your body count would be....lol



beside, who still consult so called marriage success checkers(prophet/alfa/herbalist)??
smh.
those that can hardly maintain their marriages.

T1t1layo:
have been trying to move on but it's not working,just surprised he could say such

Surprise is over. He did do it. So, what next?
You can cry be depressed but sooner or later you'll have to move on. He is in the forefront of your mind because you have nothing going for you to keep you busy so find something to do.
Learn something new, throw yourself into your work or studies, anything that will occupy your mind. I won't lie and say it will take a month to get over him, it could take 5 or a year but you will forget about him and this feeling won't be as intense.
You can beg him and plead but you'll be setting yourself up to fail, if he's a half decent human being he'll ignore and reject your proposal but if he's a demon he will take you back to demoralise you and break your spirit.
Whenever life becomes boring or you get low esteem, you'll think about him but when the mood changes you'll forget about him.
I usually count the months like I'm on a rehab programme and I will celebrate every 10 days without him and by the third month, I forget to count because I have forgotten about him, then the thought will pop up once a month and I am ok because I can talk myself out of it.
You will be just fine...
You should work on your self esteem though. You have a lot of work to do as far as reading and exposing yourself to this beautiful world and all the wonderful ideas and inspirations and way of living, that's out there... do whatever you love.

Im sorry this happened to you. But you will be fine. It is very painful now bc it is fresh.but in time you will look back at this as just another disappointment in life. Cry when u need to, then dry your tears and pick yourself up. Do this as often as you need to. Surround yourself with family and friends that care about you. If u need some new ones, feel free to reach out to me. Then take the energy you were investing in the relationship and reinvest it in yourself with new hobbies, skills, or whatever will make yourself better. Finally dont beat yourself up about being a caring and giving person. Heartbreak can either build u into a stronger person or break you. Dont choose the latter. Afterall we will hear from him again when in a couple of months time, he will be here complaining about how theres no good women left and that all women are golddiggers, blah blah blah.

Used and dumped. Yet u no wan move on. U silly

Olami90:


I am surprised at what made you believe you are responsible for anyone's happiness.


If you intend to take it upon yourself to make people happy considering the situation of things in this country now, your guess is as good as mine on what your body count would be....lol



beside, who still consult so called marriage success checkers(prophet/alfa/herbalist)??
smh.
those that can hardly maintain their marriages.

na format to discharge am

T1t1layo:
my sister have done all that I don't have friends,he was the only friend I had for 3 weeks now have been at home nowhere to chill just me and my phone,to be sincere it's really hard for me

This right here is one mistake some ladies make. You get one small boyfriend and all your friends become potential boyfriend snatcher in your eye. You leave your hobbies, friends, career and focus on satisfying him. We carry this mentality into marriage.

That's why you find out that, outside being good girlfriends and wives, most women have nothing else going on for them.
Wrong move, very wrong move.

That said, you will fine, this has happened to most of us at one point in life. Watch movies, go out, chat with friends, read books...just channel the energy somewhere POSITIVE. Learn from the hurt, but never transfer the hurt to another innocent young man.
You will be fine #hugs

Girls and funny sacrifices they feel obliged to make! . You don't sleep with a man because you want to make him happy... If you've got this mindset, men will easily work on your psyche and before you realise it, you've slept with a village!

Your estranged boyfriend never loved you enough. You were the mitochondrion of that relationship, so the minute he found someone else who tickled his fancy better, he moved on without remorse. That pastor talk is just horse shit!

As Kimbraa stated, you staked too much for this dude even when he wasn't desrving. You got way too immersed in the relationship. You should learn to be detached even while still being committed.
Have some dignity baby girl and cut off that boy completely, else he'll never respect you...he'll never feel as though he lost something.

Babe u just have to move on we are different in nature, people like me dont need 24 hours to move on. We need 30mins lol. Keep yasef busy and stay around family it will go a long way to stop that awkward feeling. Then about self-esteem it high time u work on it, will help you further.

T1t1layo:
March 23 2016 we met in my church he came for rehearsal, I will say it was love at first sight cos I catch him looking at me countless time. few weeks later we started dating everything was going on fine we loved each other but weeks after my birthday he became broke for close to 8 months I didn't cheat on him I shared my pocket money with him I sleepover at his place sometimes and make him happy during this time he has a studio but people were not patronising him well but I still stood by him early this year things changed for him and everything became fine but we started having issues because of a girl we both know she's a slit but keeps saying she's like a younger sister to him that nothing is between them,few weeks later anytime I want to come he will ask me not to come because of my exam which wasn't disturbing but used that as a way to avoid m,and since then he has been giving me attitude everytime which I always beg him cos I really love this is a guy that promise me heaven and earth that no matter what happens I will be his wife and the mother of his kids,but few weeks ago he said he wants to breakup with me that I was bringing bad luck to him anytime he has sex with me that he went to a prophet and they told him we don't have a bright future together I just said okay and I left him not wholeheartedly cos I still love him the more I try to forget him the more I think of him beside me days later he blocked me on whatsapp and stopped talking to me and doesn't pick my call but am surprised he could do such cos we have both gone to different places and they say we're meant to be together and even said under no circumstances will he not get married to me,but looking at it now the love of my life had turned to someone that doesn't want to see me nor talk to me I love him,i really love him am just confused and finding it hard to move on

If the both of you have checked out different places and this is happening, it means it's something that could lead to marriage, but there's a snake in the wall somewhere. PM me, let's discuss offline, i have an important information to pass across to you regarding the situation that may resolve issues and restore your relationship.

LivingFree:
But you will move on so hold in there...

My subtle troublemaker-divva

T1t1layo:
I know it wasn't worth it then but just had to make him happy

is he the one that deflower u

let me pm u

The conversation above ne Na wahala o.

kunleweb:




If the both of you have checked out different places and this is happening, it means it's something that could lead to marriage, but there's a snake in the wall somewhere. PM me, let's discuss offline, i have an important information to pass across to you regarding the situation that may resolve issues and restore your relationship.

criminal! You've seen a potential victim and you want to prowl. You lot are the problem with nigeria and please and please come for me ole, con artist.