I wrote this down to enable you understand why someone else might hurt you without knowing. There can be a lot of things that can trigger that.

Here are 6 stages you pass through when you are hurt

STAGE 1. Not accepting the truth

For instance, when one gets heartbroken in a relationship or in friendship, the person can pretend not to feel it for a while.

The person might just do away with it believing its not true or maybe its a dream or something unreal.

Someone who lost a loved one to death, a mother or a father or husband can just react to it in a way that it never happened. He or she might try to bear the pain for a while as though it never existed nor occurred.

STAGE 2. The nostalgic stage

Then, in this stage, the person feels home sick. Familiar memories begin to sprout out. And he or she begins to react in respect to what they feel. They get offended and might get angry too.

The hurt at this stage becomes unbearable and they can lash it out on anyone. A person from a broken home or a broken past can express oneself by such route.

Where we come from has a great way of affecting what we feel. But it takes self control and grace to pass through this phase.

STAGE 3. The frustration or blaming stage.

At this stage, the person becomes angry with everyone around him or her.They react in inhumane ways and begin to blame everyone for their problems. They forget those that helped them at this moment because they are deeply injured.


This is where he or she can actually hurt you without even having a clue that you’re hurt. At this stage, the person is in deep turmoil. A battle field is set and the person does not care anymore.

At some point, they might cut of the friendship they have with you.

STAGE 4. Weighing of options.

Here, they begin to search for a cure to their frustration. They now weigh options. ”Maybe if I do this , I feel better or maybe if I meet him, I feel good,”that’s how they think for a while.

Meanwhile, they now go out seeking for peace and contentment in the wrong place which they might never find.

STAGE 5. Accepting it’s part of life.

Having passed stage 4 and they find no remedy, they accept it’s their fate . a they begin to live with it. That’s why we find so much bitter people on our way to work, to church ,to school, etc.
They might end up hurting you if you let them.

STAGE 6. “The running to God stage”

This is the stage that most people in pain don’t get to. They either remain in stage 5 or they run to God. Some no longer believe in it because they have blamed God for everything.

In conclusion, this is the best stage one hurting can end with. Casting all your hurts to God so you have peace of mind knowing that the world is full of pain but that deep Joy within comes from God.

Thanks for your time.
Source: www.heartidotes.com

cc: lalasticlala, mynd44, Dominique

so true. you know my preacher will always say God never promised us a smooth journey but a safe landing.

I can relate to all except number 2. Heartbreak is terrible mehn

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nanauju:
I can relate to all except number 2. Heartbreak is terrible mehn

Its well

chiommy123:
so true. you know my preacher will always say God never promised us a smooth journey but a safe landing.

sure.thanks