Good evening admin,

Please hide my ID. My wedding is in three weeks and I am developing serious cold feet . I need you to help me sort this out. I met Dele three years ago when I was doing my youth service. Our love is so beautiful; I love him with all my heart. We dated a year before he proposed. All was well until a year after.

You see,Dele lives in a block of three flats. He has a neighbor who is a married. The wife is from same state as Dele so they are close. They act like brother and sister. I didn’t have any reason to be uncomfortable with their friendship cos we all hang out every week. She and her husband come to Dele’s apartment often and we also come around theirs. They are a nice couple. Married for four years no children yet but they seemed happy.

After a while,I noticed that Dele and the neighbor’s wife didn’t seem friendly anymore. In fact,she stopped coming to his apartment. Her husband noticed it too. I suspected they had a misunderstanding so I asked Dele. He got angry and said.....

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the same effort used in highlighting the text to that point, why you nor just use am finish?. and direct the link so we can make commets(advice), don't you know my phone is push and start without reverse!.

TadM:
the same effort used in highlighting the text to that point, why you nor just use am finish?. and direct the link so we can make commets(advice), don't you know my phone is push and start without reverse!.

If being angry is Dele's response to your question, he definitely has skeleton in his closet. He probably wanted to fvck the woman that she refused or they have been fvcking each other and something happened between them

He got angry and said I should forget about it. That he thinks they should mind their business while we mind ours. I became worried and went to see this lady. I kept asking and she kept telling me nothing but I persisted. She asked me to leave her house. That was when I knew it was serious. So I came up with a plan. I stole Dele’s phone and chatted with the lady. I pretended to be Dele and apologized to her for my behavior. She replied that she too is sorry that it was her fault. That she shouldn’t have bothered him with her marital problems. That she felt she led him to have s*x with her and that she regrets it but that she is also in love with him. I definitely wasn’t ready for what she revealed. I then replied that its not Dele chatting but me. She called me immediately. I didn’t answer so she came over. She explained that she made a terrible mistake by sleeping with Dele only once and since that time both of them regretted it and that is why they are keeping away from each other. She cried and begged for my forgiveness. She told me not to leave Dele cos of this cos he is a good man. She also begged me not to tell her husband. When I confronted Dele,he confirmed all she told me. I couldn’t take it and broke up with Dele. He kept begging me for almost two months before I agreed. I loved him and I couldn’t stay away. That was about eight months ago. Now,my wedding being so close,I am getting cold feet,thinking I may be marrying the wrong person. Cos if while we were dating,my fiance couldn’t stay faithful,what would happen when we get married? Even having to see the neighbor’s wife all the time reminds me of the pain they caused me. Dele says he would look for another apartment if that is what I want. Please advice me..do you think that Dele is being honest and will never cheat on me in marriage? They say once a cheater,always a cheater? Should I marry him or forget about him since I have my doubts?

bammy777:
He got angry and said I
should forget about it. That he thinks they should mind their
business while we mind ours. I became worried and went to
see this lady. I kept asking and she kept telling me nothing but
I persisted. She asked me to leave her house. That was when I
knew it was serious. So I came up with a plan. I stole Dele’s
phone and chatted with the lady. I pretended to be Dele and
apologized to her for my behavior. She replied that she too is
sorry that it was her fault. That she shouldn’t have bothered
him with her marital problems. That she felt she led him to
have s*x with her and that she regrets it but that she is also in
love with him.
I definitely wasn’t ready for what she revealed. I then replied
that its not Dele chatting but me. She called me immediately. I
didn’t answer so she came over. She explained that she made
a terrible mistake by sleeping with Dele only once and since
that time both of them regretted it and that is why they are
keeping away from each other. She cried and begged for my
forgiveness. She told me not to leave Dele cos of this cos he is
a good man. She also begged me not to tell her husband.
When I confronted Dele,he confirmed all she told me. I couldn’t
take it and broke up with Dele. He kept begging me for almost
two months before I agreed. I loved him and I couldn’t stay
away. That was about eight months ago. Now,my wedding
being so close,I am getting cold feet,thinking I may be
marrying the wrong person. Cos if while we were dating,my
fiance couldn’t stay faithful,what would happen when we get
married? Even having to see the neighbor’s wife all the time
reminds me of the pain they caused me. Dele says he would
look for another apartment if that is what I want.
Please advice me..do you think that Dele is being honest and
will never cheat on me in marriage? They say once a
cheater,always a cheater? Should I marry him or forget about
him since I have my doubts?

Team full story, you got there before me

FULL STORY

After a while,I noticed that Dele and the neighbor’s wife didn’t seem friendly anymore. In fact,she stopped coming to his apartment. Her husband noticed it too. I suspected they had a misunderstanding so I asked Dele. He got angry and said I should forget about it. That he thinks they should mind their business while we mind ours. I became worried and went to see this lady. I kept asking and she kept telling me nothing but I persisted. She asked me to leave her house. That was when I knew it was serious. So I came up with a plan. I stole Dele’s phone and chatted with the lady. I pretended to be Dele and apologized to her for my behavior. She replied that she too is sorry that it was her fault. That she shouldn’t have bothered him with her marital problems. That she felt she led him to have s*x with her and that she regrets it but that she is also in love with him.

I definitely wasn’t ready for what she revealed. I then replied that its not Dele chatting but me. She called me immediately. I didn’t answer so she came over. She explained that she made a terrible mistake by sleeping with Dele only once and since that time both of them regretted it and that is why they are keeping away from each other. She cried and begged for my forgiveness. She told me not to leave Dele cos of this cos he is a good man. She also begged me not to tell her husband.

When I confronted Dele,he confirmed all she told me. I couldn’t take it and broke up with Dele. He kept begging me for almost two months before I agreed. I loved him and I couldn’t stay away. That was about eight months ago. Now,my wedding being so close,I am getting cold feet,thinking I may be marrying the wrong person. Cos if while we were dating,my fiance couldn’t stay faithful,what would happen when we get married? Even having to see the neighbor’s wife all the time reminds me of the pain they caused me. Dele says he would look for another apartment if that is what I want.

Please advice me..do you think that Dele is being honest and will never cheat on me in marriage? They say once a cheater,always a cheater? Should I marry him or forget about him since I have my doubts?

From Anonymous,

Ikoyi,Lagos