Hello friends, please permit me to seek for opinions on this disturbing issue I have with my wife. I married my wife 3years ago after we been friends for 2years, I love her so much that moments am not with her I feel lonely, there is nothing I can do without her.

the problem started which I can't explain how it's happening but I find my self irritated and little angry when my lovely wife try having a deep conversation with me. I may be the one to try telling her something but the way she reply ( which isn't in a bad way) yet I get crossed.

Am 39 years. Meanwhile she is a white lady. Please I need help before I ruin my marriage. Am not a cheater never cheated o.

I need advice from married people pls

You're missing the things a Nigerian lady would have done she's not doing like cooking some local delicious meal for you

Take her to your mum to teach her, she'll learn

since when have married people given any constructive advice? married people are more concerned with avoiding divorce than facing the truth.

I beg you in the name of Jesus Christ, hold your wife so tight. Hear this & hear me well "opportunities look like your right until it becomes your main prayer point when it is lost"... You have your wife at your disposal now & you are irritated, one day, you may invite 200 people to beg her & you may never get her again. Be very careful!!!!!!!! You think it is easy to see love anyhow. because you saw love around you & you are irritated. Boss well done!! May God have deep mercy on you before you come to nairaland again to seek for advice on how to get your wife back to even love you for 20minutes

Disclaimer- I'm single, but i have been around the block a few times.

1. the issue is quite simple.

Remember that thing people say about familiarity? maybe you feel you know her too well, and you think there is nothing new she can say that will...wow you.

It's a phase, it will pass, but for it to happen, you both should go on a vacation, or she should and you stay...or vice versa. See her from a distance.. or you could encourage her to change her fashion style or hairstyle or even exercise more.

trust me, the changes and the small time spent apart will light things up for you both.

Also remember, she's worth more than anything in skirts , out there.

We grow weary of the familiar, true, but it is your job, to value it , and improve it while you have it.

confront your irritation. and ask yourself why.

Peace.

Take a break from her, travel somewhere for at least a month, absence makes the heart grow fonder, you need space. If this doesn't work, get a sidechic(at your own risk oooo)

For recognizing the issue you can handle it. It happens in marriage, being upset with your spouse unnecessarily; not wanting any form of communication. Just hold your self, the phase will pass off.

You are consciously or unconsciously worried about an important issue that have to do with her or your home.
Please try and look at the positive side of things. Remember the first love and be optimistic that you shall be fulfilled at last, by the mercies of God.

The anger you're taking out on your wife during conversations might stem from an insecurity. Search within to figure it out, then nip it in the bud asap before it starts affecting her and your marriage.

Ikem11:
I need advice from married people pls

I'm not married, but there's my opinion anyway.

search very well, maybe there is a female friend somewhere you are getting too close to.
There is one that you are defending right now......then that's the issue take her out of your life before she take you out of your marriage.

joseo:
search very well, maybe there is a female friend somewhere you are getting too close to.
There is one that you are defending right now......then that's the issue take her out of your life before she take you out of your marriage.

Another good reason.

It seems you have been saying a lot with each other and now anything she says is like a repetition of a previous conversation, it can be pretty irritating

You know the truth,buh u don't wanna admit it to yourself,buh i would tell u cos I've once been in yuh shoes, the truth is that you no longer love her like you used to, e be like say the mumu done dey clear for yuh eyes n now u r getting to see her as she is,n u really don't like what yuh seeing...

MISEDUCATIONS:
since when have married people given any constructive advice? married people are more concerned with avoiding divorce than facing the truth.

Ubunja,, abeg, I kneel down de beg, for once try comment straight while flowing with the thoughts of the op rather than single out some words for negativity

austyn0:
Ubunja,, abeg, I kneel down de beg, for once try comment straight while flowing with the thoughts of the op rather than single out some words for negativity

austyn lol i'll try.

I am not yet married neither do i intend to soonest

But i can relate cos i have been in such relationship ..

I think the first and foremost thing U need to appreciate is that U both are from different cultural backgrounds

She might be sounding dumb to U but maybe one of her kin folks will find it very enlightening..

The most important thing to learn in your bicultural relationship is that not only can She learn from U but U to her likewise everyday (that what so sweet bout it)

If U feel her convo isnt up to your taste, why not talk much to her concerning these topics so that she learns more directly/indirectly from U

Also are U a Cnn, Bbc or Nta person? Continual switching to these stations will let her learn one or more bout your interests and how to engage U better.

Bros make a list � like an inventory of what you hate about her and what you like. Those ones you hate are the things you will work to change her.
Download this pdf document.

Ikem11:
I need advice from married people pls

If you're not a cheat, delete this comment. How can you open a thread and also cheat in stealing FTC? Bros you have just cheated. Go and love your wife.

It happens, its not necessarily about being over familiar, it might just be a matter of not having the same level of connection you had earlier in the relationship