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She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by victor01(m): 2:01pm On Jun 11, 2010
My story is one of true romance,bliss and unending passion.We met sometime ago and now the relationship is healthy and growing.Honestly am thinking about asking her the big question inorder to take it to the next level.Well you folks might be wondering why i started this thread.Are there issues that i need to be concerned about as i am willing to take the bull by the horn, funny enough,this is my first of actually falling for someone older than I . Comments please!!!
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by IbrahimB: 3:19pm On Jun 11, 2010
Nothing wrong except she'll start growing grey hairs before you  cheesy

Second issue: How close to 40 years is she? (Since you're considering marriage this may be an important point)

Third issue: Men in general are more attracted to younger women. You don't want a scenario where one day you'll be wondering if your wife isn't rather old.
Especially, if you unconsciously (or consciously) start comparing her to some of the younger ladies you see around. This is very important.

However, if you're certain she's the one, then go ahead - even if she's 6 years older. 

PS
I'm assuming she's also aware she's 6 years older than you and is okay with it.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by xynerise: 3:26pm On Jun 11, 2010
@poster. Do u find happiness in her? If yes then why are u disturbing urself? U might find a younger gal who nags a lot. What a man needs in a woman is peace of mind and happiness.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Pweety4me(f): 3:29pm On Jun 11, 2010
She is d older bigger person so allow her make d move jare. . . undecided grin tongue
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by baussy(f): 3:34pm On Jun 11, 2010
Age ain't nothin but a number!!! Hey if u r ok wiff it and she makes you happy like crazy,& vice versa then go on & ask the big question. Whatever helps you sleep & nite cheesy


P.S
Emm but how old r you cos i think that's important if you wanna have kids & she's past the child bearing age unless u guyz r good 2 go wiff adoption, then carry on,
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by dosht(f): 3:48pm On Jun 11, 2010
@poster. Do u find happiness in her? If yes then why are u disturbing urself? U might find a younger gal who nags a lot. What a man needs in a woman is peace of mind and happiness.



Yes
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by ITgurlie(f): 3:51pm On Jun 11, 2010
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
@ poster age is but a number, but love conquers all wink wink

So if you both love each other and you're sure she's the one, then go ahead shocked smiley smiley
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by xynerise: 3:52pm On Jun 11, 2010
Pweety4me:

She is d older bigger person so allow her make d move jare. . . undecided grin tongue
My runaway bride grin
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Pweety4me(f): 3:58pm On Jun 11, 2010
xynerise:

My runaway bride grin
Yu wish broke[i]n[/i] a$S, , , tongue grin

u gud?
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by omega25red(m): 4:00pm On Jun 11, 2010
who cares how old a person is? if they make you happy thats whats important
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by xynerise: 4:09pm On Jun 11, 2010
Pweety4me:

Yu wish broke[i]n[/i] a$S, , , tongue grin

u gud?
This is why I left u grin
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Pweety4me(f): 4:19pm On Jun 11, 2010
xynerise:

This is why I left u grin
No d reason y u never had a chance wif me! cheesy tongue
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by xynerise: 4:29pm On Jun 11, 2010
You are just playing hard to get because I wasnt desperate.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Nobody: 4:31pm On Jun 11, 2010
Olders in the house oyah come out.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by olson(m): 5:29pm On Jun 11, 2010
It depend on the maturity of both of you. You know we are human, sometimes we try to play seniority. Has the husband if she can play along with your decision, I think there will be no problem.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by femmy2010(m): 2:25am On Jun 12, 2010
If am seeing someone 6yr older than me and frankly do love her and see the age as a non issue,would i now start asking for views frm the generality of the public on an hitherto non-issue?frankly,seems u are having a 2nd thought and u need more people to align with ur want b4 u move further into the bubbling relationship.Man,if u want and luv her for her then end this thread and hold on to your true love as u never can tell when a huge imposing view might start militating against the sweet progression u are experience with the she u love greatly.My myopic point of view though.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Jaideyone(m): 7:39am On Jun 12, 2010
6yrs? That's much
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by adebayo111: 8:11am On Jun 12, 2010
That was exactly what i was thinking before i got married. She was 30 and i was 28 in the year 2002. I now have 2 kids from her and she look much more older than me today. She is now 38 and i am 36.

At the beginning we allow love to override our thinking, and as times go on we tend to realize what we av done. i being a man will always act like one but shes always refusing to play along forgetting that since i am the husband automatically i am the most senior person in the house and i should be calling the shot.

I wont advise u to get married to her. As you will end up complaining about her look (effect of aging) 10yrs after your marriage

Also remember that getting a good woman is not by experience but the grace of God.
OJA OKUNKUN NI OBINRIN can someone translate that?
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by maileby(m): 10:07am On Jun 12, 2010
adebayo111:

That was exactly what i was thinking before i got married. She was 30 and i was 28 in the year 2002. I now have 2 kids from her and she look much more older than me today. She is now 38 and i am 36.

At the beginning we allow love to override our thinking, and as times go on we tend to realize what we av done. i being a man will always act like one but shes always refusing to play along forgetting that since i am the husband automatically i am the most senior person in the house and i should be calling the shot.

I wont advise u to get married to her. As you will end up complaining about her look (effect of aging) 10yrs after your marriage

Also remember that getting a good woman is not by experience but the grace of God.
OJA OKUNKUN NI OBINRIN can someone translate that?



Experience!!!

@Poster, listen to this dude. I think he has said it all. 6yrs "no be joke oh"
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by hbabe(f): 10:27am On Jun 12, 2010
Age difference in a relationship is a relative issue, only the two people involved can make that decision and not some faceless online-people or their opinion. However I advise you to consider these points:-

Do you both love eachother?
Should she age faster than you, can you accept it and continue to love her?
Does she give you your due respect as a man/human being?
Are you confident enough to accept that her decisions (now and in future) are not made because she is older?
Are you able to stand your ground when friends and family start making jests coz of her age?

Also the house should be informed that the woman reaches the age of menopause at an average age of 50; some earlier and others older. Also we see ladies of 45 looking quite good, its a matter of good genes and taking care of one's body. Same way we have young girls of 20 looking quite worn out and far older than their age.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by femmy2010(m): 11:08am On Jun 12, 2010
Well said .
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Nobody: 11:13am On Jun 12, 2010
@ topic

i really doubt that your crazy about her, if you truly are, your A.S.S. wouldn't be on NL asking for views.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by femmy2010(m): 11:16am On Jun 12, 2010
Adusol,
You have sum it up.
He is not crazy about her and better he edit his comment to reflect that.
That would make the perfect advice to give easy.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Nobody: 11:23am On Jun 12, 2010
@poster- our people say its best to learn from experience-adebayo111 has been there and still in it, and has shared his heart advise-dont go ahead.

because you'll forever be confronted with the question of her looks-6yrs is much honestly. lets seperate love from sound reasoning.

@hbabe--you shouldnt run down above poster's advice calling him faceless online person. Quite rude, no offences meant.

@poster--answer above questions and make a life lasting choice.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by sevule(m): 5:47pm On Jun 12, 2010
My guy babes depreciate with age while guys are like fine wine that can only appreciate with age. So if you do not mind the fact that in a couple of years time she would be looking like your mama then go ahead but if you do, then you know what to do
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by tpiah: 2:03am On Jun 13, 2010
sevule:

My guy babes depreciate with age while guys are like fine wine that can only appreciate with age. So if you do not mind the fact that in a couple of years time she would be looking like your mama then go ahead but if you do, then you know what to do

i'd say it's the other way round.

far too many younger women hanging on the arms of men initially assumed to be their fathers, but alas its not so.

if we want to talk about depreciation. . . . . , lets not even go there. Zuma still dey fume over the unknown pregnancy of questionable origin wey dey im mansion.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Osama10(m): 2:32am On Jun 13, 2010
Better be with your senses man, its not going to work in the long run.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by hbabe(f): 3:21am On Jun 13, 2010
@Valacious
'Faceless online people' is generic for every individual character on the internet, meaning we don't know ourselves. I was referring to everyone including you and I who chats/posts online without having face to face contact. It is not a rude comment nor did I mean any poster in particular. I hope you now understand the terminology. Cheers!
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Nobody: 4:11am On Jun 13, 2010
Oh poster, lucky you. I wrote an essay for you, until I saw that your title was not "She's 6 yrs OLD, but I am crazy about her".
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Osama10(m): 5:05am On Jun 13, 2010
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Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by Nobody: 9:25am On Jun 13, 2010
Nothing wrong with dating / marrying an older girl, even if it's a six-year gap.

However, it's worth noting that generally, females mature faster than males, they may not age as well either. It's not uncommon for a couple to have a up to a twelve-year age gap, with the guy being the older one. In ten years time, both will probably look closer in age, or even look like they're the same age, as the man may age at a slower rate.

@ Victor01: It all depends on how the lady looks after herself. If she's the sort to just become complacent, and let herself go, then in five years time, she'll most likely look twelve years older than you, so tread carefully! You know your girl, and what she looks like right now, you're also in a position to know what she'll likely look like in five years time.

Best of luck in your decision.
Re: She Is 6 Yrs Older Than I But Am Crazy About Her: by shmily: 12:49pm On Jun 13, 2010
Most comments on this page has said all you need to look out for. In adding my words, I'll say Girls mature faster and are usually about 2 to 4yrs ahead of guys of the same age, as such we're considering a lady older than you are with about 8yrs. Think deeply about it and don't be in haste cos the age gap will definately come to play once you're married. Look before you leap bro.

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