I just found that my gateman and my housemaid are dating. They seem to be into each other. I really do not see anything wrong with that but my wife. The two lovers are from Northern part of Nigeria and i am an Igbo. my wife doesn't like the relationship, her reason being that we are like a guardian to the girl and anything happens, we are to be blamed for overlooking our responsibility. I still don't see anything wrong because the girl is 19 years but looks 16. She has small body while the gate man should be around 21 or 23, at most. My wife has even banned them speaking Hausa language around the house because neither my wife nor I understand Hausa language. Please advise us on the way forward. Apart from my safety, i care less about adults being adult.

for me I think your wife is wise she is trying to avoid possible coup by them on u. if u know u know

smadav:
for me I think your wife is wise she is trying to avoid possible coup by them on u. if u know u know

thanks for that. na she dey manage us here. she always makes groundbreaking decisions that i would wish i came up with first. i supported her about the language ban

Change the gateman or send away the girl. Do a Saraki on them

Well, it's only natural that they are attracted to each other but under your roof is wrong... Make them no plan bad against you one day... Your wife advised you well and even the language thing should stop since you and your wife don't understand HAUSA

marshalldgreat:
Well, it's only natural that they are attracted to each other but under your roof is wrong... Make them no plan bad against you one day... Your wife advised you well and even the language thing should stop since you and your wife don't understand HAUSA

that is my wife's fear.

Nawa hope u wont regret it, send one of then packing cus if u maltreat one, the other wont like it

How long has this been going on?

pocohantas:
How long has this been going on?

i found out last week Friday.

You and your wife no just like una lives.

you know, there's one thing they call "mind your business", it's in the constitution.

Hector09:
Nawa hope u wont regret it, send one of then packing cus if u maltreat one, the other wont like it

I don't maltreat them amd i don't think my wife does too. I can confirm that apart from our maid's monthly salary, my wife gives her up to 3k every month for what she told me it's female matter. It is only when she speaks that you would know that she is a maid and not a relative

kingxsamz:
you know, there's one thing they call "mind your business", it's in the constitution.

in my own damn roof? I think they are part of my business since i pay them. I should mind

Checked86:
in my own damn roof? I think they are part of my business since i pay them. I should mind

well I don't see how them having a relationship should be your business. All you can do is advice your maid, or do u want to send one of them out?

Preshy561:
You and your wife no just like una lives.

You don dey put fear for my body again

kingxsamz:


well I don't see how them having a relationship should be your business. All you can do is advice your maid, or do u want to send one of them out?

I trust them a lot and i don't want to send one out and bring somebody i will start learning again. I think i will call them together and tell them that i know what they are doing. I might show them some of the Cctv footages if they try denying it. I don't want them to know that i see everything they do around the house. i don't want them to play safe. My wife wants me to show them what they are doing but i told her that it was too trivial

Checked86:
I trust them a lot and i don't want to send one out and bring somebody i will start learning again. I think i will call them together and tell them that i know what they are doing. I might show them some of the Cctv footages if they try denying it. I don't want them to know that i see everything they do around the house. i don't want them to play safe. My wife wants me to show them what they are doing but i told her that it was too trivial

If I may ask, what was it they did that you caught on cctv?

Please change one of them to avoid stories that touch,by the way have any idea which tribe or part of North they are from?
I remember one girl and her bF asconding with their masters valuables,nwanne nwoke biko nkucha abughi ujo,change one if u know whats good for u,by the way i live here in North and i know what am saying,sanu!

Eleyi gidigan

Checked86:
I trust them a lot and i don't want to send one out and bring somebody i will start learning again. I think i will call them together and tell them that i know what they are doing. I might show them some of the Cctv footages if they try denying it. I don't want them to know that i see everything they do around the house. i don't want them to play safe. My wife wants me to show them what they are doing but i told her that it was too trivial

On seeing then dont show them cause like what u said they will start playing safe,just caution them

chris2face:
Please change one of them to avoid stories that touch,by the way have any idea which tribe or part of North they are from?
I remember one girl and her bF asconding with their masters valuables,nwanne nwoke biko nkucha abughi ujo,change one if u know whats good for u,by the way i live here in North and i know what am saying,sanu!

The boy is from Adamawa and the girl is from Kaduna. they are Christians too. Anugom. nga eme ka isi kwuo

You need to intervene urgently. They are probably having sex. If the maid gets pregnant story will change.

Also, if your help are paddy, you are in trouble. If the maid steals anything, the guard will look the other way and vice versa

Op, don't you think sending one packing when they've not actually done anything wrong, can create bad blood and revenge against u and your household? Human beings are vindictive and spiteful.
And trust me that's the last thing u need amongst workers.
My advice is this, call them, talk to them and let them realise what they are doing. Let the maiguard and househelp know, if he gets her pregnant? And denies it? Then that's the end of his job. And u don't condone any form of sexual relationship in your home. Also the househelp, if she gets pregnant that's the end of her work with u. In short anyone caught having sex in the premises? That's the end of their work.. So they have to be serious and focus on what brought them to your compound.
And if your maiguard wants to marry her, then he should do things properly by meeting her people for marriage.
I don't think they are plotting against u or planning to plot.
Security is from God, as long as we treat our workers well. I don't think they are a threat to your household. Except your wife maltreats one of them, that's when she can be this afraid and worrisome.

kingxsamz:


If I may ask, what was it they did that you caught on cctv?

Can we discuss this on any X rated sites?

Checked86:
The boy is from Adamawa and the girl is from Kaduna. they are Christians too. Anugom. nga eme ka isi kwuo

Ok please do this trying finding out if the guy is mumuye,or yanda if he is not then i think ur good to go he wont mess with any of ur thing but if he is please consider leting him go while retaining the girl,speaking from experience,on the other hand u can choose to keep him but always keep an eye on him

Checked86:
I trust them a lot and i don't want to send one out and bring somebody i will start learning again. I think i will call them together and tell them that i know what they are doing. I might show them some of the Cctv footages if they try denying it. I don't want them to know that i see everything they do around the house. i don't want them to play safe. My wife wants me to show them what they are doing but i told her that it was too trivial

Don't send them packing. They don't have evil thoughts against u yet..
Avoid sowing seeds of hate and spite in the heart of your workers. It's not good
Thread with care and wisdom.

victorian:
Op, don't you think sending one packing when they've not actually done anything wrong, can create bad blood and revenge against u and your household? Human beings are vindictive and spiteful.
And trust me that's the last thing u need amongst workers.
My advice is this, call them, talk to them and let them realise what they are doing. Let the maiguard and househelp know, if he gets her pregnant? And denies it? Then that's the end of his job. And u don't condone any form of sexual relationship in your home. Also the househelp, if she gets pregnant that's the end of her work with u. In short anyone caught having sex in the premises? That's the end of their work.. So they have to be serious and focus on what brought them to your compound.

Thanks. A LOT.

Biko leave them o afterall it's a free world...anyways check on our signature for some 18+ naija contents

Checked86:
Thanks. A LOT.

You are welcome.

chris2face:

Ok please do this trying finding out if the guy is mumuye,or yanda if he is not then i think ur good to go he wont mess with any of ur thing but if he is please consider leting him go while retaining the girl,speaking from experience,on the other hand u can choose to keep him but always keep an eye on him

are those names tribes in Adamawa?

It's not professional, if you are paying them both then they shouldn't be dating. It will distract them from work and in worst case scenario it puts your family in danger. Tell them it's not acceptable and that one of them will have to resign if the relationship continues. They can't be making love on your time and money. Your wife is right, you are responsible of the young girl and if she becomes pregnant on your watch what then?

victorian:







Don't send them packing. They don't have evil thoughts against u yet..
Avoid sowing seeds of hate and spite in the heart of your workers. It's not good
Thread with care and wisdom.

Thanks dear. that is why i am here. My wife is just afraid of pregnancy. she wants the best for the girl and she talks with the girl's mother every Sunday evening