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yeah I know, sorry about that.Got any advice for me?

Is she a child ni? You didn't tell her age..shebi You've been carrying her along all this while and ur family knows her. However u shd have opened up to her about ur aunty long ago and not just today.

D distance is also additive to the matter. If she was home with u, she would hardly feel lonely let alone feeling moody over seeing ur aunty. She should accept her but u shd both work on how u can be closer to each other. The distance is making her feel separated...

One tip to help with distances, is to keep each other updated about happenings in ur lives n families from the early stage...the earlier u acquaint each other, the better. Or except ure a talented liar..that too works just dat u have to keep lying smoothly.

Family first... Since everyone in your household accepted her then there's really no need for her to worry or be moody. She should understand you because I believe you would have been supportive and understanding as well if the table were turned.
Just don't neglect your family because of a woman and at same time be there for your woman as well.

Michelle55:
Family first... Since everyone in your household accepted her then there's really no need for her to worry or be moody. She should understand you because I believe you would have been supportive and understanding as well if the table were turned.
Just don't neglect your family because of a woman and at same time be there for your woman as well.

Thank you,I appreciate your input.I only wish that she understands that its just one of those sacrifices life make us do.Atleast for the sake of love. I would do same for her,if the table was turned around. Thanks all the same.

Honestly it would be hard for her and she knows that, cos when you two eventually get married there would be issues yessss and your sis would likely fault things your girl would do that she doesnt like, your girl has been thinking about the future and how it would look like that is why she's reacting that way, i cant advice you on which to do so let me stop here.

Princelyod:
I understand that fact.However,she's not staying that long.we just need her to get her feet.The only reason my family is not renting a place for her here is because it would be weird that she goes to rent a place when I currently stay alone.

Again,my girlfriend can testify that my sister is the very calm type.Its so unfortunate,bad things happen to good people.can't even let her know this as this will send her into depression.

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Princelyod:
I understand that fact.However,she's is not staying too that long.we just need her to get her fit.The only reason my family is not renting a place for her here is because it would be weird that goes to rent a place when I currently stay alone.

Again,my girlfriend can testify that my sister is the very calm type.Its so unfortunate,bad things happen to good people.can't even let her know this as this will send her into depression.

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Princelyod:
I understand that fact.However,she's is not staying too that long.we just need her to get her fit.The only reason my family is not renting a place for her here is because it would be weird that goes to rent a place when I currently stay alone.

Again,my girlfriend can testify that my sister is the very calm type.Its so unfortunate,bad things happen to good people.can't even let her know this as this will send her into depression.

te author=Biglittlelois post=70584217]Honestly it would be hard for her and she knows that, cos when you two eventually get married there would be issues yessss and your sis would likely fault things your girl would do that she doesnt like, your girl has been thinking about the future and how it would look like that is why she's reacting that way, i cant advice you on which to do so let me stop here.[/quote]I understand that fact.However,she's is not staying too that long.we just need her to get her fit.The only reason my family is not renting a place for her here is because it would be weird that goes to rent a place when I currently stay alone.

Again,my girlfriend can testify that my sister is the very calm type.Its so unfortunate,bad things happen to good people.can't even let her know this as this will send her into depression.

Change am for your babe, and tell her she isnt being considerate .. She will reset that behaviour and comport herself. I don't tolerate people who can't adjust to compromise

Brother mi blood is thicker than water oh. I tried placing my self in your position and I can't imagine someone that says he loves me not supporting rather giving me attitude. Its not as if your sister will be staying forever with you. OK assuming you guys get married your relations will not be visiting abi?

Thank your stars ma nigga that this issue came up now to give you a tip of what your woman is like. This are the kind of woman who would subtly chase away your family memebers when she gets married to you. Is that what you want? If your answer is no, what do you do?

You dont have to beg her to get her permission to bring your sister to your home, i dont know why males of these days are puccies, ceding power needlessly to their woman. My friend family is family , get that into your puccified mind. That girl might leave you for the highest bidder tomorrow or might be codedly be distributing what you think you have patent rights to, but the chances that your family would abandon you are very very less

Tell her your family means a lot to you, that you were just letting her know of your plans and not consulting or getting her permission, dont let that your believes that shes very supportive decieve you, except if naija girl never play blackmailing games on you.

Nigga wake up and take charge, cos whatever attitude she display now is just a miniature of what she would display in marriage. Do you want to live a barricaded life where this ur family members who have shown you love from day one now mean nothing to you because of a puccy you met 18 months ago?

Mehn, reset your brain to undestand that blood is thicker than water. Your sister has been a nice person to you guys and outsiders and considering her state of health now/your position as the only person to stay with, you must do it for her and nothing short of that no matter who your woman is to your life. If this trying period your family is passing through this no matter the short notice to your so called girlfriend and she is not considerate, you do not have a wife but deciet. Her action goes to show who she will be to your immediate family members in future when you settle down as husband and wife. The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. That your sister I pray God heal her,and she might turn to be the one to be there for you during the time of need. I will warn you to sincerelly understudy that your girl to know if she truly loves you. If she cannot stand by you this time arround, watch her, there is danger ahead.

Op, I have taken my time to go through your post again and to even note that that sister of yours accommodated you in her place when things were good for her. Listen, you must go take her in now no matter how that your girl feels. In life, you cannot have another sister or mother figure like them, but you can marry as many women as you want. If she dies under this situation, without getting this little help from you during this her predicament, posterity will not forgive you and that your girl. Please, Note, I am not laying a curse on you but telling you the gospel truth. I am praying for her to pull through this and for God to open your eyes to understand the kind of woman you want to bring in. Have you considered in future that your mom at her old age could want to come spend sometime with you when you are married? Do you consider this at all and how this lady's attitude could be? This your woman would not want your family members arround in future. She is the type that would welcome her ow people.Be wise.

I don't believe the issue is so much about your sister coming over to the house as it is about not informing her prior to when the decision was made. Surely she understands the situation and cannot even think to say your sister shouldn't come stay with you.

You should have told her a lot earlier, not because you need her consent, but because she's becoming a vital part of your life and needs to be carried along. Telling her when the decision is all set is as though her input or feelings about it are inconsequential. To make matters worse, it's now a long distance relationship. She probably would not be spending weekends in your house anymore. She feels like you don't care how the new development would affect your relationship.

Here's what you should do. Find a one on one time and carefully explain why you didn't tell her initially. You should have a plan, too, on how your relationship would be sustained. This should fix everything.

PrimadonnaO:
I don't believe the issue is so much about your sister coming over to the house as it is about not informing her prior to when the decision was made. Surely she understands the situation and cannot even think to say your sister shouldn't come stay with you.

You should have told her a lot earlier, not because you need her consent, but because she's becoming a vital part of your life and needs to be carried along. Telling her when the decision is all set is as though her input or feelings about it are inconsequential. To make matters worse, it's now a long distance relationship. She probably would not be spending weekends in your house anymore. She feels like you don't care how the new development would affect your relationship.

Here's what you should do. Find a one on one time and carefully explain why you didn't tell her initially. You should have a plan, too, on how your relationship would be sustained. This should fix everything.

yeah you re right.However,my reason for not talking to her earlier enough like I wrote in my first post was because I was yet to ascertain my sisters position yet.The last time we spoke, she wasn't sure of when exactly she would come.Moreso,she's been skeptical owing that she feels the need to be closer to the place where she goes for prayers atleast for now until she's strong enough to come over.

In the cause of our argument,I explained to my girl the reason for not telling her earlier and it bordered on me not having all the detailes of the emerging situation.I of course apologised.

Nothing really seem to have changed from her side as she picked some of her stuff and left for her place early this morning.

9japrof:
Thank your stars ma nigga that this issue came up now to give you a tip of what your woman is like. This are the kind of woman who would subtly chase away your family memebers when she gets married to you. Is that what you want? If your answer is no, what do you do?

You dont have to beg her to get her permission to bring your sister to your home, i dont know why males of these days are puccies, ceding power needlessly to their woman. My friend family is family , get that into your puccified mind. That girl might leave you for the highest bidder tomorrow or might be codedly be distributing what you think you have patent rights to, but the chances that your family would abandon you are very very less

Tell her your family means a lot to you, that you were just letting her know of your plans and not consulting or getting her permission, dont let that your believes that shes very supportive decieve you, except if naija girl never play blackmailing games on you.

Nigga wake up and take charge, cos whatever attitude she display now is just a miniature of what she would display in marriage. Do you want to live a barricaded life where this ur family members who have shown you love from day one now mean nothing to you because of a puccy you met 18 months ago?

this is all the advise you need

it is well

Princelyod:
yeah you re right.However,my reason for not talking to her earlier enough like I wrote in my first post was because I was yet to ascertain my sisters position yet.The last time we spoke, she wasn't sure of when exactly she would come.Moreso,she's been skeptical owing that she feels the need to be closer to the place where she goes for prayers atleast for now until she's strong enough to come over.

In the cause of our argument,I explained to my girl the reason for not telling her earlier and it bordered on me not having all the detailes of the emerging situation.I of course apologised.

Nothing really seem to have changed from her side as she picked some of her stuff and left for her place early this morning.

Very well, then. I hope y'all remain good.