Xaos:
I don't want to say anything hurtful but I have to. Ma'am your husband is being a jerk. You guys are bless with three beautiful kids - is there anything greater than this?! Yes, you gambled. It's a wicked thing but it's in the past and it worked BTW. So he need to grow up and forgive you. Just carry on and tell your in-laws. All will be well.

You sincerely spoke my mind. I mean what's the fuss about when everything eventually worked well. He's supposed to be supportive in this kind of situation.

I pity her if she takes this ur advise. By thway am not sure u se married yet and please wen it gets to ur turn, make sure u take this steps u are advising. Not after misleading someone wen it gets to ur turn u become wise. That's how all u feminist do. U deceive ur mates and wen the ball rolls to ur court u act normal.
U think Nugeria is America, Mtcheew!

Kinggnicole:
You were wrong and you apologised.
I just hope you are not considering quiting your job. He's already rubbing it in your face that you are not fertile. Imagine adding jobless to the mix. He'll rub that in too forgetting he asked you to leave.

He's already abusing you emotionally. You have to be strong dear. And by being strong you have to know when to leave.

Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

I don't say this but I v to,r u stupid,u made u judge

Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

You are just evil

skarlett:



In 2018 somebody cannot be satisfied with three kids

Is he expecting her to produce eight children or what? Misplaced priority, that man is so childish and I hope never to end up with his likes

This is how we know kids online.
Insulting another woman's husband shows you are not married yourself but you are not even marriage worthy.

If the man decides to have 1,2,3 or even more kids, it should be his decision and not being received by a cunning and dangerous wife. I would not even advice the man to continue to eat her food because she could poison him if things go wrong.

To be honest with you, there are so many things going through the minds of your husband now that you need to appreciate and work on.
1. He is thinking that you probably had aborted enough babies in the past
2. If he wasn't there when you gave birth, he might be doubting the paternity of the children.
3. Even if he was around during child birth, he might be thinking you adopted more babies in the labour room in connivance with the hospital management knowing fully well that you were having that problem.
4. For the fact that you hid that from him prior to marriage, he is thinking you probably have more dangerous secrets with you.
5. Finally, you have probably not been that type of wife he thought you would be in the marriage. His actions might be influenced by accumulations of all other bad attitude you have been putting up in the marriage. If you have been an exceptional good house wife that he never imagined he would have been consoled by that but I doubt that you played that role well.

For you to have kept that secret from him in the beginning, you should have kept it forever. QED. There are similar secrets in marriages that the partners never told each other.

My advice

I will advise you to keep trying to resolve it between both of you because once you bring in third party I am afraid the marriage may not survive and even if it does it can never be as you wished.
As for your job, please don't categorically object to his order but submissively talk to him in a bid to convince him to allow you continue with your job. It could also be that you don't contribute financially in the home.
Above all, work hard and pray to God for forgiveness and subsequently intervene in your plight.

Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?

don't for any reason quit your job or you will be at his mercies by then he will be able to exploit your joblessness to his advantage aswear.. U no go even get mouth...for the sake of your kids abeg no quit your job

Sista, anybody asking you to leave your job is your enemy. If such a person is a member of your family, he's called "Household enemy". Now, it seems your husband is one of them, what you do is to apply wisdom. Ask for your full leave from work, then start demanding upkeep money from your husband for the family, you will see how he will gradually start to verbally abuse you, from there it will become physical abuse. If you like yourself and your children, you better hold unto your job








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The man isn't being a jerk.
He feels hurt because he trusted you so much that he didn't expect you to have a 'secret'.
Right in his head, he is saying "if she kept this all these years, what else would she had kept".
Trust is where the issue lies, not so much because he wants more kids. Give him time, but sacrifice all you can to save your marriage.

Only God is the answer right now, call upon me I will answer you and you shall glorify me thus says the Lord. The ball is now on your court

Your husband is not serious.

Upon the three children u bore for him, he's keeping malice with you? Smhhh.

What of families that have only one child and the wife is still menstruating but no child except that one boy or one girl. I have a friend who's 42, she has 15years old son. The husband does not joke with his son and wife. Abroad vacation today, abroad the next month. Enjoying themselves. Her husband didn't leave her o.
She has only one son. And there is peace on their home.
U that have three children, u don't have peace in your home. Smhhh. It's not good to marry someonelse husband. Cos no matter how hard u try. The partner will still be ungrateful.
Madam, u don't have any problem. If he wants to divorce u, let him go ahead and take your children along with you. He can go and marry sweet 16. And give birth to 10 children with a younger woman. Honestly your husband is very ungrateful!

Don't quit your job and at same time never you tell him you won't.

He is angry not just that you kept away this secret from him, but the act was for a purpose; deny him an all encompassing judgement of contracting a marriage with you or not.

He feels tricked.....well, the good thing is that you realised your wrong and you have been apologising for it. Please, don't stop doing that...you can use a close and a respected friend of his to try to apologise on your behalf. Talk to God also about everything.

There are certain things you wrote down he said which I feel he went too far though.

That you have triplets is a super blessing and validation from God and you try very hard not to cry again over that your medical condition

All the best

Madam. I am sorry ooooo. You are foolish for bringing this to the public. Your challenge is rare, what if he stumbles on this and feels you are exposing yourself. Must everything come to the public? This social media of a thing would make things worse.

U got it wrong for not telln him,thank ur God for given u three wonderful kids,He knows d reason, if not madam ur apologies is like addn a glass of water inside occasion .

OP, I will tell you something..

You were being a cheat for keeping it away from ur husband for so many years, I wonder how you weren't feeling guilty conscience when tieing the knot at the altar on ur wedding day.

Let's play a scenario here:

What if you weren't able to give birth after marriage? Your husband would ave been dead worried, while u knew the cause of the problem. I am sure u won't have told him u were d cause for fear of loosing the marriage and ur sanity.
God gave your husband the children and not you, the triplet was a blessing to your husband, for you trying to trick him into the marriage. People saying God blessed her with children doesn't know the workings of God.

Let's play another scenario here:
What if the man was partally impotent, and didn't inform his wife before marriage? And, after marriage God blesses the wife with triplets, but noticed he is now fully impotent, so he came to the wife and apologise that he was tested partially impotent before marrying her. What will her reaction be?
My guess:
I know ladies can nag for Africa, she would have insulted him, and blame the world problems on his head, and am certain she will start cheating on him with someone outside. At least, I respect the man for keeping it cool, even though he is still moody. Like, no human being on earth will wave off the news once and continue with life.

OP, the plain truth is that u tricked ur husband into marrying you, you are a selfish, egoistic, selfcentered and cheat of a woman. Am sure u were scared that, ur husband was ur last busstop. So u had to do all u could to tie him down. But God knowing the sinful and blatant nature of men; especially you, decided to bless him with children.

Mizwisdom:
Sista, anybody asking you to leave your job is your enemy. If such a person is a member of your family, he's called "Household enemy". Now, it seems your husband is one of them, what you do is to apply wisdom. Ask for your full leave from work, then start demanding upkeep money from your husband for the family, you will see how he will gradually start to verbally abuse you, from there it will become physical abuse. If you like yourself and your children, you better hold unto your job


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Honestly her husband is her enemy. Broad day light enemy.. He wants her at his mercy! What kind of wickedness is that? Upon three children! He's still not satisfied. Families are having just two or three these days and close up. This one wants 10 children. What does he want to use her menses for?
Honestly the man is so annoying. The wife get time dey worry.

No man will come and give me bp in this life, after having three bountiful kids! Anyways they know the kind of women they can threaten and worry unnecessarily.

Kiishii:



There isnt more to it, i kept it from him before marriage that's why he's reacting this way, he said it was a risky gamble, and i have apologised multiple times.

I had triplets.

After three kids, of what use is your womb for him again? Me na 2 I want


But you should have informed him as soon as you met your doctors after delivery.

Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?

don't quit ur job seek for medical attention if your husband need more children I will tell u to try kedi health care 08167736471

stuffs4me:


This is how we know kids online.
Insulting another woman's husband shows you are not married yourself but you are not even marriage worthy.

If the man decides to have 1,2,3 or even more kids, it should be his decision and not being received by a cunning and dangerous wife. I would not even advice the man to continue to eat her food because she could poison him if things go wrong.

Let's stop saying stuff like this, "If the man decides to have 1,2,3, or even more kids, it should be his decision.. " No, we are all affected by hoodlums, tugs, area boys, thieves, miscreants et al. These are people's children whom they are unable to cater for. We all have to live with them because someone feels, it's his life and decision to procreate as he wants .

Kiishii:



Thanks for the advice sir.

This is a tough one. How would you feel if after years of trying to conceive your husband opens up to you that he is impotent?

Yet, you have been blessed indeed to have triplets. Not one, not two, but three kids all at once.

Seems God wanted to compensate you for the early menopause.

A successful marriage is the union of two very good forgivers. Your husband hasn't learnt to forgive. Stay in the marriage for as long as it doesn't turn abusive and keep apologizing for your mistake until he's able to look at you again with respect.

Asking you to quit your job is his way of trying to punish you. I'd advice you to think about whom your husband is most in awe of. That one person that has his fullest respect. Seek the person out and tell them everything and ask for help. Maybe if they talk to him he'll see common sense in forgiving his wife.

I wish you all the best madam.

I will like this kinggnicole to take note of this. Some men don't like been lied to by women, especially if dey hold dat woman to high esteem. I quit about 2 relationship simply ease of lie about age. Mind u, I already knew or cold guess the age but wen u ask this person they will lie, why, what for? How many lies or secret have you kept already? So such tins happens, it kills d joy. It will take quite sacrifice and reassurance to win me bak. So I kinda understand ur man predicament. Let me tell u, if u don't show u could qut ur job to mk him happy, u ,ay never win him bak. It's not about having kids but u can preach to him that God wanted u guys to be that's y he gave u the triplets. Also make him see that is a mistake that will never repeat itself again that u never knew the weight of this error until now that it came out this way.
U need to make him understand that u never knew u where this wrong until it came out this way.

Ur husband needs to be sure u are not that deceitful. He may even think u are doing something with ur boss, hence asking u to quit ur job.
Yes I agree he is been irrational, but he is also an angry man. U have to thread with caution.
I wish u goodluck.

Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?

bot101:


You wrote this the first time, and repeated it again. I'm sorry for whoever marries or married you. L.P., this is one advice never to accept. If this is your view of marriage, it is better you never marry. Marriage is not all rosy and sweet as there must be rough patches in a relationship between an imperfect man and woman. If your advice to leave a marriage because the husband felt hurt at his wife's action, and the both of them never had any major issues prior to this one, it's best you stay unmarried because you know nothing about marriage.

OP, someone earlier adviced begging him again, especially with the fact that your 'gamble' paid off, using a more expressive approach and if that fails, seek an elder he has a lot of respect for, before approaching his family. I believe that's a great advice that would work out. I know this happened in March, but I urge you to be patient and optimistic of a favourable resolution. All is well.

that lady is just being wicked and bitter. kiishii must not listen to her.

Only God is the answer he says; call upon me in the days of trouble I will answer you and you will glorify me. The ball is in your court

@kiishii just do his bidding regardless of anything he does & show him love.
It's only a phase, when he is tired of acting up he will surely come back.
He is hurt cuz he probably trusts you 100% back then & feels you betrayed it
Ignore the insults if possible get an earphone so you don't lose it one day. You've got 3 beautiful kids, what else does he want
Pray about it
Marriage is not BF GF relationship, he's already taken the oath so the best thing is to move forward. Don't hide anything from him again.

Kinggnicole:
You were wrong and you apologised.
I just hope you are not considering quiting your job. He's already rubbing it in your face that you are not fertile. Imagine adding jobless to the mix. He'll rub that in too forgetting he asked you to leave.

He's already abusing you emotionally. You have to be strong dear. And by being strong you have to know when to leave.

Yours are very stupid for this comment, what sort of rubbish talk is this? why is that women are always selfish, try putting yourself in the man's shoes... Why are women always so concerned about themselves? Women just feel men have bullet proof emotions... She tricked him into marrying her, how about if the Russian Roulette gamble turned out bad? Mumu like you...

Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?

Live is all about wisdom dear. I don't blame you much as human, but in such situation we pray for God for direction and wisdom. Don't worry he will come back....no be 3 u born? how many him be wan born, battalion? cheerup jari!

victorian:














Honestly her husband is her enemy. Broad day light enemy.. He wants her at his mercy! What kind of wickedness is that? Upon three children! He's still not satisfied. Families are having just two or three these days and close up. This one wants 10 children. What does he want to use her menses for?
Honestly the man is so annoying. The wife get time dey worry.

No man will come and give me bp in this life, after having three bountiful kids! Anyways they know the kind of women they can threaten and worry unnecessarily.

Of course he's her enemy. If I were her, I will focus on my kids and my job, I will hold tight to it. He wants to frustrate the living daylight out of her, I just hope she's wise enough to see his true agenda.

Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

lol. How do you know?

If Satan give you a reason why you should be sad, give him thousand reasons why you should be happy.
Nature want to ruin you through early menopause but God destroyed it through giving you three children.
Madam God indeed loves you.
For your husband, he's been unnecessarily difficult. What else did he want after three children?
Has he not seen women who see their mensuration till 100years yet without any child?
How many children did my grandmother had after her overflow mensuration, is it not only my mother?
Sorry to say that your husband is ungrateful to God. Quitting your job? I don't subscribe to it.
Take good care of your children; perform your wifely roles to him and leave the rest to God.

alterswerve:
So you won't Google.. POF is Premature Ovarian Failure

Wow.. See.. Truthfully, under the law, if he decides to divorce cos of this issue, you know he'll win, cos his lawyer will say you deceived him into the marriage.

It's a tough one.

He's really pissed cos he's feeling that he was deceived into the marriage. He could be wondering how many other things you're keeping from him ry now.

Do what he wants if your marriage is of very high priority to you and let him know you're doing it to show him how sorry you are and for peace to reign between both of you.

Always staying with the kids doesn't guarantee that nothing bad will ever happen to them, and let him know that too.

It's a sacrifice or penance I think you should make IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS OF A HIGHER PRIORITY TO YOU THAN YOUR CAREER and his pay can take care of all y'all well.

My only scare now is that he doesn't begin to demand for more sacrifices from you. But looking at the positive side, if you submit, he may look back at this decision in the future and lift his ban on you working

Wish you the best

PS: You typed good. Big ups!

no better advice than dis tho

Kinggnicole:
You were wrong and you apologised.
I just hope you are not considering quiting your job. He's already rubbing it in your face that you are not fertile. Imagine adding jobless to the mix. He'll rub that in too forgetting he asked you to leave.

He's already abusing you emotionally. You have to be strong dear. And by being strong you have to know when to leave.

the "leave him " gang. You guys must show your self.

How about give the guy time to heal?