Today, sex is everywhere – on television, in movies, and plastered all over advertising. It seems that the only place the subject is still considered taboo is in conversation between parents and children. According to a teenager, who wants to remain anonymous, wished parents knew the nerve-racking and embarrassing it is to talk to them about sex. This teenager says it’s easier to talk to a friend. Often , parents are just as reluctant as their children to broach and demystify the subject. In her book Beyond the Big Talk, health educator Debra W. Haffner says” “Many parents have told me that they bought their child or children a book on sexuality or puberty, left it in the children’s room, and never discussed it again. Haffner says that the message to children is clear: “we want you to know about your body and about sex; we just don’t want to talk to you about.”
If you are a parent, you need to take a different stance. Indeed, it is crucial that you personally talk to your children about sex for the following reasons:
1. The sexual landscape has changed: There is no longer the quick definition of sex - a husband and wife having intercourse. Now, there is MouthAction, anal sex, CyberLove, etc.

2. Your Children will likely be confronted with misinformation at an early age: Children will hear about sex as soon as they start school and they will not get the viewpoint that you want them to have.

3. Your Children have questions about sex but are not likely to initiate a discussion with you: It is usually difficult for children to initiate conversation with parents about sex. Really, talking to your children about sex is part of your God-given responsibility as parents. It may be awkward, both for you and for them. On the positive sides, it is a universally accepted idea that it is better to learn about sex from parents than from teachers in school or television programmes.
Then the next question is “How then can you talk to your children about this important yet admittedly awkward topic ?”
According to their age: Unless they live in total isolation, children begin hearing about sex at an early age. Even more disturbing is the fact that these days, criminal-minded men have advanced from bad to worse. Sadly, many children are exploited by adults for perverted sexual purposes. It is therefore important for you to start educating your children while they are still quite young. If you wait till they are nearing their teens, they may not want to speak openly because of inhibitions that come with puberty. The key is to give children information that is appropriate to their age.
a) For Nursery/Preschoolers: Focus on teaching the proper names of the sex organs, and emphasize that no one should touch these organs. Train your child or children to respond firmly if anyone attempts to play with his or her sex organs. For example, you might teach your child to say “stop that ! I’m going to report you”. Assure your child/children that reporting is always appropriate even if the person promises gifts or makes threats.
b) For Primary School Children: Use these years as an opportunity to add to your child’s knowledge gradually. Don’t force the discussion. It will come naturally if you regularly spend time with your children. Have frequent, short discussions instead of one big talk. This way you will not overwhelm your children. Furthermore, as they grow up, they will have the information they need in accord with their maturity level.
c) For Adolescents: Now this is the time to make sure that your child has sufficient knowledge of the physical, emotional and moral aspect of sex. Teens may hold back from asking questions because they fear that their parents will suspect them of improper conduct. But make it clear to the child that discussing these subjects, is not tantamount to suspecting him of anything; that the discussion is intended to equip him or her to handle bad influences around him or her.
Conclusion: Granted, talking to your children about sex may be one of the most awkward parenting tasks you will face. But it is well worth your effort. Over time, the awkwardness fades, and talking to your child about sex can actually become a bonding opportunity. It becomes easier to discuss awkward topics like sex if you establish a routine of being open about whatever subjects that present themselves in the family. The awkwardness never completely goes away, but open communication is the lifeblood of a healthy Godly family.

Written by Victor Okoro
Editor-In-Chief
Isopreneur
http://isopreneur.com

Good points. I'm praying for wisdom to handle this issue properly. I'm already on (a) point with my lil' daughter.

Nice writeup..... Thanx for d insight

God bless you for this