My birthday has always been something I must celebrate,it's either I visit the orphanage home or just flex with family and friends lasgidi style...u know na.its about to be that time of the year,1st October....i never forget,the only thing different this year is my big sis,my big sis u c has financial issues,she needed 50k to startup an okirika business.she didn't ask from me tho but I felt like i should help....d problem here is I made a promise to God that this year it's orphanage or nothing and he blessed me enough this year which means I have to fulfil my promise but am caught in the middle of helping my big sis or visiting the orphanage.....please what should I do?...1st October is almost here,I need genuine advise and please don't forget to wish me a happy birthday

Family is golden so my dear family first.

Your sister.

Orphanage first or share for the both.

Never you vow what you can't redeem.

There are repercusions for this act.

Don't play tricks with God.

If you try abandoning the orphanage which is the reason God blessed you so much, assuredly there shall be high calibre consequencies.

Be wise......

Happy Birthday Dear.

Orphanage since it was a vow u made to God. Who knows God might increase u more after fulfilling d vow and u will have enough to support ur sister.

I don't play with my vows. It's better not to vow than to vow without fulfilling it. God cannot be mocked.

Happy birthday in advance....

Eagleword14:
Orphanage since it was a vow u made to God. Who knows God might increase u more after fulfilling d vow and u will have enough to support ur sister.

I don't play with my vows. It's better not to vow than to vow without fulfilling it. God cannot be mocked.

Happy birthday in advance....

Good spirit..... I like your ways, I wish I know you better...

Orphanage.....

hey guys, you wanna be successful in life? Give stuffs to kids, not just orphanage kids but those tattered looking kids on the streets. That Shii works like crazy. That huge grin, Smile and excitement on receiving your gifts/tip is enough to move mountain for you. A friend of mine just revealed this secret to me. started yesterday, you guys will not believe what happened yesterday.. anyways that one is story for another day.

Give out something today and watch you rise to the top.

Is your sister an orphan? If yes go ahead. If No, still go ahead. Na the same thing.

If you truly you made a vow to God but didn't mention amount, divide the money to 2.

You promised God. So why are you trying to allow distractions go back on it? There will always be a very good reason to break a vow...something must always come up. But you have to fulfil it first.

Just pray that God will still make it possible for you to help your sis.

Aitee1:
Family is golden so my dear family first.

What about a vow to God?

Orphanage,

You made a vow to God so it’s best you keep it

Even God will understand if you help your sister. The orphanage has several other donors but as it were, your sister is in need. You better give to your sister cos “all give na give”. It’s nothing to think twice on. You can subsequently resume giving to the orphanage afterwards. Don’t let your sister go into depression and get to the point of committing Suicide, you will never forgive yourself and those that are asking you to give the orphanage.

Happy birthday in advance

Why not share it 50-50?

Family first. Charity begins from home. There will always be orphanages to give to later. Put yourself in your sister's shoes. Don't wait until your sister does something desperate. It might be too late and not only will you blame yourself, you might even start blaming God.

Help your sister now.

op,"its orphanage or nothing" according to your words why have a change of heart,the vows you've made to God,he (God)have fulfilled his part op fulfill yours.
Beside your big sis didn't ask from you directly you heard it from someone, FULFILL YOUR VOWS.its for your own good.
meanwhile happy birthday in advance to you

Please what stops you from helping your sister and fulfilling your pledge to the orphanage?? I can't find the issue here. Givers they say never lack, so just give according to your strength and quit the religious dogma. I'm sure your sis has been making such prayers and 'vows' as well, she's probably even holier and more committed than you are yet can't afford 50k.

Give to the orphanage; and help your sister start her business by giving her some of your business secrets [I beg don't include "vow" as a business secret, a jaye jaye omo-eko like you cannot be closer to God than millions of committed church going paupers out there].

misslagos:
My birthday has always been something I must celebrate,it's either I visit the orphanage home or just flex with family and friends lasgidi style...u know na.its about to be that time of the year,1st October....i never forget,the only thing different this year is my big sis,my big sis u c has financial issues,she needed 50k to startup an okirika business.she didn't ask from me tho but I felt like i should help....d problem here is I made a promise to God that this year it's orphanage or nothing and he blessed me enough this year which means I have to fulfil my promise but am caught in the middle of helping my big sis or visiting the orphanage.....please what should I do?...1st October is almost here,I need genuine advise and please don't forget to wish me a happy birthday

You have been helping the orphanage all this while

Your sister is in dear need of financial help

All of them joined together is help and its a work of charity where you are not expecting anything in return

Help your sister because it seems she can't get it else where, help her and watch her grow in her business so that she won't be a burden to you or to the family

You can always help the orphanage some other times

Happy birthday in advance and may you never know a better yester-years.

Have you thought of helping your sis and it not turning out well? Can you really help you sister? where you able to help yourself yet you vowed to the very present help in time of need who doesn't give useless help like man?

You made a very specific vow; "orphanage or nothing" and God doesn't joke with specific vows. God has done his part, time for you to do yours you consider changing to "orphanage or sister" You may need to see properly Ecclesiates5:4-5.

Your sister never asked you but guilty conscience is already dealing with you, what if she asked? Won't you die for not helping.

We all have different ideas of who God is. Some believes he is their father and he is merciful while some believes that he is a rigid unforgiving entity that will strip you of your blessings and even torture you for not keeping your vows when your sister is rotting in physical and mental penury.
God himself believes in family first before mere mortals like yourself. He consulted the trinity before creating man....no outsiders at all and you are here asking if you will help your sister before unknown outsiders.
Try to understand the God you worship and set your priority right.

since God has blessed you so much, you can act wisely by giving to both sides. add to the 50k divide the money and give both parts. make sure your sister gets more. family first. you can always go to orphanage

I could have said your sister if it was just a thought... But it's a vow you have to fulfill it. Sometimes when we make vows to God, redeeming it is not always easy because other things will come up, but a promise is a promise and you should never break a promise you made with God. So here is my advice.

Give your sister 20k (I bet she can sort herself out with the rest)
use 30k n go do your birthday with the orphanage. This way everybody wins

Either you sort your orphanage visit later or you share the money.