I shared in one of my Singles Becoming Podcast (anchor.fm/joyiseki), a story about a lady who shared with us in one of our open programs how she’d unconsciously be in relationships with men whom she never loved. She had done this act for years until her thirties, without knowing why. Every time it was time to settle down with them, she would then realize how she couldn’t spend the rest of her life with anyone. This led to frequent breakups and many unfulfilling relationships.

When she was becoming aware of what she was actually doing, she was able to link it to her own family background, and how she might have used this to cover up her own brokenness. Her recovery therapy helped her realized the defense mechanism she had been using to guide herself from the troublesome home she had come from, and from the pains of a potential heart break.

This lady shared how she grew up in a very turbulent home where her parents were always in fights like cat and dog. It gave her a very fearful idea about marriage. In order not to get so attached to any man, so she could easily run away, should he become troublesome, she would subconsciously date guys she didn’t love, as those seem like a safer ground for her. This act of hers wasn’t in anyway intentionally. It was the way her brain tried to prevent her from the pains she had attached to marriage, and love experiences. As a result, she never had a meaning relationship.

For the full post, please click on the link below:

http://joyiseki.com/could-you-be-experiencing-some-trauma/