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1) KNOW HOW TO KEEP YOUR LIFE PRIVATE-In the kind of times we find ourselves in,I just feel like I should begin with this. Dear growing woman, not everything should be on social media,there are still parts of your life that should be hidden from public glare for your safety and privacy.Not everything you do,buy or have should be uploaded on Facebook,Whatsapp or Instagram.



2) KNOW YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE AND CULTURE- I can’t begin to tell you how many times I was embarrassed at school simply because I’m not a proficient user of my native language. I was told my parents would get fined on my wedding day if I don’t know how to speak my language(I need to learn asap,in fact I’m looking for an Ikwerre language teacher,DM me if you are one lol). No matter how old you are,it’s not to late to learn how to speak your native language. You also need to learn the dos and don’ts of your culture and people. It helps to give you a feel of belonging and understanding of your roots and people.

3) KNOW HOW TO INVEST IN YOURSELF- You need to fall in love with investing and taking care of yourself. Read books,exercise daily,take courses/trainings,attend conferences,listen to classical music,eat healthy,listen to podcasts etc but by all means make sure you are investing daily in yourself.

“Fall in love with taking care of yourself darling”
4) KNOW HOW TO CROSS THE ROAD- This point is quite hilarious but its indispensable for any one living in Nigeria. The classic tip for crossing the road in Nigeria is to look left and right before crossing. If there’s mild traffic,gently walk into the road and wave to the cars coming close to you(its a gentle plea for them to let you pass). Practice these easy steps and you’d be a pro in no time!

5) KNOW HOW TO BARGAIN- This skill is necessary in many places except you are in a supermarket or a mall where the prices are fixed. To get the best prices in the Nigerian market,you’ve got to be bold and stand for the price you can afford. If the seller doesn’t agree with your price just act like you are about to leave,if you are called back just know that you bargained well but if you are not called back you can go back and pay the price the seller requested for if you really like the item.

6) KNOW HOW TO COOK-This is a very important life skill. By cooking here,I’m not talking about Indomie but real food like Nigerian jollof,soups,porridge and even pounded yam lol! Cooking isn’t just for the ladies but for the guys as well as it saves you time and money.

7) KNOW HOW TO DEFEND YOURSELF- In Nigeria,there’s no time for ‘shame-shy’ or ‘forming’ so know how to be confident and defend your beliefs no matter the status of who is around you.

KNOW HOW TO INVEST-NO! The savings in your piggy bank or kolo isn’t going to make you wealthy overnight. As smart money women,we’ve got to look for ways to invest our savings in profitable places that will generate wealth for us in years to come. Think stock,shares and real estate!

9) EAT HEALTHY- This point is so important in the long run,what you eat or do to your body now goes into time to wait for you. You wanna be 60 and super strong? Learn how to incorporate veggies and fruits in your diet. You can buy veggies from as little as 50 naira and fruits from 100 naira. Start eating healthy,taking your supplements and exercising now and you’d be glad you did.

10) KNOW HOW TO ARGUE KINDLY- You should learn how to disagree to agree,you should not walk out of a disagreement and make lifetime enemies out of it. It’s very possible to argue kindly,all you’ve got to do is understand and love a person for who he/she is and what their values are. Not every conversation or argument requires your response or voice,know what to ignore and what to respond to.

“Not every conversation or argument requires your response or voice.”

11) LIMIT YOUR ONLINE LIFE-Know when to be online or offline. Social media is very addictive and can stop you from being productive in real life,you need to have a good grip of your social media usage. You should not be online all the time except your online presence brings you money but even if it does,know when to draw the line.

12) KNOW HOW TO WRITE A COVER LETTER- On your way to becoming the girl boss you’ve always dreamed of, you may need to work for others before setting out on your own. These 9-5 jobs may require you submitting your cover letter during job interviews so its good you know how to write an excellent CV. It’s simply knowing how to sell yourself to your potential employers.

13) HAVE A MENTOR- A mentor could be someone around you or far away from you.This is someone you respect,admire and consider to have scaled heights you hope to scale, If the person you admire is far away from you and can’t be accessed physically;you can contact him/her through social media,emails or phone calls. You could also glean wisdom from your mentor through their podcasts or books.

14) KNOW HOW TO BE SELF FULL- This is what social media calls ‘self-love’ or ‘self-crush’. Girl,you’ve got to know how to accept yourself for who you are and how you were created. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Also learn when to have your alone time;this time consists of a period of solitude set aside to take care of yourself and do the things you love. You could write,pray,sleep or meditate.

15) KNOW HOW TO PRIORITIZE- Prioritizing involves selecting important things and ignoring the rest. Remember that Economics lesson you had about opportunity forgone and scale of preference? You’ve got to begin to implement them now by prioritizing.

“Select the most important things first.”
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Which of the things listed above have you learnt? Got anything you’d like to add to this list? Feel free to add them in the comments below.



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