i still cant belive how i got to this stage,well let me start from somewhere,i married my wife four years ago and we have two boys right now,one is 4 whille the other one is just a year old now,i have always looked at my wife best friend more as a sister than anything else,she was there for us when we were getting married,she really helped out a lot and she was the chief bridemaid to my wife.she is always in our house to see my wife,this whole thing started about five months ago, when my wife asked me to drop her off in ibadan one day,on the trip to ibadan we spoke a lot and i discovered she had so many qualities i like in a woman,needless to say i started developing a feeling for her.one day i came back from work to meet her in the kitchen cooking(she normally does this a lot whenever my wife is not around with the permission of my wife of course)looking at her from the back i was amazed,i had never seen her so beautfull before with such a wonderfull shape she was wearing jeans with a white top,meeen she was looking so sexy and beautfull,it was like i was seeing her for the first time in my life,honestly i tried to supress my feelings that day i couldnt even talk straight with her,before long i couldnt concentrate on my work again,i am always dreaming about her,every thought in my head is about her,i just cant get her off my mind no matter how i try,right now,my wife no longer excites me again,infact nothing else but her thoughts fill my heart everyday,one day i touched her in her buttocks but pretended it was a mistake and she didnt say anything,honestly i want to go further by telling her how i feel,please nairalanders help me out (i am new to this forum,came acrooss it recently and i love the way people are being advised here)i am going crazy for this lady because i love her very very very much now but i dont want to hurt my wife but i cant help myself,i love this lady

You love her or her body? or has she given you love portion?

May amadioha strike you

ewu

Poster, please change the subject to read: " Help! i am madly in LUST with my wife's best friend".
I don't really think you are in love, like jennykadry said, what you love is her body. You better start praying for yourself because that is the beginning of a broken home.

jennykadry:

You love her or her body? or has she given you love portion?

May amadioha strike you

ewu

Bad manners.
Do you have to insult him?
You need to change the way you comment.
Obi cannot be a boy forever.
Grow up!
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@Poster,
A moment of pleasure can give you a lifetime full of pain.
Comot monkey hand for soup before e turn to human hand.

This is Lust Bro.

I am sure after some rounds of se.x you'll come round

@OP
Pls don't allow this temtation to overcome you, you have to realise that your wife had so much trust in you for her to allow her friend to come into her kitchen in her absence, i don't believe paying your wife back in this way (sleeping with her friend) is a good way of repaying her with the level of trust she bestowed on you.

I believe if you strife to overcome this temptation it will eventually make you a better person, Goodluck

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jennykadry:

You love her or her body? or has she given you love portion?

May amadioha strike you

ewu

Roflmao!!! Oh my goodness!

The problem started with the wife, she gave her single GF access to her home without limitation even to cook in her kitchen in her absent, I think the girl friend has key to her bed room, now is affecting her marriage unknown to her because she is about to loose the husband to her single girl friend if care is not taken.

Is high time married women come to understand that they should maintain a distance with their single friends, young sisters, mother after marriage because you love them don’t give anybody access to your home.

@OP what you feel for her is not love rather LUST , please RUN if you start it, no going back and it will definitely affect your marriage

cantell:


@Poster,
A moment of pleasure can give you a lifetime full of pain.
Comot monkey hand for soup before e turn to human hand.

well said.
take chaircover's advice and tell ur wife to stop d lady from visiting ur home too often.
your wife trusts u. don't ruin this 'cause d mark will stay with u 4 life.

Divine R.:

The problem started with the wife, she gave her single GF access to her home without limitation even to cook in her kitchen in her absent, I think the girl friend has key to her bed room, now is affecting her marriage unknown to her because she is about to loose the husband to her single girl friend if care is not taken.

Is high time married women come to understand that they should maintain a distance with their single friends, young sisters, mother after marriage because you love them don’t give anybody access to your home.

@OP what you feel for her is not love rather LUST , please RUN if you start it, no going back and it will definitely affect your marriage

^^^true talk. But then again what is this single woman doing, hovering around her married friends house even go to the extent of agreeing to cook for her husband? Is she crazy? What nonsense is this? Doesnt she have a life? I mean really. She needs to get her own man to cook for and one that can lust for her. Yes she is a friend in need but ya'll need to establish boundries.

People not everything is in the book, so its okay if you dont read much because sometimes you can just rely on your common sense

I am actually annoyed at these two nonsensical girls.

SA Lady:

^^^true talk. But then again what is this single woman doing, hovering around her married friends house even go to the extent of agreeing to cook for her husband? Is she crazy? What nonsense is this? Doesnt she have a life? I mean really. She needs to get her own man to cook for and one that can lust for her. Yes she is a friend in need but ya'll need to establish boundries.

People not everything is in the book, so its okay if you dont read much because sometimes you can just rely on your common sense

I am actually annoyed at these two nonsensical girls.

TRUE TALK ON BOTH ENDS!!! Both woman aren't making sense to me,
What kind of agreement to get a friend to cook for ur husband is that?

Divine R.:

The problem started with the wife, she gave her single GF access to her home without limitation even to cook in her kitchen in her absent, I think the girl friend has key to her bed room, now is affecting her marriage unknown to her because she is about to loose the husband to her single girl friend if care is not taken.

Is high time married women come to understand that they should maintain a distance with their single friends, young sisters, mother after marriage because you love them don’t give anybody access to your home.

@OP what you feel for her is not love rather LUST , please RUN if you start it, no going back and it will definitely affect your marriage

Should they also follow their husband around to make sure they don’t interact wint any beautiful women? Or make sure they don’t have sexy women at their place of work? Or make sure they don’t have sexy  neighbors?

Stop trying to justify irresponsibility!  A married man should know when to draw the line with other women.

If a wife cannot comfortably leave her husband with her sister or friend, then how can se trust him?

@ Poster!

I think you should stop disgracing yourself and your family. Can't you just for once think with your brian and not your 3rd leg    

SA Lady:

^^^true talk. But then again what is this single woman doing, hovering around her married friends house even go to the extent of agreeing to cook for her husband? Is she crazy? What nonsense is this? Doesnt she have a life? I mean really. She needs to get her own man to cook for and one that can lust for her. Yes she is a friend in need but ya'll need to establish boundries.

People not everything is in the book, so its okay if you dont read much because sometimes you can just rely on your common sense

I am actually annoyed at these two nonsensical girls.

Isn't it just typical of women, we always find a way to excuse the men! How sad! 

Honestly that lady is up to something, why is it that she always come to cook for you whenever your wife is not around? can't your wife prepare your meal before travelling?

you touched her she didn't say a word or feel embarrassed, that alone she tell you that she knows what she is doing

she knows what you’re going through, women are smart.

Please avoid her like hell fire SHE IS A HOME DESTROYER

can't your wife prepare your meal before travelling?

a better question would be: is he a big baby?

@Poster,
Although shit happens. But this is not a good one. I guess the devil is @ work. He has a very dangerous plan for you, well outlined. You need to move very close to God now incase you have not.
God will help you out

^^ Some people will get the hottest part in hell for all the lies they told against the devil! lol!

@Ujujoan, I think u need to understand this two words, DEVIL & LIE, they are two different words with different meanings, but one means an attribute of the other.

Maybe i shud ask you a question, Can u relate a godly act with a lie?? or lust wake up gurl!

^^^ I'm fully awake okay? I'm just not sanctimonous and hypocritical!

I take responsibilities for my actions and I dont try to justify them by some religous explainations!

@ Poster,

I suggest you wake up from your lusty slumber!

How would your wife feel if she knew all that has been going on in your head? If you loved her friend more, why dint u marry her instead?

YOU ARE IN LUST AND NOT IN LOVE!!!

If you really love your wife and dont want your kids to go thru emotional distress (which you are about to unleash because of your lack of self control), then u need to do what is right - TELL UR WIFE'S FRIEND TO STAY AWAY FROM YOUR HOME (maybe till your wife returns). More still, speak to your wife about your fanatasies.

Remember, stolen water is "sweet" but the consequences are not worth it.

Thank you all for your responses but i must be honest here,its not lust i feel for this lady,i love this lady,i know the difference between lust and love so i know what i am talking about but i dont want to hurt my wife so i guess i have to look for a way to deal with this

Thank you for all your responses,am so greatfull but i must frank here,what i feel for this lady is love and not lust because i know the difference,i am not a man that plays around and i have never cheated on my wife before even before we were married,THE SIMPLE TRUTH IS THAT I AM IN LOVE WITH THIS LADY,I REALLY AM,though i dont to hurt my wife so i guess i have to look for a way to deal with this

^^^^ You keep saying you are in love with her that means your eyes have not cleared

ok go and have intimacy with her and tell your wife. let me know whether that devil that held you blind will leave you immediately or not

Check d following, then wake up and move on.

1) I will only agree that it is LOVE, and not lust if only u agree that u are nursing the plan of have a second wife.

2) And if u continue to preach Love here i 'll therefore advise u to create another thread that reads (IS IT WISE FOR A MARRIED MAN/WOMAN TO TALK ABOUT BEING IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER PERSON?) then again,find out what u are not yet convinced about 4rm people's response and move on with whatever decision that please u.
Say lust or likeness DON'T CALL IT LOVE, Ur thought alone is nothin, but adultery.

3)we are human, yea, we all know that anybody can be tempted, even d married ladies are being tempted on several occasions, and their own case is just somewhat easy to handle cos is moreorless a taboo for them to yield at any point in time. Man, ur ability to withstand such temptation determines your level of maturity. Only d mature minds live to reap d dividents of marriage.

4) How would u feel if your guy tells u that ur wife is wooing him?

5) As for that gurl, friend or enemy, d hearts of men are unsearchable, some folks can't just be but only keep trying to hear bad news about others, and always derive joy 4rm d woes/pains of others, 4get, dat gurl might be up to something. Only few people know how to cage d spirit of jealousy.

6) Lastly, remember ur wife was once as pretty and attractive as this gurl is now, And whatever u call it 'll as a matter of fact drastically reduce after eating d 4bidden fruit.

Yorubas will say "Do not perceive what you do not intend to eat". Hardly will you find a man who will pass the test of having an attractive young woman around him all the time and not falling for her, in lust I mean.

The girl is too close to the family. Let her go!

The girl is silly! The wife is sillier!! The man is the silliest of them all!!!

You are on your own! Does she have a younger sister too?

zayhal:

The girl is silly! The wife is sillier!! The man is the silliest of them all!!!

LOL



@OP

What is it with you men? Why can't you people reason with your brains for once rather than your anaconda? If you knew you and your wife had much not in common, why did you marry her in the first place? Your marraige is not even 5 years old and already you are lusting after another woman! Shame on you You are the reason why many young women of marraigable age are now marraige phobic. You give marraige a very bad name. Today it's your wife's best friend and tomorrow it will be your secretary or female co-worker at the office. Most of you men lack common self control and your constant hunt for another person's private part will be your greatest downfall in life! Also, don't even blame women for it because you people will still lust even if all women wore hijabs and are covered from head to toe.

Go and make your marraige work you potential adulterer! Naijas will not let persin here word when they are single and then after you people get married, you can't stay faithful to save your own life. Stupid bunch of lustful hypocrites!

Ujujoan:

Isn't it just typical of women, we always find a way to excuse the men! How sad! 

^^^no excuse for the man I just dont care about him, hense never mentioned a thing about him. My concern is the woman I just cant stand it when women dont represent their ish very well. Married girl should understand her role very well and be able to handle her own business. We love our friends but I sure we dont want them to have full access iin our homes and be cooking for our husbands.

I am sorry but am not going to point any finger at man in this case, if wife wants to act all naive so be it. You may come back here and tell me that I should trust my man in any given situation, but then again I'll have to ask if some situations are worth it?

I am not trying to play games with my marriage trying too hard to please by bored friends,  I am trying to have it.

I am most willing to bet my life that best friend here never told her married friend that hubby actually touched her behind and watch that space she's gonna keep coming back for more.

These are the kind of things and women that make married/men believe that its okay to cheat, cos there's always somebody willing to do it with them.

Actually I am very tired of blaming men for this cheating thing cos women have it in them to set the stage.

I can tell you now that guy here is going to tap in there and hope it remains a secret and should poo hit the furn even the wifes parents will tell her just how stupid she has been

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SA Lady:

I am not trying to play games with my marriage trying too hard to please by bored friends,  I am trying to have it.

Whilst you made sense with the wife being too lax and all. . I couldn't help but notice that your post reeks of pride.
Condescending thing to say don't you think? So, because you are now a MRS your friends are bored?? See women like you
are those that turn their nose up at single women. The truth is this. . because you find your husband attractive doesn't mean
every woman out there does. Marriage doesn't define who you are! Cheese and Rice!

SA Lady:

^^^no excuse for the man I just dont care about him, hense never mentioned a thing about him. My concern is the woman I just cant stand it when women dont represent their ish very well. Married girl should understand her role very well and be able to handle her own business. We love our friends but I sure we dont want them to have full access iin our homes and be cooking for our husbands.

I am sorry but am not going to point any finger at man in this case, if wife wants to act all naive so be it. You may come back here and tell me that I should trust my man in any given situation, but then again I'll have to ask if some situations are worth it?

I am not trying to play games with my marriage trying too hard to please by bored friends,  I am trying to have it.

I am most willing to bet my life that best friend here never told her married friend that hubby actually touched her behind and watch that space she's gonna keep coming back for more.

These are the kind of things and women that make married/men believe that its okay to cheat, cos there's always somebody willing to do it with them.

Actually I am very tired of blaming men for this cheating thing cos women have it in them to set the stage.

I can tell you now that guy here is going to tap in there and hope it remains a secret and should poo hit the furn even the wifes parents will tell her just how silly she has been

chaircover:

^^^^^^

I see some of your point however a man with poor morals, self control and lacks integrity will sleep with anything in skirt.

This kind of man will try it on with any woman who crosses his path and if it hadnt been his wifes best friend, it would have been his sons teacher, the youth corper posted to his office, the girl serving in Mr Biggs etc.

He is not a fussy man, anything goes and it wont take much to bring his JT to attention & for him to declare that he has fallen in LUST Love.

I kinda agree with both of you. But seriously, may be it is about time women take responsibility for each other, I mean, be each other sisters' keeper.

If all women say No to married men, then there will not be unfaithfulness in marriages. These randy men succeed because they always find willing women.

All these women sleeping with married men, do they ever think they will marry one day? and how will they feel with other women sleeping with their husbands

The OP is foolish, the wife is naive and unwise and the wife's friend is also not being fair to her friend.