During a Jamb Coaching, I saw A Girl I really love, but I  didn't have d opportunity of meeting her. But I while I was in school I phoned her and sent my Pics.
She  replied telling me knows dat face but not much, nd she wouldn't like to go into any R/ship 4 now.  I accepted hoping dat with time r/ship will be built. She also told me that she's presently in Abuja. Since then I've been calling her and she's been calling me too,   a rapport was developed btw the two of us, she even sends me night messages,  I also received her text message when I was celebrating my Birthday.

We're going to the same church, but not the same or location. I saw her friend in one of our combined meetings and I introduced my self to her, but to my surprise, 2hrs after, the girl text me saying “Pls don’t call me again. Get dat !!!
I called her but she refused to pick the phone. A few days later, I called and she picked it, telling me that her friend has described me to her and that she’s at that moment rejecting me.
What puzzles me is that, when I sent my pics. To her she didn’t reject me, but when her friend described me to her is when she now rejects me. 
Pls what have i done wrong?

i guess that friend of hers must have told your girl things about you that must have put you in an unfavourable light.

What is the puzzle - girls tend to go wit wut their peers says and by the sounds of this girl u are better off, don't beat yoself up over it. If you want to get even date the friend!

@the topic

Plz leave her alone jooo, she won't realize what she got until it's gone

See this are the type of problem females has, they rather listen to what their friends tells them, rather than find out if it's true or false.

This are reason why i got no females friends, i can't stand she said , you said thing.

Don't wait your time on her becos she has really show the type of person she is.

I dislike people that go by what other people says.

Go and look for another gurl that will like you the way you are and will appreciate you

@ tascoray

lets give this a shot . .

its either one of three things, either the friend said some nasty things about you, your character and likes, or dissed your looks in an untrue manner, or dissed your looks as true as it is

but either way, you just got to find out for yourself, we can't tell you what's going on in her mind, we arn't mind readers, but we can give you an advice to each of what the prolem might be. So you have to try and see her face to face, which is somehing you should have done all this while. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder his/herself

The only clue this girl has of your looks are the pictures you sent, and the decription she has from her friend (both clues can be deceptive big time, a camera can make you look prettier or uglier, the way someone describes another might make you seem prettier or uglier)

If she sees you, and decides she was misled, then you guys can have the stage to yourself but if she sees you and don't find you physically attractive enough then that's her loss, not yours. and if she actually makes her mind on what her friend says, you might be happy to be getting rid of her, because she's as shallow as it gets

But still you can't blame her, we all get attracted to people for different reasons, the girl you find attractive might not be your friend's choice of a lady and the girl you find drop-dead ugly might be a damsel to your neighbour

that she doesn't find you attractive enough shouldn't bother you, i know it would be difficult to get over her if you're in love with her but there's little or nothing you can do about it esp. if she's all for the looks

some fall in love with the personality first, and damn the looks. For some its the other way round. No matter what, anybody that doesn't think you cut the cake, doesn't deserve you, in such situation i advice you look for someone that'll appreciate you more

we all deserve the best dear, and so do you

and yes like omo eko said, girls can be so unsteady and shaky, always going by what friends say, but that's what most girls do and we all condemn and judge it till we're in the same mess ourselves. What she did was bad, i'm not trying to excuse her but girls will always be girls and if you know what girls are like, it will help you in future

@tascoray - o bouy pls dont waste yo time dis girl is obviously shallow, follow-follow and not wifey material. I mean all she heard from her friend was that u probably wasn't the best looker, had a limp, bad breath, bio, buck teeth (omo i don't knw!) but she didn't even consider seeing u for herself and/or even friendship just a txt demanding u shldn't call her again - count yoslf lucky.

It sounds like the girl is influenced by her friend's opinion and her friend may have said that you werent that nice looking or maybe you are not be good enough for the girl.

So you have to try and see her face to face, which is somehing you should have done all this while. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder his/herself

She stays in Abuja presently with her Aunt, so I cant see her

Have u spoken or texted her since?

yes, she said I shouldn't call her again

Not to come across as being insincere but i would simply advise that u forget about this girl. She seems shallow to me, simply asking u not to call her again after speaking wit her friend about her first impressions of u, and not actually giving u any valid reasons. If she won't talk or meet wit u there is very little u can do, try and find someone else thar would appreciate u for u!

@ topic

Move on and forget about her, shes already said she's not looking for a relationship.
Lifes to short to be dwelling bout these things
x

Thank you all 4 all ur advice. I am very Gratefull.
But one thing I want to get clear is if she comes back to Lag, should I go to her, I mean meet her? or I should simply ignore her, 'Cos we will still jam one way or the other, and remember I told you we attend the same church, but different Branch Location.

tascoray:

Thank you all 4 all your advice. I am very Gratefull.
But one thing I want to get clear is if she comes back to Lag, should I go to her, I mean meet her? or I should simply ignore her, 'Cos we will still jam one way or the other, and remember I told you we attend the same church, but different Branch Location.

Why the sudden rise in the number of men begging women to date them? Are there no more fishes in the river? Even if there are none, must we have fishes for dinner?

Leave her alone and move on!

davidylan:

Why the sudden rise in the number of men begging women to date them? Are there no more fishes in the river? Even if there are none, must we have fishes for dinner?

Leave her alone and move on!

yes ooh, there are many fishes in the river, but only one of them is his fish, i'm sure he just wanted to find out if she was the right one.
and no, you don't have to have fish(es) for dinner, but what if its a fish-dinner that was planned on his behalf/head

tascoray:



She stays in Abuja presently with her Aunt, so I can't see her

ok, thanks for the update. Well there's actually little or nothing you can do now since its almost impossible for you to see her. Your chances of proving yourself, are slim so what you have to do is move on with your life without her. There's no point in calling her, cps that does not erase the picture she has already drawn of you in her mind

They say there's no point in crying over spilled milk, which seems to be the case here, if it is meant to be, then someday, somehow your parts will cross, your continous calls at this point will only tagg you desperate, and remember you guys weren't even in a relationship in the first place.

Go out there and find someone who would appreciate your looks, and appreciate you the way you are regardless of what the friend says or doesn't say
and next time, be careful not to fall for the wrong person, i don't know how you could love someone you barely knew but all the same, she seems 2faced, she doesn't seem to know what she wants

and for the mean time believe me, you don't need that

tascoray:

Thank you all 4 all your advice. I am very Gratefull.
But one thing I want to get clear is if she comes back to Lag, should I go to her, I mean meet her? or I should simply ignore her, 'Cos we will still jam one way or the other, and remember I told you we attend the same church, but different Branch Location.

No don't go to her, leave her as she is and don't go out of yo way to jam wit her either. Find yoslf another girl, there are plenty out there and be confident in yoslf. Trust me you don't want any girl to have the upper hand on you cos they will play u like a yoyo. If you two do jam, don't bring it up, just be cool wit no hint of bitterness or anger.