I have 2teenagers -male and female living with me. None is related to me or 2d oda. While I voluntarily took up support 4d boy bcz of his poor background,the gurl was 'imposd' on me by her mother when she was living the country. Everyday I go 2work and come bk 6pm these teenagerz r left by themselves.Lately i startd seein some kurukere movements and i tried in my immature way to knw if they were both eatin apple bt it didnt get 2 anythn.Ths mornin i went thru d fone of d gurl and read a txt.Smbdy was prescribing LADIMAX,Portinor and buscopan 4her. I am nt sure wht these drugs r 4 and i dnt knw how 2 tel her I thnk she is pregnant.

Enquire wat the drugs are for in a phamas, that will give you a link on what to do next.

Thnx gurls. I'l ask afta these drugs in a pharmacy.

@Poster, please have a converastion with the two and be as open as you can get with them, dont even leave any stone unturned. Also in your discussion you might want to make them aware of the role you play in thir lives and how far you are willing to stretch yourself and the rest should be up to them. What important is that the are aware of the pros and cons of their actions and that in the end they are responsible for what happens in their lives, yours is just to give the love and care you can give.

Good Luck though

If its abt talkin 2dem,I do dat regularly. I take dem like siblings and operate on an 'open door' arrangement. They knw my value system bcz I sing it like a song 2dem.
I'l jst wait until d pharmacist tells me wht those drugs are and I pray its nt what I fear.
I wonder why she wont ask/tell me if she has any health issue,why smbdy else has 2 prescribe drugs 4her.

Chair cover is very right. Postinor is the morning after pill.
There is no other reason to take it than as a precaution for unprotected sex.

Pls, dat drug can be dangerous if not used properly.
I had a friend dat used it regularly as if it was a contraceptive pill.
She bled for 20 days non stop before she plucked up the courage to tell her mum who took her to the hospital.

Advice them well o cos this live has no duplicate.

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Chair cover is very right. Postinor is the morning after pill.
There is no other reason to take it than as a precaution for unprotected sex.

Pls, dat drug can be dangerous if not used properly.
I had a friend dat used it regularly as if it was a contraceptive pill.
She bled for 20 days non stop before she plucked up the courage to tell her mum who took her to the hospital.

Advice them well o cos this live has no duplicate.

Oh wow! That is why it is called Plan B not to be used as contraceptive. She's lucky she didn't bleed to death.

thanx y'all.I askd d chemist for ladimax bt he doesnt have it.I enquired wht it was used for,he said its for severe stomach pains and dat its a vry strng drug and shdnt be used xcpt prescribd. I'l talk 2my family 2mro afta church

^^^please try as much as you can to find out if they are s3xual active. Whatever the answer may be please talk to the girls mother to find out if its okay to putt the girl on contraseptives. You didnt tell us the girls age, and she may still be young for this. If the mother's answer is yes, then make sure you put her on the needle and take her to the doctor/clinic yourself everytime. If the mothers answer is no then there's nothing you can do. Another thing is that the girl might say no to the idea too, then you would have hit a brick wall. You can at least give up knowing that you have tried.

Like the old saying prevention is better than cure. The trick is to trust her/them and make sure that they know that.

Hey!Good luck again

Thanx 2 u all again. I talkd dem yestrday and I was very blunt but ddnt mention the txt msg aspect.I told them hoohaa I thnk they were playin a game. Ofcourse,they both played saints. I thnk I need 2kip them apart esp when i'm nt around. I'v decided 2take d gurl 2my family house whch is a distance frm my end and leav d boy at home.Wht do u thnk?

Luckily the child imposed on you is a girl, so best thing like someone mentioned is to tell the Mum everything asap before any contraindication starts to happen and if you don't want blood on your hands

Photocopy the proofs too if you can, to back up your story.

What proof shd I fotocopy?d txt?I dnt undstand. Yes,wht do I say 2d gurl's mom?wnt it sound like panic?I'm confused!

Sorry I meant to say you should have forwarded the text to her Mum directly from her phone and erase the trace that you did that, then inform the Mum of your concerns. You know how naijas behave if something bad happens, you will get the blame of "ki lo nwo/nibolowa" even though she was forced on you.


And since having sex is not a one-off thing but a continuous act, she is ignorantly putting herself at risk by self-medicating.


Hope it is not the boy in your care who is the culprit, otherwise you need to get ready to start raising a baby too On a serious note, the girl can accuse him of rape to exonerate herself, so tell the Mum everything, let her handle her daughter's palaver.

Thtz brilliant! I'l forward d text and ask her what I shd do.Thnx. Jst hope she hasnt deletd d txt.

I dnt thnk the boy can pregnant a gurl yet.He's jst 13yrz. D gurl is 15 bt already set.

@ Odunnu

You got me at POSTINOR. _{Its a contraceptive}

They are definitely eating apple/mini-mini-wana-wana ing.

Dont under estimate a 13 year old O! Lord knw that at that age, if Jesus had raptured the world, I would have been tried as an adult.

The separation was a brilliant idea. Atleast now the deed would not be doe under your roof again.

LOL @miniminimanamana.You knw d song abi? @topic, the seperation is but a few days whn i'l b outta town. I dnt knw wht i'l do whn I get back.

Never allow a yam to be near a goat. Except you bought it for the goat to eat. The girl might be the one coaxing the boy to 'chop'. They feel the itch too.

Also, if someone is telling her about postinor, it could be that she is already pregnant.
What are u going to do 2 address dat?

^^^ GBAM _{I couldnt have posted better.}

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Wow 13 and 15! Still nothing is impossible

Most certainly the girl is sexually active or she wont have any need for these pills so that needs to be addressed.

We all know how it works in Nigeria and if you are not careful, what initially was a situation where you were being thanked for looking after their child can easily become a family war if anything happens to the child.

Please take BB's advise and let the mothers of both children in on the situation. If the mothers do not like your approach then they should feel free to come and collect their children. God forbid if they are sexually active and their experiment with drugs fails for whatever reason, then they might attempt abortion at a quack chemist which could easily have tragic results.

Personally, I would have talked to them straight up about the text message. If that were my daughter God forbid, I wont be pussyfooting round her in order not to offend her or be fearful of being accused of snooping. If these drugs are taken incorrectly they could kill and I am not sure that a 15 year old will know the implication of misusing the drug.

If either or both of them is sexually active, separating them is good but not the total answer, because they can still find ways of being together or choosing new partners.

BTW a 13 year old boy can impregnate a girl.

Gbam.

And mind 13 years old of nowadays don nearly reach 6 feet tall, i wonder what fertilisers they mix in the food these days to make kids big, lol

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^^^ GBAM _{I couldnt have posted better.}

He he he, someone is trying to make themself come across as intelligent, sharp guy I wasn't kuku talking to nobody, just jejely minding my own business as usual

Y'all are so correct,and ur words scare me.
I'm gettin ready 4 work so I kant start up dat kinda discussion now.
I'l do it whn i get bk home.I'l also send a mail 2her mom.Boy i'm nw scared!

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He he he, someone is trying to make themself come across as intelligent, sharp guy I wasn't kuku talking to nobody, just jejely minding my own business as usual

Shey na my matter you wan table today!! Nothing do you. Na me find your trouble.   

@ Topic

Or you could also set up like a nanny-cam in their rooms _{(basically turn your house into big brother)} to catch them in the act.

We are already crucifying these kids even before they reach Pontius Pilate!!

I say set up the cams, catch them in the act, report them to their parents and sell the video to a indecency company for good money. You will be amazed the stunt a 13 & 15 yr old can pull.

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Thanx but no thanx

Odunnu how did it go with the kids?

Hmm Babez, how u dey?
Nothing happened as in negative happening. I told the girl's mother everything as I saw it,she talked to her daughter.She later told me that the prescription wasnt for her that somebody(I dont believe her) used used her phone to receive the text and that it got stored in her fone when the person removed her SIM. That's a long time sha, she's acting better lately. I'm just praying that she continues being 'nice'.
. . .and my boy child is the best there is. Just pray he too doesnt go off the track.
All in all,I dont have fears per say and I try as much as possible to seperate both of them when i'm not around.

. . .how did this Postinor guy find this thread?