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| My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by marvel2011(m): 9:39pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
I am everything if not all that any good woman will long to have. I adore and cherish my wife ever since we got married on 23rd December, 2003. That's about fifteen years ago and God had blessed us with three handsome boys. But I don't know why my wife still meet with her ex-boy friend. This issue had brought severe quarrel between us but she keeps the guy phone number and even chat on whatsapp with her. I just don't know what to do. To crown it all, she sings in the church. Please someone should just talk to me now. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Dami12345: 9:44pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
Ask her where she thinks this is going. She probably just wants to feel some fire in her bones by involving in some you know naw... Its up do you to handle her. Maybe you give her a taste of her medicine so she understand that you also have temptations but you try to make her happy. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by iCauseTrouble: 9:57pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
Guess he has a better satisfactory joystick 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by dajoaneke(m): 9:58pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
If you talk to her severally and she won't change, expose them. Sometimes shames resets women's brain faster than anything else. This may bring cracks in the marriage but it's better than keeping it within. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by toksbisola: 11:04pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
@Op; to state clearly, there’re no 2 ways to this, your wife is certainly cheating on you. It’s not only when you catch someone red-handed before you term it cheating. Emotionally, she certainly is cheating on you and what she’s doing with her EX is disgusting to say the least especially since you've been married for a few years with kids. The question is what again does your wife want? Is she bored/tired of you? Does she now resent you that much? You need to find out the answers to these questions. On the other hand, if she's tired of the marriage, she might as well let you know; at least then you know where you stand; rather than her mis-behaving this way. This mostly happens when a woman has no respect for her man/husband. If a man/woman has utmost respect for themselves, then he/she has no business being in close contact with his/he EX. You’re a bit too soft; no offence and hope non taken; wake up and smell the coffee to the advertised drama that your wife is performing with her EX and PUT AN END TO IT. Your wife is killing you slowly without you even knowing by this her stubborn refusal to stop communicating with her ex. She seems to have forgotten that she’s no longer a girlfriend to her ex but rather a wife to someone else and that someone else is YOU and maybe she needs to be reminded of that fact. It’s obvious; you’re not in control of your home otherwise your wife wouldn’t have the audacity or even the liver to keep in constant contact with her EX. I am not saying that you should be a tyrant/bully neither should you be a walk-over/weakling. Rather, YOU NEED TO BE FIRM WHEN YOU SAY CERTAIN THINGS ABOUT WHAT YOU WOULD NOT TOLERATE IN YOUR HOUSE SUCH AS YOUR WIFE KEEPING CLOSE LINKS WITH HER EX/OTHER MEN AND THE SAME RULE SHOULD APPLY TO YOU AS WELL REGARDING YOUR EX/OTHER WOMEN. You have to sit-up and tackle this head-on and if she wants to stay with you, then you give her the option to cut off all ties with her EX as she’s emotionally attached to her EX which makes her have continuous contact and chats with him. If she’s not willing to do that, then you simply tell her THE CONSEQUENCES OF WHAT HER REFUSAL WOULD LEAD TO. The choice is hers; and BE FIRM when you tell her that. From your write-up, you have spoken to her severally times without any change; hence, you’ve now been boxed into a corner and you now need to address this problem as a matter of urgency i.e TAKE THE BULL BY THE HORNS. Let me digress a bit and ask if the case was the reverse (I hope you ain’t involved in this) i.e you were the one keeping in contact with your EX/other female friends' and also doing what she is doing with them; I can guarantee that she would raise the house down; fight with you, quarrel with you, nag you as well etc. The saying; DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOU comes to mind. Unfortunately, your wife has lost all form of self-respect for herself as a MARRIED WOMAN WHO HAS NO SHAME IN CARRYING ON HER EMOTIONAL EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIR WITH HER EX. This maybe due to your neglecting her; maybe/may be not who knows? Dude, wake up to the reality that HIV and AIDS ain’t written on anyone’s forehead and it only takes a single encounter to become infected. Be warned and be wise. I rest my case PS: I don't mean to alarm you but I'll strongly advise you to do a DNA test on all your kids (your wife is not to be trusted) as a result of the close bond that still exist between your wife and her EX after all your years of marriage (its baffling); is a bit suspicious (just a thought) and you have to be sure that the kids are yours and not for your wife's EX. 38 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by 3RNEST(m): 11:11pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
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| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Nobody: 11:15pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
okafor"s law in play  .this is why i can never involve myself with a girl who cant get over her ex.are u sure those three handsome boys are really ur genetical kids? when an ex hovers around like a fly then thats when u should really become worried.13 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Ekiseme(m): 11:51pm On Dec 31, 2018 |
Paternity test  2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by ValCon888: 2:40am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Toksbisola killed it and paternity test like the guy above me said. |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by walex2(m): 4:27am On Jan 01, 2019 |
never trust any woman to forget a man who disvirgened her. talk is cheap and that is the keyword. |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Gaspardd(m): 5:58am On Jan 01, 2019 |
marvel2011:The reason y she keeps talking to her is cuz u re repressing her, just leave her alone, i can understand the pain but u have to deal with it yourself cus its ur pain. |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by ashjay001(m): 6:29am On Jan 01, 2019 |
marvel2011: This can't end well. Las las, na d kids go suffer am. I hope she doesn't, continue to call ur bluff  1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by ojuu4u(m): 6:39am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Lol |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by ojuu4u(m): 6:44am On Jan 01, 2019 |
It shows you are not in charge of your own family, that is y she still has audacity to continue calling and charting with ex, Something like this happened to me immediately after my introduction with my wife, the first birthday that my-wife- to-be then, celebrated in my house, " I noticed that she received a call around 6 am and someone wishing her birthday which turned to be her EX even when me, the then fiance hadn't greeted her, I became furious and started lambasting her, threatening her that I might not go ahead for wedding. Immediately, my wife called back the Ex and warned her not to call her again, the ex started begging her that he didn't intend to cause any problem for her, he even told my wife to give me the phone, I collected the fone, I told him with aggressive responses" that I don't want him to call or chat with my wife again " since that day I have peace. NB, if your wife keeps chatting with her ex, 1. The ex will appear as someone who is more carring 2 Whenever she had anything worrying her in marriage from husband, the ex would be the person to advise her 3 The ex can advice her wrongly if he still have interest in her 4 lastly, this may lead to infidelity or remote controlling and hence crack in marriage. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by NaijaRoyalty(m): 7:12am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Lol You're a weakling 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Burgerlomo: 7:33am On Jan 01, 2019 |
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| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Nobody: 7:57am On Jan 01, 2019 |
The truth is. Your wife's ex they Bleep her pussy Wella. Improve in your sex life, exercise, go to the gym. Pack some muscles, brush your smelly mouth (most Nigerian males have bad breath) and finally Bleep her well. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Nobody: 7:59am On Jan 01, 2019 |
marvel2011:first of all I'd advise you to bug her phone. I can show you how to do it. Bug her whatsapp since they normally chat there and hook up with their everyday conversation If you have an iPhone, open safari browser, type web.whatsapp.com, request desktop site and use your wife's phone to scan the Qrcode your wife's whatsapp will be logged in on your phone. Note: I said Safari browser because other browsers will notify her anytime you are online. I can help you hook up with all her calls too if you want 7 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by blues343(m): 8:05am On Jan 01, 2019 |
TWO THINGS ARE INVOLVED 1.It's either She day Fvck Am or 2. She still wan Fvck Am SIMPLE 4 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Nobody: 8:07am On Jan 01, 2019 |
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| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Kanixt(m): 8:12am On Jan 01, 2019 |
marvel2011:Go straight up and tell her to choose between you and him. And 3 things will happen 1.you 2.him 3. No answer. If 3.happens that means she want to maintain this status quo. Then decision is on you whether to force her out or to force yourself out of the marriage If 2.happens you have to accept it as destiny and move forward. If 1.happens you have to give her hard conditions without fear of losing her or the kids that will make her impossible to see him again. Please be a man enough for her. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Nobody: 8:19am On Jan 01, 2019 |
lilbest4: Omoh this marriage thing tire me for one reason Nothing lasts forever. One day una go tire for each other no matter how una love each other. Because when you both seen each other too much, I don't care they enter you no longer want to impress your partner because you now in a comfort zone you feel they yours now and can't leave. That's why you see most men with pot belly and women out of shape looking so fat like non humans. One thing I noticed from my dad and mum's marriage (they been together for 25 mins now) is that my dad never fails to groom himself, maintain his skin, works out (my dad is 55) wears good perfume and clothes, the same thing for my mum, they always impress each other, they keep the love burning. Looking attractive to each other. If you see them you will think my mom and dad are teen. They look super young, my dad always text my mum buys her gifts, my mum on the other hand always makes him happy. So man tell me why she go cheat.? My mum they always gosh out about how my pops they slay, when you stop doing the things you did to woo your then gf who is now your wife. She go come begin lose affection for you they look you as friend. Omoh. Na human being we be. No matter how you love woman and she treat you wrong always the love go die. That's the same thing as being married and you stop being romantic, and all that ish. Sorry for ya. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by fox26: 9:22am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Use your hands bro. Beat up your wife severly if she wants divorce that's the outcome. They are having sex behind you 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by KingOfAllIgbos: 9:39am On Jan 01, 2019 |
ValCon888: I agree totally. I just don't want to quote that long message... The OP is obviously a weakling who needs to take a stand fast. He needs to do DNA tests to double check too |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by tonak(m): 9:40am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Brace yourself bro, it certainly won't end well, prepare your mind for the worst. Been through that road. Try get evidence of their conversation and show her parents, they probably don't see anything wrong in her chatting up her ex, especially if the guy has more money than you. But get enough evidence |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by boiz2men(m): 9:57am On Jan 01, 2019 |
See eh. B like na baby mama go make sense pass... I am tired of cheating hoes. I dey fear marriage I swear... What is all these na? Somebody like me who doesn't talk will die of hypertension. If a man will go to heaven or hell... 60% is determined by the wife.... Men cheat too, I know... But when it comes to sex, it's the ladies who opens the door.... She has the sole right to determine if sex should occur or not... 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Chubhie: 10:06am On Jan 01, 2019 |
If you subscribe to the mafia ideology on family, that ex should be sleeping with the fishes by now... It's okay to leave traces so your wife knows it's you. I do not wish you to commit murder. But you would be justified in this case cos what's left of man's self worth and respect when his wife and mother of his boys is reduced to a public latrine? 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by SmellingAnus(m): 11:20am On Jan 01, 2019 |
He may most likely end in jail and another man maybe even younger will fuc.k her cunt to his satisfaction |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Homguy(m): 11:34am On Jan 01, 2019 |
marvel2011: toksbisola:This bolder part is a real possibility. You have to check. A lot of father's are fathering children that are not theirs. It's more important in this case because your wife hasn't let go of her EX. Very interesting things happen in this world. All the same, becareful. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by Curvinus(m): 11:45am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Marriage is an uphill task as the op may have found out. maybe it's time to loosen your grip on your wife and let her breathe some fresh air. She has given you three handsome boys and served you faithfully for the last fifteen years. What more could ask of her? You need to cut her some slack and let her live her life the way it pleases her. if you can't take it, you know what to do. This is 2019 and you must learn to control your jealousy cos you don't own her, Marriage or not. Who knows, maybe she even married you because you were ready but never truly fancied you. So you can imagine the torture she has had to endure all these while. Lastly, if your claim to be every woman's dream is anything to go by, then why aren't you going out there to choose from the abundance of beautiful women who are dreaming to have you, rather than creating a thread on nairaland. Get yourself a more beautiful woman and watch your insecurities disappear. 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife's Ex. Someone Should Assist Me by dollytino4real(f): 11:57am On Jan 01, 2019 |
SmellingAnus:guy happy New year dear |
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