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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by sanmtiago(m): 10:01am On Jan 28, 2019
Brother I once had a dream like yours but our dear Nigeria will not let you live it up.. So sorry to burst ya bubbles undecided

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by sureheaven(m): 10:01am On Jan 28, 2019
What a good way to go for a lost child.

Aja to ba few Sonu, koni gbo fere olode.

Go ahead and live abnormal live since the normal is a taboo and abomination to you. shocked

The end shall tell.
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by sorority11(m): 10:01am On Jan 28, 2019
My bro if you need to live extra ordinary life do extraordinary things.
What extra ordinary thing have you done so far?
You also need luck


Modified:
Don't worry like one guy above said when you reach 24-25 and you are not yet a footballer, you will kill for a normal life. This is the bad side of reality.
A sober contradiction

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by TheAngry1: 10:02am On Jan 28, 2019
You make it seem like your parents were abnormal to have raised you normally. Now you think their normal is abnormal, simply because you want to be abnormal?
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Jason007: 10:02am On Jan 28, 2019
it's okay, not following the norm. Write them down and see how realistic your desires are. so don't wait till you are 70 yrs regretting, I should have done this and that.

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Nobody: 10:07am On Jan 28, 2019
nnadychuks:
Hello, I'm a Nigerian, 19 years old. I've had this feeling burning inside me for the past three years; I don't want to follow the steps of my parents(study, work, marry, have children,etc..) I'm thinking of playing football like Cristiano or Neymar but people around me make me feel like I'm crazy and they make me feel like something is wrong with not wanting to live a normal life.
Is there anything wrong with me not wanting a normal life?

Not discouraging you but guy if you are not rich in Nigeria to play football and succeed hard. Cause I know many footballer in super eagles, I know otabo Caro one on one. Those people bribe coach to shortlist them the only time you won't need money is if you are extraordinarily talented guy.

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by femi4: 10:07am On Jan 28, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
At 19 u still thinking of playing football? Are u good at d game?
You start football at age 4-5. At 19, its too late to make it
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by rusher14: 10:08am On Jan 28, 2019
Don't let anybody put you down.

If you know you've got the talent, which means you are always the first name picked where ever you go, pursue your dreams.

It requires hard work, commitment and immense sacrifice.

Have a plan and though I'll say stick to it, minor adjustments could be made.

Those saying at 19, have no idea Jamie Vardy and Ian Wright got in to pro football quite late in age.

At the end, it is your life.

You could always have a backup plan.

You could still achieve your plan and still graduate from uni before many in their first year today.

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by IamHeWrites: 10:09am On Jan 28, 2019
nnadychuks:
Hello, I'm a Nigerian, 19 years old. I've had this feeling burning inside me for the past three years; I don't want to follow the steps of my parents(study, work, marry, have children,etc..) I'm thinking of playing football like Cristiano or Neymar but people around me make me feel like I'm crazy and they make me feel like something is wrong with not wanting to live a normal life.
Is there anything wrong with me not wanting a normal life?


I only don't want to MARRY or HAVE CHILDREN

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Crossbow(m): 10:10am On Jan 28, 2019
19 is quite old to begin professional football, you will come to understand this. For a Nigerian, the ladder is too long to start climbing at 19. Like you I had hopes of playing professional football back then in secondary school but I was forced to finish school back then and when I did, I got to understand that the ladder of football is quite long and in Nigeria, it is longer. I was good then but passing trials was almost impossible. I started going for trial camps in Lagos, but even when I passed, money was the problem.. We were supposed to have 150k for passport and Visa processing. The plan was to go to Cyprus and go for a real trial to start playing for lower division teams and start earning while climbing the ladder to top global teams. Nobody wanted to invest a dime in me, except for educational purpose. I lost hope, wrote jamb and got admitted into a tertiary institution.

If you have the Money, determination, skills, endurance and passion, leave the country, go to France or country that appreciate football through a football agency, go for trials and work hard, Fitness is another thing.

You can come into limelight at 24, which is not bad, (at 24, you will be 19 then smiley )

About marriage and family, that is completely understandable. We have Rev. Fathers and Sisters. Marriage isn't for everyone. I am actually thinking of taking this part too and joked about it with Mum, she wasn't happy about it even though I said it playfully but if it is a path I must take to stay happy, I will take it and everybody will just have to accept it or leave it.

BTW
What is your playing position?
Mine is CMF smiley

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by femi4: 10:10am On Jan 28, 2019
futurist369:
is it a must every great footballer must have started practicing since childhood?
Show me a successful footballer that started his career at 19. Besides, the average retirement age for a footballer is 30

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by stagger: 10:12am On Jan 28, 2019
A football career has to be nurtured from the age of 6 years. By 19 years, you should already be playing for a top clubside in your country's premier division. If at 19 years, you do not have a club, you are already facing an uphill task.

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Vulcanheph(m): 10:12am On Jan 28, 2019
The mod that pushed this to front page needs to see a psychologist

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Ndubuisipaul1: 10:13am On Jan 28, 2019
Eco99:
...
So you want ordinary people to motivate you to live an extra ordinary life...
Keep waiting
guy you are the most creative thinker in the world. This is the most suitable answer to ops question

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Nobody: 10:13am On Jan 28, 2019
kekakuz:
who is this illitrate. why dont you just shut up if you dont understand the chat
I know am ignorant about some things, so are you...but you didn't have to insult me
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by pillan(f): 10:13am On Jan 28, 2019
nnadychuks:
Hello, I'm a Nigerian, 19 years old. I've had this feeling burning inside me for the past three years; I don't want to follow the steps of my parents(study, work, marry, have children,etc..) I'm thinking of playing football like Cristiano or Neymar but people around me make me feel like I'm crazy and they make me feel like something is wrong with not wanting to live a normal life.
Is there anything wrong with me not wanting a normal life?
nothing is wrong with you, people think marriage is the ultimate, be who you are, strive hard and succeed, please, always stay true to yourself
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by qanda: 10:14am On Jan 28, 2019
........you can be different..if you choose to.... time reveals all things.
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Praktikals(m): 10:18am On Jan 28, 2019
greatnaija01:
you are LIVING A NORMAL LIFE ALREADY.... so stop squealing about it or making a fuss about it.

IT IS COMPLETELY NORMAL IN THIS ENLIGHTENED AGE TO BE SO PASSIONATE TO PURSUE YOUR DREAMS.

The most celebrated people today are those who DID, so really it is easier to be allowed to pursue your dreams now than how it was 20 YEARS AGO.

So step out and make moves..... stop announcing your PLANS or GOALS or VISION to others.
EAGLES DO NOT DISCUSS WITH CHICKENS on how HIGH THEY ARE PERMITTED TO FLY.

So if you are still being supported by custodians and parents.... then it is wise to do what they want you to do for now till you have an exit strategy to be ON YOUR OWN and then you can follow your dreams without LOOKING BACK.



I love this quote
stop announcing your PLANS or GOALS or VISION to others.
EAGLES DO NOT DISCUSS WITH CHICKENS on how HIGH THEY ARE PERMITTED TO FLY

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by unmask: 10:20am On Jan 28, 2019
nnadychuks:
Hello, I'm a Nigerian, 19 years old. I've had this feeling burning inside me for the past three years; I don't want to follow the steps of my parents(study, work, marry, have children,etc..) I'm thinking of playing football like Cristiano or Neymar but people around me make me feel like I'm crazy and they make me feel like something is wrong with not wanting to live a normal life.
Is there anything wrong with me not wanting a normal life?
well what u described is the norm..... however to live a normal life, do what makes you happy..... marriage kids books work can make some people happy and others not so much.... In the end you are answerable for all your actions and inactions....just ensure that most of the time you are happy and xan live with your choices.

While you are at it listen to "Sunscreen" by Baz Luhrmann
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Raalsalghul: 10:20am On Jan 28, 2019
nnadychuks:
this set of people will also tell you 'you can't find love now, wait till 10 years later then you'll reminisce about loving that girl and laugh'
There is nothing like love. angry
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by blingxx(m): 10:23am On Jan 28, 2019
mimicue:
youre still young, as you grow older you will have more sense

Pls don't discourage him, I once wanted to a artist when I was 17, at the time grin I can draw for Africa, I draw any picture I find interesting cartoons and other stuffs but I was discourage by parents, friends (who are probably into online scamming now )

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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Fisher007: 10:24am On Jan 28, 2019
I totally understand you.
Just live life the way you want and never look back.

Because you were born alone and will die alone.
So don't listen to what people say about you. Just live your life the way you want.
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by oluwafemim(m): 10:24am On Jan 28, 2019
Eco99:
...

So you want ordinary people to motivate you to live an extra ordinary life...

Keep waiting
k
Fantastic answer
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by Eromose12345: 10:27am On Jan 28, 2019
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Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by kekakuz(m): 10:28am On Jan 28, 2019
futurist369:
I know am ignorant about some things, so are you...but you didn't have to insult me
good you admit your ignorance. am sorry and i withdraw my words
Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by OMEGA009(m): 10:32am On Jan 28, 2019
If at 19, you never blow for football, fogerrit. Na village people dey follow you.

Re: I Don't Want To Live A Normal Lifestyle: Study, Work, Marry, Have Children..etc by MycoleA(m): 10:36am On Jan 28, 2019
When reality hits you hard, you will live a normal life

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