My cousin who’s now a British citizen just came back few weeks ago after spending 10 years in London and took his mom to London, now that’s not a bad thing to do, but this uncle of mine has been down for 5 years now with diabetes. It has really affected him so much that he doesn’t act normal these days,this my uncle sold some of his landed property to send his son to London for studies, after doing that, his business took a major blow which made the man to loses several millions of naira. Since then he has not being able to lay his hands on something tangible to do till he feel sick, I have gone to see him on several occasions, asking if the son has been sending money for his medication and upkeep which he answered to the negative. I have been asking this dude what’s up with him after he got married and got a very good job over there, why he doesn’t want to come back or do something about his dad illness, he will always say that there’s no money

Now he was back a few weeks ago and all he could do was take his mom, a midwife, who’s hale and hearty along with him, leaving his ailing dad who could have benefited so much with the good health care system in the Uk. Now the man is at home languishing with an ailment that has deteriorated so much. I called him the other day and lambasted him so much and he told me he is coming back this Easter, I asked if there’s a plan about taking the old man along too so he could have access to better health care. He said till he comes back first.

I love my mum but no one can be compared to my father

It's the sacrifice fathers make. They are hardly recognised. The women always benefit from the kids. Men are expected to marry women, provide for the woman and the kids, stick with her alone for life, only to be forgotten later in life because it is also his duty to discipline the kids and put them on the right path which he is also blamed for later.
As a young man now, learn from what the old men around you are going through. Look out for yourself. Groove your life very well while you're looking after your family and make sure you save enough for yourself for old age.

Hmmm

mrbyron:
It's the sacrifice fathers make. They are hardly recognised. The women always benefit from the kids. Men are expected to marry women, provide for the woman and the kids, stick with her alone for life, only to be forgotten later in life because it is also his duty to discipline the kids and put them on the right path which he is also blamed for later.
As a young man now, learn from what the old men around you are going through. Look out for yourself. Groove your life very well while you're looking after your family and make sure you save enough for yourself for old age.

I swear down, the man invested all he had in his kids, if he had known that it will pan out like this, he would have saved himself a large sum for unforeseen circumstances in the future

Triniti:
My cousin who’s now a British citizen just came back few weeks ago after spending 10 years in London and took his mom to London, now that’s not a bad thing to do, but this uncle of mine has been down for 5 years now with diabetes. It has really affected him so much that he doesn’t act normal these days,this my uncle sold some of his landed property to send his son to London for studies, after doing that, his business took a major blow which made the man to loses several millions of naira. Since then he has not being able to lay his hands on something tangible to do till he feel sick, I have gone to see him on several occasions, asking if the son has been sending money for his medication and upkeep which he answered to the negative. I have been asking this dude what’s up with him after he got married and got a very good job over there, why he doesn’t want to come back or do something about his dad illness, he will always say that there’s no money

Now he was back a few weeks ago and all he could do was take his mom, a midwife, who’s hale and hearty along with him, leaving his ailing dad who could have benefited so much with the good health care system in the Uk. Now the man is at home languishing with an ailment that has deteriorated so much. I called him the other day and lambasted him so much and he told me he is coming back this Easter, I asked if there’s a plan about taking the old man along too so he could have access to better health care. He said till he comes back first.

Perhaps he's just taken the mother to go and act as a nanny abroad for him? His dad wouldn't be useful for that purpose, especially since the father is ill and can't help him take care of his children over there.
Don't be deceived that his mother has gone to enjoy abroad, as she is probably being used there as a free nanny.
Meanwhile, he should be able to send money to the dad for his drugs if he truly has a well paying job as you implied. Many people are just hustling in the abroad o, contrary to popular belief.

For the Fathers, responsibilities and obligations to the children is their priority but they don't build and maintain relationships with their children.

They should try familiarizing with the children for a change.

eyinjuege:


Perhaps he's just taken the mother to go and act as a nanny abroad for him? His dad wouldn't be useful for that purpose, especially since the father is ill and can't help him take care of his children over there.
Don't be deceived that his mother has gone to enjoy abroad, as she is probably being used there as a free nanny.
Meanwhile, he should be able to send money to the dad for his drugs if he truly has a well paying job as you implied. Many people are just hustling in the abroad o, contrary to popular belief.

She’s not there for a nanny, she’s a midwife here, and will be back very soon

Lesson - while investing on your children education also invest on your retirement plans. Your children can never be your retirement plan.

Female children are even more caring to aged parents than the males

Triniti:
My cousin who’s now a British citizen just came back few weeks ago after spending 10 years in London and took his mom to London, now that’s not a bad thing to do, but this uncle of mine has been down for 5 years now with diabetes. It has really affected him so much that he doesn’t act normal these days,this my uncle sold some of his landed property to send his son to London for studies, after doing that, his business took a major blow which made the man to loses several millions of naira. Since then he has not being able to lay his hands on something tangible to do till he feel sick, I have gone to see him on several occasions, asking if the son has been sending money for his medication and upkeep which he answered to the negative. I have been asking this dude what’s up with him after he got married and got a very good job over there, why he doesn’t want to come back or do something about his dad illness, he will always say that there’s no money

Now he was back a few weeks ago and all he could do was take his mom, a midwife, who’s hale and hearty along with him, leaving his ailing dad who could have benefited so much with the good health care system in the Uk. Now the man is at home languishing with an ailment that has deteriorated so much. I called him the other day and lambasted him so much and he told me he is coming back this Easter, I asked if there’s a plan about taking the old man along too so he could have access to better health care. He said till he comes back first.

It is either:
1. He treated his wife and children poorly when he was agile;
2. His mother posioned the children against him;
3. He had no relationship with his family growing up.

God heal him.

Triniti:
My cousin who’s now a British citizen just came back few weeks ago after spending 10 years in London and took his mom to London, now that’s not a bad thing to do, but this uncle of mine has been down for 5 years now with diabetes. It has really affected him so much that he doesn’t act normal these days,this my uncle sold some of his landed property to send his son to London for studies, after doing that, his business took a major blow which made the man to loses several millions of naira. Since then he has not being able to lay his hands on something tangible to do till he feel sick, I have gone to see him on several occasions, asking if the son has been sending money for his medication and upkeep which he answered to the negative. I have been asking this dude what’s up with him after he got married and got a very good job over there, why he doesn’t want to come back or do something about his dad illness, he will always say that there’s no money

Now he was back a few weeks ago and all he could do was take his mom, a midwife, who’s hale and hearty along with him, leaving his ailing dad who could have benefited so much with the good health care system in the Uk. Now the man is at home languishing with an ailment that has deteriorated so much. I called him the other day and lambasted him so much and he told me he is coming back this Easter, I asked if there’s a plan about taking the old man along too so he could have access to better health care. He said till he comes back first.

U know all this yet after getting an apartment and one small car una go rush go marry.

Men should look out for themselves.Have a retirement plan while looking out for your kids.

The emotional side of mothers is stronger and that works in favour of women more when it comes to their kids.Fathers too OUGHT to build an emotional relationship with their kids,have a bond with them,not just pay school fees.

Nevertheless,'good' children should not forget their parents.

bukatyne:


It is either:
1. He treated his wife and children poorly when he was agile;
2. His mother posioned the children against him;
3. He had no relationship with his family growing up.

God heal him.

Nah, not all, he took very good care of all his kids. Sent them all to the university, he has core family values and always put his family first in all he did.

Raalsalghul:
U know all this yet after getting an apartment and one small car una go rush go marry.

Excuse you, what are you talking about here? What has apartment and car got to do with the op?

ogawisdom:
Lesson - while investing on your children education also invest on your retirement plans. Your children can never be your retirement plan.

Female children are even more caring to aged parents than the males

So you get sense like this.
E be like say you get on and off switch.
Won't reply you on any thread again as it seems you are bipolar.

Triniti:
Excuse you, what are you talking about here? What has apartment and car got to do with the op?

Don't expect you to understand.

Sad

Everyone talks about mother's love but no one talks about Father's sacrifice

Really sad

It's a woman's world

mrbyron:
It's the sacrifice fathers make. They are hardly recognised. The women always benefit from the kids. Men are expected to marry women, provide for the woman and the kids, stick with her alone for life, only to be forgotten later in life because it is also his duty to discipline the kids and put them on the right path which he is also blamed for later.
As a young man now, learn from what the old men around you are going through. Look out for yourself. Groove your life very well while you're looking after your family and make sure you save enough for yourself for old age.

You said it all bro,
Jst make sure you save enough for old age

Reading dis story just gave me a think twice, I just got paid few days back and my dad birthday was few weeks back
,will b getting to the boutique to get my old man a new flannel longs sleeve ,
Cus I have only seen my dad buy cloths like go for real shopping once ever since I kw him, most of the money he makes is just to feed the family, upkeep and pay up to 4 persons (siblings school fees), he try

Dis week will not pass me back

larryking540:
Reading dis story just gave me a think twice, I just got paid few days back and my dad birthday was few weeks back
,will b getting to the boutique to get my old man a new flannel longs sleeve ,
Cus I have only seen my dad buy cloths like go for real shopping once ever since I kw him, most of the money he makes is just to feed the family, upkeep and pay up to 4 persons (siblings school fees), he try

Dis week will not pass me back

Do that fast bro, I advised my friend to do so for his dad this past Christmas, you need to see the glee on the old man face. Most guys don’t know how to show love to their dad including me. I wish my dad was still alive now, I would have been spoiling him silly with good things of life.

Triniti:
Do that fast bro, I advised my friend to do so for his dad this past Christmas, you need to see the glee on the old man face. Most guys don’t know how to show love to their dad including me. I wish my dad was still alive now, I would have been spoiling him silly with good things of life.

Na so bro, he has done the best of all for me, it's now my turn o

You are just a 'cousin', you don't know what must have happened in the past. Some fathers are good providers but treat their families very mean. Trust me, if you share a bond with your kids, you wouldn't be neglected. It's not all about providing.