Is it true that love comes once in a life time?
Ive loved this guy for 12 years, right from childhood but he sees me like his sister, someone he can't hurt, someone he wants to protect and keep forever, Have you ever loved someone so dearly and he loves you so brotherly, he still sees you as his kid sister and not as a woman.
ive tried going into a relationship but ive never loved anyone the way i love this guy. Alot men are asking for my hand in marriage and im still thinking and praying about it, but i know that deep down in my heart if this guy comes tomorrow and says he wants to marry me i wont think twice. why can't i feel this way for others, it is really disturbing me because the last time he came back, he was drawn to me and i felt the love in his actions and in his eyes, so much unspoken communication, but thats not enough for me to wait, i need committment which he hasnt voiced. i wouldnt want to get committed somewhere and break it tomorrow because of him,
what do i do?

Why dont u just tell him or get someone that can tell him. If he has loved you like a sister, he would probably want you to be his wife. And if he doesn't feel the same way, he would understand and not make you feel like an idiot.

In my experience, he probably feels the same way about you,
ACT NOW

@ LEADMYSTER

I totally share your point of view

@ sweetstjoy

Dear please and please speak up before its too late, please make hay while the sun shines. Now one impossible thing on earth that we all wished was possible, is reading other people's mind to know how they really felt

Now you've got to use the ones you have, your mouth and your heart Talk to him, tell him you're in love with him, you can't love another the way you love him and that he's all you want in a man

If he feels and wants you the same, believe me he'll be the happiest guy on earth and he'll not hesitate to make his intentions known. You see he might be feeling the same but out of fear of hurting you if you didn't feel the same might be what's holding him back. Like you said, you guys have a lot of "unsaid stuff" in the air, and its about time one of you did something before someone else does the talking which might end up reaping you of your mutual happiness together If you guys bear the feeling together, and somehing is not done or someone does not speak up on time, then it might lead to a future of regrets and "what ifs", darling hope you won't jeopardize your future, love and happiness like that??

If on the other hand he sees you as nothing more than a sister, then there you'll have all the closure you need to move on and open up your heart to someone else cos then you know the feeling is not mutual and no point in pursuing a one-sided dream

@sweetstjoy

I have been in a similar situation as this one before. Grew up with this girl, our families are so close. I got so attached to her but felt like I had to watch over her like a sister(she's 2yrs younger than me). I guess she could tell from some of my actions but we never admitted these feelings.
She's married now, and finally told me about the feelings she had(has?). Now, I feel so bitter and angry with myself.

The point is, he may feel for you more than just a sister but fears you'd see him differently if it goes beyond that. My advice is to find the right time, mood to talk about it. For sure, he'll let you know where he stands, or where he places you

And yes, I feel the truest of love comes but only once in a lifetime. After all, God only took out one rib!
Act now!

@sweetjoy,

everyone on this thread has been giving you the right advice but you really need to act on it fast. Im not sure if ive actually been in this situation but theres something that draws me to this thread and i would like to help.
I know how Naija girls have a problem with asking a guy out, if u need help on talking to the brother about it, holla at my IM for one on one advice

Consultation fee will not be charged for the first session

MYGod. whao, long years is it a cause.
and u are call it brotherly. i call it pity. becos the bobo knows its been long thats why he is accting brothely. can i see ur pics pls to tell u more.
i will pray wit u so that he ASSKS FAST. JEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ

Everybody here have given you good advice but i guess you will have problem on how to start it. I'ill advice you call him and at the end of the discussion tell I LOVE YOU and waiting for his response as a stepping stone

You better open up to him before you lose him

I can personally relate to this topic. During Secondary school I had this crush on the son of one my dad's business friends. I tried everything to get him to notice me, Dang! he would refer to me as his "lil sis", Lil sis ma ass, I was in love ,

Anyways, to cut a long story short by the time I got to form 4, hips, breasts and all, He was on to me like glue. But by then I had lost all interest. Even today, with a wife and daughter he would still drop little hints about what might have been. Too bad, He had one chance and he blew it, and I dont believe in second chances where anything in life is concerned,

sweetstjoy:
lovelies ,
i was sceptical before sending this post but here i am feeling so loved and appreciated, i cant thank you all enough, this is my life and if it goes well i will always thank you all for all for advice,
leadmystar, cute_ass, maleeq, and beline i appreciate you,
we spoke yesterday, but i didn tell him, but with your advice, ill make hay while the sun shines(cute_ass) ill call him tonight and tell him, im scared though but i have to do it, the pressure is becoming too much for me to bear.
love you all and expect my feedback soon

I hope u guys are now married, if so I'm happy for you and if not, I hope you are happy with that person that made u do d somewhat impossible by falling in love with another person.... Wish me luck in my love life too though I'm still a student

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