Hello I’ll like to be brief as possible
I’m dating this lady 4years older than me for almost a year and we love each other...but at a point I started noticing a strange behavior from her she likes to control the relationship and want me to Bleep her anytime she like....not minding if I’m in the mood or not if I refuse she’ll be angry. So one day I decided to test her. We were together and I made a move to kiss her but she declined and pushed me away that she’s not in the mood I got mad and walked out then she was laughing at me. Now all this while someone was chating me up on fb telling me how much she is into me claiming to love me and want to settle down with me.....it took me time to be comfortable with her cos I told I wasn’t comfortable but along the line I played along, She promised to give me money to start up a clothing business I was playing along so we fixed a date today to meet at an eatery then when I got there it was this my babe. Meanwhile we just split a week ago.. she started insulting me and I did the same too. Telling her I don’t care about the drama because she never loved me too she just love the way I Bleep her so she was laughing at me and calling me names. Now I’ve blocked her and detach myself permanently from her. Funny thing is we attend the same church so we’ll be seeing each other every Sunday but I need advise I don’t know if I’ve taken the wrong or right step as this lady just showed she’s desperate

Change church. Or at least attend another church for some months. It's not like you're learning anything from the salvation messages in the church.
Who knows, the new church you will join will eventually make you see that fornication is a sin before God.

eyeview:
Change church. Or at least attend another church for some months. It's not like you're learning anything from the salvation messages in the church.
Who knows, the new church you will join will eventually make you see that fornication is a sin before God.

Sense will not kee u!

Wait till she catches u in yuh dreams tonight,na then u go know say SANGO,no be just name....

Both of you don't love youself. You were flirting with someone online without disclosing you are in a serious relationship.

Go another church. Once u guys keep seeing urselves it will bring back two thing. Love or hatred....but it's will likely bring hatred. Do everything possible to ignore her.

You made the right decision a woman who loves you won't be controlling and you made it known to her so she can change but she refused and relship is a two way thing.

But don't make her stop you from going to serve God please, if you see her in church say hi and pass by abeg and if you don't want to say hi just pass by.

Be the bigger person.

your thing Big E dey pepper Shewa (in picazo's voice)

Dodo

then disguise as an online lover and escape na

Start your own church.

eyeview:
Change church. Or at least attend another church for some months. It's not like you're learning anything from the salvation messages in the church.
Who knows, the new church you will join will eventually make you see that fornication is a sin before God.

Nairaland never seizes to make one laugh out loud!!!

Chairman na only dat church dey ur area ne. Change church na abi u still love am

Bros i ve had a similar experience, u will find it very difficult to be in desame church wit her, mostly if 1 of u is actively involve in church activities. Guilty conscience will keep eating u up. My best advice 4 u, is that if u knw u want to remain in the church, go and talk to her like adult and apologise to her even if u re right, tell her u re sori 4 coming into her life dat u would ve luv to change church because of her, bt u wont because dats ur church, dat u guys shld just act as if notin happen btwn both of u because its even a sin to be having such afair.