justiniyke29:
OK, there is this girl where I work she is an I.T student, since January this year this chick has always being a little too close to me, every time I look up she is mostly staring at me and smiling. Well I didn't pay much attention to that as I was in a relationship then. Well since last month we became very close, though I never made any sexual advance towards her.

last week Thursday, we both had the day off and we ended up spending it together, towards late afternoon we got to my house and she kissed me on my cheek, well one thing led to another and we had sex. It turns out she was a virgin.

Now the problem is that since last Friday these girl has being avoiding me like plague, at first I didn't notice it, but by Tuesday it became obvious. I called her two days ago when we were less busy and she was just looking at her hands and saying nothing, yesterday I tried to drop her home as usual and she took of before I could get my bags. Now I don't know what is the problem as the same person who couldn't keep her mouth shut with me now can't say more than a few words. If she is laughing or gisting and I come in, she automatically keep shut and avoid my gaze. This is the first time I am feeling like I was used and dumped.

Forgive any grammatical blunders.

greatnaija01:


if you want to do it right after taking her dignity for life.... simply consider dating her for real... YOU ARE THE ONE TELLING YOUR SIDE... if we ask the girl she may say YOU ARE THE ONE ACTING DIFFERENT AND SHE REGRETS GIVING YOU HER MOST PRECIOUS PRICE.

You have unleashed something in her that will make her cheap to any other guy if you do not date her for real.

BUT if you never had plans for a relationship with her and you still went ahead to sleep with her because she too was curiously naive then you were unfair and it is not good o.

Dont you have her number, send her chats and let her feel secure that her secret is safe with you. She is a good girl for now till another guy uses her. You opened her up at least be a man and step up to commit to her.

bluesky30:
Check ur report card maybe you didn't performed well.

DanDeeBoss:
You enjoyed the sex abi?? Just move on.... I wouldn't even bother to ask her questions

justiniyke29:
To be honest I like her but I was not ready to enter into any relationship yet. The issue is that she is avoiding me all of a sudden. And find it hard to look me in the eye

justiniyke29:
I probably would have done this if I wasn't the one who deflowered her. I just want my conscience clear. I would love to date her as she is the jovial and amiable type to be with.

justiniyke29:
OK, there is this girl where I work she is an I.T student, since January this year this chick has always being a little too close to me, every time I look up she is mostly staring at me and smiling. Well I didn't pay much attention to that as I was in a relationship then. Well since last month we became very close, though I never made any sexual advance towards her.

DanDeeBoss:
You enjoyed the sex abi?? Just move on.... I wouldn't even bother to ask her questions

justiniyke29:
To be honest I like her but I was not ready to enter into any relationship yet. The issue is that she is avoiding me all of a sudden. And find it hard to look me in the eye

justiniyke29:
To be honest I like her but I was not ready to enter into any relationship yet. The issue is that she is avoiding me all of a sudden. And find it hard to look me in the eye

Biglittlelois:



So why did have sex with her then, the moment you noticed she is a virgin why didn't you stop since you don't want anything serious she is shy and doesn't know how to interact with you especially since you both are not dating, how would you want to leave her like that after taking her dignity?? Do you know the kind of impression of guys she'll have from now on

ElsonMorali:


She's avoiding you because being her fiest time she's ashamed and probably scared you'd tell everyone in the office that you fvcked her.

Be a man and ask her out. You may not have had the intention of dating her but now that you deflowered her...?

You should have thought twice before cheating on your own girlfriend.

PrimadonnaO:
In my books, there's a thing called "wasted virginity."

I mean, if you must give it up, it should be with someone who loves and respects you... preferably in the confines of a defined relationship.
Even if y'all don't end up together, at least you'll have the satisfaction that you gave it up to someone worthwhile.

justiniyke29:
I never said I wanted to leave her, I would actually love to see how it goes. But her attitude is baffling

ElsonMorali:


OK, I'm quoting you twice. Date the girl and see the good side of her.

justiniyke29:
Well I didn't cheat on my gf as I am currently single. My gf and I broke up this January, I would ask her out and take it from there

austyn0:


January this year it all started and you were in a relationship then. I don't understand something and you didn't explain in the post.

Are you still in that relationship??

justiniyke29:
That's true, but we are both single and we are good friends. I see no reason why we can't date.

Biglittlelois:



But you also said you have a girlfriend, what will happen to her then, you cheating assh.ole, you don't deserve any of them

PrimadonnaO:


You're no longer in a relationship?

Please, if you really do decide to date her...make sure it's not out of pity. That's when you'd really do her a great injustice. You didn't rape her... don't feel burdened to date her because you were the one who deflowered her. Back in the day, you'd marry a woman you deflowered... but now's not that time.

As you said, she's on IT... she'd finish and leave before you know it. So don't bother starting a relationship you aren't fully ready to be invested in. She'll be alright.

Biglittlelois:


Why do you keep changing your narrative? All of a sudden you're single, you don't deserve an advice truly.

justiniyke29:
Well I didn't cheat on my gf as I am currently single. My gf and I broke up this January, I would ask her out and take it from there

Biglittlelois:



How cruel of you!!! He disvirgined her

Lol... Alright

justiniyke29:
I probably would have done this if I wasn't the one who deflowered her. I just want my conscience clear. I would love to date her as she is the jovial and amiable type to be with.

DanDeeBoss:
Sorry about my comment.... Don't take it seriously...

Yeah it's the right thing to do

justiniyke29:
Nah, I didn't. I knew it was a joke, and moreover I am not that type