This is just me, except I have a decent paying job which doesn't really count in the bigger picture because I have to hand over my pay to close relatives.

Life just sucks for some of us and the sooner we accept that the easier we will see out our time in this miserable realm.

What did u do with the loan money ur company granted u?. U said u were sacked and humiliated.

Your major problem is fear of rejection...low self esteem..learn to take d bullets.,make mistakes, accept criticism good or bad,approach people and accept rejection ,it makes u stronger.

With the opposite sex....they wil always act that way..ignore watever they say and prove ur worth.

From ur write up..u are also unknowingly....arrogant...yup

Life is really unfair . If it really come true like the way we dream or picture it , we wouldn’t realize or learn a thing .

Yes. At 35, you don’t expect ‘em to pat your head.
Your comfort zone is your enemy, take a bold step and move .

I don’t need to talk ‘bout the swindle. Holding on the past doesn’t change anything . Lot of people have it worst than this and survive and what your parent indirectly mean is if orphan could survive without parent , sell yourself and survive too.

It’s time , get out now .

NoHoper:
This is just me, except I have a decent paying job which doesn't really count in the bigger picture because I have to hand over my pay to close relatives.

Life just sucks for some of us and the sooner we accept that the easier we will see out our time in this miserable realm.

Uncle, you still done it most of your cash? Start learning to save for the rainy day.

phlamesG:
My name is Martin (not real name), I graduated from the university in the year 2009, that’s some 10 years ago. I’m an introvert, like the worst kind you can ever think of. I think this has also contributed to majority of my problems.

At 35, one would think that I’d have a nice paying job, nice little house with wife and beautiful kids, but the rude awakening is that I still live with my parents, I have two younger siblings, the youngest just got a job with a multinational company, somewhere in VI, while the other one is a medical doctor based in the states.

My parents, most especially my father don’t miss the opportunity to remind me of what a failure I am or I have become. He once threatened to send me out of his house, if I don’t sit up and lead by example. My mum at the initial stage used to encourage me and give me words of advice, but recently she told me that she has lost her patience, that I’m trying to sow the seed of stagnation and regression in our family.

I know you all would be wondering how I got here, but from a very young age, I’ve always been known to be brilliant and academic inclined, the funny part is that I graduated with a first class(most people, especially my immediate family seems to have forgotten) from one of the top federal universities in the country, where I studied architecture.

Like I said previously, I have poor social skills, I tend to bottle up my emotions instead of opening up to people, I’ve never had a girlfriend, not because I’m not good looking but because I can’t summon the courage to approach a lady. People say I’m timid and scared to face the world.

I had a job once immediately after I finished school at a construction firm, I worked there for two good years and I saved every penny I earned, hoping to invest in real estate, but I was swindled by some persons who claimed the sold landed properties, that was close to N8 million. All my life’s savings gone, I took a huge amount of loan from my company, when I couldn’t pay back I was sacked and humiliated.

Well ever since, all my efforts at getting another job has proven futile, it’s like there’s a spiritual force that is holding me back, infact I’ve lost all hope there is, my situation has deteriorated into extreme depression as I type this, suicide thoughts keep flooding into my head, I need help please, I’d be reading the comments below, please no negative comment, like I said I’m a very emotional person.

Zubelu.com
https://zubelu.com/blog/im-35-years-old-and-i-already-feel-like-a-failure-in-life/

Nothing spiritual is wrong with you,

You lost a whole 8 million and that was the beginning of your depression couple with your introvert life

Beg God to lift you up ams and
He will do it for you

Don't give up because the satan is not resting

You can discuss with your brothers and entire family how you want them to assist you

You will rise again but stop staying indoors and lonely that's when stupid thoughts comes to mind

You initially outlined your problem correctly by stating that you had poor social skills, then you started speculating nonsensically on spiritual attacks. The fact is; read my lips; ECONOMIC SUCCESS IN LIFE REQUIRES STRONG NETWORKING. no one can go it alone without external support and a good reputation. So get off your ass and get doing. Read books on how to make friends and practise what you read. You probably have at least one good friend who is an expert at that, become his sidekick. Stop skulking in your parents' house and go outside now. Today.

Above all, stop telling yourself that you are a failure. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy (I don't mean that spiritually; only psychologically).