I met this girl when i went to her place of work for official purpose. I approached her and collected her phone no. Gradually, i fall in love with her. I proposed to her and she agreed. But her attitude towards me has been very nonchalant. One of the conditions she gave me is that she is not ready to sleep with before marriage b/c she is a virgin. I agreed, but whenever i tell her to take me to her parents; at least let our r/ship be known, she tells me it is too early that i should give her time to pray. NLs I have spent my hard earned money on this girl. I buy her cloths, shoes etc in fact there is no week i don't buy gifts for her all in a bid to show my good intentions.

I'm confused, i don't know whether to quit at this early stage or to continue. I am afraid of somebody coming up one day to tell me that sorry it will not work after spending my money.

Pls i need ur candid advice. My intention is to do my traditional wedding with her in Feb. 2011 then white wedding in April same yr.

You've spent so much money on her and proposed to her without even meeting with her parents?

Are you sure that she is not engaged to someone else? Why do you keep on spending on her? Don't you want her to focus on prayer only?

I think you should sit her down and ask her seriously about her plans and feelings towards you. Until she gives you an answer, keep your money for yourself (or save it for the wedding, we never know, ).

Don't get too carried away, you barely know the girl and don't know her family either. How long have you guys been dating?

@ miss ife

thanks for your candid advice. But i asked this girl whether she is married, engaged or in a serious r/ship and her answer was negative. I think you have a point that she could be engaged to someone else. All the same, i have learnt my lessons though the hard way. The search continues.

thanks once again.

she is a player and you? i don't know what to call you

@OP
I think you are rushing this girl, give her time to make up her mind, giving her gifts everyday would not compel her to marry you neither is it a ticket to her heart. Sometimes our attitude to dating is very wrong you just met a girl and within a short time you are showering gifts on her as if there's no tomorrow, take it easy, study her and if you must give gifts do it in moderation, if a girl loves you she will eventually let you know but if she doesn't your gifts will not make her change her mind.

Dereformer:

I met this girl when i went to her place of work for official purpose. I approached her and collected her phone no. Gradually, i fall in love with her. I proposed to her and she agreed. But her attitude towards me has been very nonchalant. One of the conditions she gave me is that she is not ready to sleep with before marriage b/c she is a virgin. I agreed, but whenever i tell her to take me to her parents; at least let our r/ship be known, she tells me it is too early that i should give her time to pray. NLs I have spent my hard earned money on this girl. I buy her cloths, shoes etc in fact there is no week i don't buy gifts for her all in a bid to show my good intentions.

I'm confused, i don't know whether to quit at this early stage or to continue. I am afraid of somebody coming up one day to tell me that sorry it will not work [b]after spending my money.
Pls i need your candid advice. My intention is to do my traditional wedding with her in Feb. 2011 then white wedding in April same yr.

In my opinion, i really don't believe you love this female,ure laying so much emphasis on the amount of money uve spent on her,she isn't a commodity to be bought over by ur money and gifts,methinks she probably senses this,hence her relunctance to introduce u to her family

@tjskii
so the only thing u could see from my post is the money i spent on her. If u don't spend on women, they complain u are too stingy. if u spend on women, they complain u are too liberal. Nawoooo