abeg plz my life dey quater to go, dz girl wey I bin dey die 4 since 1st yr 2nd semester, it has it that we are very good friends but i couldn't bear that I had a feeling stronger than the ordinary friendsship we had, I tried suppressing it but after some time it blows up again, i keep looking for ways to make her annoy me so that I can have a reason to hate her and move on but even if i eventually hate and delete her number it won't reach a week I'll start calling her again. it reached a stage that every 3hrs that passes that i must remember her in such a way that if am ready to marry that I'll just marry her now now. it went on till dz semester that i decided to harden my heart not to talk to her or even do as if i know her, oh my God that was when it was as if she was my life, I couldn't bear it any longer, the girl will sometimes behave as if she likes me and in some cases do as she dosen't care as if to hide something that she is about to expose or something that will betray her feelings. I've been sending her txt msgs about everything that has been goin on and how I would like her to be my girl and that I'll go to any length to make her not to regret being with me but to my surprise she dosen't reply any or even to tell me that am disturbing so I had to confront her to ask her out, I started by asking her why she didn't reply my msgs she asked me what I wanted her to tell me, at that point i didn't know what to say, I told her that since she wouldn't reply my txt let me tell wat I wrote, that I wanted her to be my girl and bla bla bla, she asked me if she wasn't my friend already, I told her that she wasn't replying me well that I know we ar very good friends but when I said girl friend that inside her she knw what I meant, and she jept silent 4 some time and nodded as in NO, jesus!!! it was as if I was sprayed hydrogen flouride, I wanted to sink into the ground, it was as if I was never born, infact i lost coordination. I had to ask her that every decision had a reason that if she could share it with me, she wanted to say No but I begged her for my sake that I was going to die, she said that I never asked her if she had a boyfriend. ok I said do you have, and she replied maybe, maybe is not a definite answer, I asked her the guys name, after much argument she said henry in unec final year, i wanted to know the Henry's dept but she swore she wasn't going to tell me,

nmeeee

I told her that some girls normally use having boyfriend and fiancée to scare other guyz away and that have the guy proposed to her cos we are in third year now, she asked me if I saw any ring in her hand, I said no but that this henry story she told is fake that it is not good, that if she could explain it well that I will find a good reason to leave her for good, she said ok that since I said that henry was fake that he was then fake and that why am I now moving over henry topic instead of her, I had to tell her that if I got to know the henry and confirm that he was her boyfriend that I'll stop looking at her the way I use to, I will stop thinking of her and stop getting jealous when ever I see other boys talking to her cos am seeing them as competitors and that again I'll try to forget her so that she can go on with her life without my interference, reminded her that in the past that when ever she annoyed me that I use to delete her number and that in that way I could not reach her though I collected back after a week, she said eeeeh that I've been deleting her number and I said yes but I normally rush back to it again. I asked her of the henry's dept but she kept saying that the henry is fake so I told her that it means that she dosen't have a boyfriend that I should continue trying harder in my wooing process, she just kept laughing at me, after many things that went that I can't continue typing she asked me that she hopes that am not annoyed, I asked her why she was asking that she never cared of anything concerning my feelings and she said who told me, I plainly told her that she is just faking it just to make sure she gave me a honourable discharge. I told her that I'll return 4 second leg tomorrow before but she was a kind of that she won't come out but after a while told me till then. now I love thz girl like hell and would do anything for her but I can't just understand what is happening, from my little conversation with her she either. 1. wants to still have me as a friend cos most gurls ang guyz like me cos of my sense of humour and my yabbing style, from recent discussions she was receding any talk that will scare me away but I can't just be an ordinary friend to her or 2. she wants me to continue to try harder to see how serious I am cos it is a normal thing that the whole electrical and electronics dept 3rd yr knows me as a joker that is seldom serious but in thz case am very serious.

right from time I said that I will never do anything that will get me close to a girl on the intimate level but I can't just explain how I got into this. PLZ I NEED SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO HANDLE THESE ISSUE LIKE IF SHE REALLY MEANT SHE HAD A BOYFRIEND HOW I CAN JUST FORGET ABOUT HER AND GO MY BUSINESS COS SHE IS NOT SAYING THZ WELL AND DZ WHERE IS GETTING ME MAD AND THAT IF SHE ACTUALLY MEANT SHE STILL LIKES ME BUT WANTS TO TEST MY TENACITY. AM REALLY CONFUSED, I CAME TO NIT CLASS AFTER TALKING TO HER BUT NOW CAN'T SLEEP, CAN'T READ, CAN'T THINK, INFACT USELESS AND TYPING.

<<< I'll be right back to read the rest.

And this is the story of ur life. Mehn the thing long scatter kai, sorry my batt die before i finished it

Poster,

Please use the cliff note version of telling your point, I dont have the attention span to read a book like thread,

Anyway good luck on whatever that you looking for,

lololololol - wow,  First. Sloooooowwww Down.  OK?  Slow down.  You are just as important, even more so, then your female target.  Look in the mirror - value yourself.  She isn't the only female that can make you feel like this.  Are you a virgin?

Try to write in little paragraphs that are easier to follow.

Dude, I don't even know what to tell you. When a woman tells you no, take it as a no and move on to the next woman. You killing yourself over this girl over the yrs just point to the fact you are either shy or not so good with women. Since you hv decided to talk to her again, you should lay it on the table (as you did earlier) but make it a 'take it or not' offer. I don't subscribe to all that hard to get BS people do. You either want it or you don't.

When it comes to women and dating, till the moment you commit yourself to any type of relationship, always give yourself options. There are lots of better and more suitable women around you. Date them, experiment etc and you might discover you don't even want this very lady anymore.

If the lady wants you, she wouldn't need convincing. You will be better off being with a lady that really wants to be with you than be with one that is convinced to be with you cos she is single at the moment or smth. Enjoy your life. There are many fishes in the river.

I completely agree with Deniyor

i was typing very fast with my cellphone ie why it looked scattered

I think I'll go wit ur words, am thinking of surviving and doing it real hard just that I'll be careful next time. I'll go and talk to her either to agree or letz just be as if we never knew b4, i think I can do it cos if i leave it i'll get too unstable and can't afford to break down at this level. tanx though 4 ur advice

Poster u r inlove. But d thing is if u show a gurl too much love den belive me u hvnt started dieing cos she will use u tire. Nah u go b eran boy. Buy card for me honi,I want to lick icecram etc. Pls u luv her so much but don't fuken show a gurl to much luv

@GB102 how old are you, Just a question

Take it easy, Communion ain't a rush.

Movingcoil:

i was typing very fast with my cellphone ie why it looked scattered

you mean you typed this project with a phone that shows how important and pressing this is.

Is the girl really worth it, you might have intentions since first year but finally approached her in third year.
Lets give her the benefit of doubt and wait for the coming meet, hope she tells you a convincing YES though she didn't tell you NO the other time.

If she doesn't give you a yes its up to you to move on with your life. There are too many ladies in the east to choose from.

@Movingcoil, I'm glad I decided to read your story (the layout seemed a bit daunting) but you have just written straight from the heart.

This girl you have such strong feelings for seems to be DEVELOPING feelings for you also.

Don't delete her number YET, but ease up on the pressure you are applying on her and YOURSELF.

PS you look and sound like a really cool guy, GOOD LUCK.

^^ He needs to give me whatever that chic has given him to that i can put it
some guys tea. I know I need a bit of that

You are not finished yet.
@poster
I'd suggest you SLOW DOWN.
I went through ur project and U seem to be in a rush to get this girl . If not , why was the Henry guy so important to you Someone I assume U barely know.
Time reveals so many things. If you slow down, you'd realise with time if she is really worth the while. You'd realise with time how you can step up ur game<hope u are not a player o o o o>. I'd also suggest that you involve urself in 'other things' that can make life meaningful. It's a good way to divert ur energy.
Sometimes it's good to take the back seat , once in a while, and watch as things unfold. Good luck u.

my guy you need to read tai2's thread. Learn about artificial or natural control. This woman has your mumu button on lock down.

^^^on point

mumu button locked down

Please children desist from watching too much Nollywood love/romance movies . . .

This fellow is another University accident waiting to happen, his parents sent him there to hunt for wisdom,instead  he's lost himself in the hunt for cunchas! Find true control before it is too late!!!

@op, where do school pls?

the person that said that I left my studies to look for girls, for Goodness sake am very serious with my studies just not boasting my 1st and 2nd yr gpa is 4.71 and 4 of our 1st year courses that is out are all As, so as you can see am not a loafer like you ar thinking, it was only last night that I couldn't read.
it is sony ericsson p1i that am using, the keypad can make someone type very fast.

the person that said that I left my studies to look for girls, for Goodness sake am very serious with my studies just not boasting my 1st and 2nd yr gpa is 4.71 and 4 of our 3rd yr 1st semester courses that is out are all As, so as you can see am not a loafer like you ar thinking, it was only last night that I couldn't read.
it is sony ericsson p1i that am using, the keypad can make meone type very fast.

^^^^Well done with your studies.


Your post clearly shows you are not a boastful guy.

You seem like a very cool person, looks,sense of humour and humility that's a great combination.

I am sure this girl see these traits you have NOW, give it a bit more time.

Get stuffed Black brother, you shame.

my time is almost exausted.i will come back and read d rest.why cant u summarise it?

Tp be continued

@mob444, thank you very much, itz a pity that I can't control d kind of people that write on the thread