Good evening, first of all I want to apologize for any grammatical errors and blunders am going to make thank you.

I don't know how and where to start from but I will make the story short and brief. My dad took my mom to court accusing her of which craft, threat to his life 2017 and January last year he divorced her,mind you it was 28 year year of marriage. My dad is 60, am 27 years.


I had set back concerning my education,i had to withdraw from a federal university to a private university, 5years was wasted. The main reason of going to a private university is simply because of the university strike ,am getting older... thank God and in my final year now and am doing well ,but my father suddenly withdrew every support on me including my sisters because we took our mother side.

About my mother, months after the divorce he took her again to kings palace concerning property, well he happens to be a successfull man I mean he is worth up to 100 million naira. Out of 13 houses he has and several properties we don't know about he only issued us one and that was the first house he built.

My mom won the case but with annoyance he withdrew his support on me, my younger sister's r through in university(o yes am the first born and only son with 3 girls). Now I have now where to run to ,I haven't paid school fees and am in final year.i don't know what to do

My mom can't raise the money , neither can I .I have a business but is just for feeding
Please I want to extort money from him in a legal way,am not after his properties but just to finish from the university.

Pls and pls I need your sincere advice, I battling with depression (bipolar disorder) .there is more to this story but am ready to answer any question
Thanks you
PS .sorry for the errors once again

Is entirely your fucking business
Front page is a goal

Truth be told, at 27 you are a full blown adult who should be fending for himself.

Location ? If you need a competent lawyer send an email.

Pavore9:
Truth be told, at 27 you are a full blown adult who should be fending for himself.

You didn't read where he said he lost 5yrs in the Uni baa.. Smh

BarrElChapo:


You didn't read where he said he lost 5yrs in the Uni baa.. Smh

I read that, just as I know someone who had to leave LAUTECH (Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, Ogbomosho) at the age 23 after 4 years there due to the lengthy closure of the school. Even coming from a far less affluent background in comparison to the OP's background found his way to a private university in Nairobi, where fees is about the same paid in Nigeria and without financial assistance from family nor engaging in illegitimate activities, he is resourceful enough to earn to pay his way through school at age 26.

Far younger people are fending for themselves, he has to be creative on how to earn more income from his business which he noted he has, as one do not need to first have a university certificate before he/she can do so, likewise his younger sisters while hoping their father comes around.

Ondo state,heywiezzy@gmail com

Hmmm...can you sue? I doubt.

Does he owe you anything? I doubt

You've got to find a way within yourselves as a family...your sisters are done with school, let them help.

As for your dad, he will meet his waterloo in front.

Involving yourself and taking sides in a fight between your dad and mom was your greatest mistake.

Don't ever take sides and when you do (human nature), ensure you do not rub it in their faces. Were you there when your dad met your mom over 27 years ago?

Children should always learn and understand their limits when it comes to husband and wife wahala. Resolve issues when you can, and when issues remain unresolved, do not take sides.

You will lose in court, do dont bother suing him and wasting your money. Let your mother sell one of the properties and settle you all with it so you can finish school.
Or go find a place to borrow the money

I suggest you meet your dad one on one and try to make peace with him first and then after that explain your situations to him and the implications of you dropping out of school.
Talk to him like a man. Make him understand whatever happened between him and your mum will not stop you from being his flesh and blood. Don't go fighting your dad in the court

See him one on one remind him that when he dies you would be the one to take care of the burial. Also tell him that what ever he and your mum is going through is non of your business that they both brought you to this world and it's thier responsibility to takecare of you.

What a dysfunctional family. Dad sues mom, son planning to sue dad.

You are 27 and an adult. Your dad owes you nothing now.

Moreso, are you sure hes your father? Go talk with your mother, not strangers and if she says "forget your dad and we will find a way around it" , better heed to that. She knows what you dont know.

acecouture:
Good evening, first of all I want to apologize for any grammatical errors and blunders am going to make thank you.

I don't know how and where to start from but I will make the story short and brief. My dad took my mom to court accusing her of which craft, threat to his life 2017 and January last year he divorced her,mind you it was 28 year year of marriage. My dad is 60, am 27 years.


I had set back concerning my education,i had to withdraw from a federal university to a private university, 5years was wasted. The main reason of going to a private university is simply because of the university strike ,am getting older... thank God and in my final year now and am doing well ,but my father suddenly withdrew every support on me including my sisters because we took our mother side.

About my mother, months after the divorce he took her again to kings palace concerning property, well he happens to be a successfull man I mean he is worth up to 100 million naira. Out of 13 houses he has and several properties we don't know about he only issued us one and that was the first house he built.

My mom won the case but with annoyance he withdrew his support on me, my younger sister's r through in university(o yes am the first born and only son with 3 girls). Now I have now where to run to ,I haven't paid school fees and am in final year.i don't know what to do

My mom can't raise the money , neither can I .I have a business but is just for feeding
Please I want to extort money from him in a legal way,am not after his properties but just to finish from the university.

Pls and pls I need your sincere advice, I battling with depression (bipolar disorder) .there is more to this story but am ready to answer any question
Thanks you
PS .sorry for the errors once again

At this stage
Meet your dad one on one, ask him why he withdraw his sponsorship of you and your siblings education

Listen very well while he is speaking and after that he will definitely say that you took sides with mum

Tell him you are sorry and that you are going to bring your sisters to apologise to him

Secondly, if he accepts you people apologise, that is where the real game will start

Play the fool and keep supporting him with your sisters too

Continue this until you graduate and find your level as being stable to stand on your own

You and I knows that what he did to your mum is bad

Keep your support to your mum coded and put her in the light of what you are doing

Forget about his relationship with your mum he is stubborn and wicked and he is out to melt his wickedness on any of you that doesn't give him the stupid support he wants from you guys

Always tell him the sweet words he wants to hear in as much as that will make you and your siblings have enough cash in school

Whatever he is doing, give him your support and play the fool.

Don't argue with him because he will see it as a challenge

Continue with your sisters to play the fool game with him

Don't be surprise you can save some money and give your mum to start something doing

Don't ever meantion your mum issues to his ears, he forbids to hear that

As time goes on when you guys have found your bearing, pull out from him and you will see him suffer more from loneliness and that is when he will start having his own depression



Encourage your mum to Pls play along with you people so that your education won't suffer

frozen70:


At this stage
Meet your dad one on one, ask him why he withdraw his sponsorship of you and your siblings education

Listen very well while he is speaking and after that he will definitely say that you took sides with mum

Tell him you are sorry and that you are going to bring your sisters to apologise to him

Secondly, if he accepts you people apologise, that is where the real game will start

Play the fool and keep supporting him with your sisters too

Continue this until you graduate and find your level as being stable to stand on your own

You and I knows that what he did to your mum is bad

Keep your support to your mum coded and put her in the light of what you are doing

Forget about his relationship with your mum he is stubborn and wicked and he is out to melt his wickedness on any of you that doesn't give him the stupid support he wants from you guys

Always tell him the sweet words he wants to hear in as much as that will make you and your siblings have enough cash in school

Whatever he is doing, give him your support and play the fool.

Don't argue with him because he will see it as a challenge

Continue with your sisters to play the fool game with him

Don't be surprise you can save some money and give your mum to start something doing

Don't ever meantion your mum issues to his ears, he forbids to hear that

As time goes on when you guys have found your bearing, pull out from him and you will see him suffer more from loneliness and that is when he will start having his own depression



Encourage your mum to Pls play along with you people so that your education won't suffer

You've made great points but I do not support the idea of playing the fool. OP and his sisters should simply treat their parents equally whether they're separated or not.

I can bet you the OP and his sisters do not have a thorough idea what their parents have been through. Let me also say this that no court will listen to a divorce proceedings on the ground of witchcraft. No responsible judge will listen to that kind of issue. So forget whatever reasons you may have read from the OP.

Divorce is not a very common thing. Judges/Magistrates don't make that pronouncement without some genuine reasons. We are talking about a 27+ year marriage here

You want to compound your problems abi. You shouldn't have taken sides until you and your sisters are done with your education and have gotten good jobs. I expect your mum to have told you this. In fact, you should have left both of them to their wahala and be diplomatic. The court cannot do anything about this as you are way above 18 and old enough to be a father yourself.

Also, your father's properties are not yours. You seem to have an entitlement mentality. At this point, I expect you to have understood that your dad has all the power. You and your siblings should do whatever it takes to be closer to your father even if that requires you moving in with him. You are not going to suck up to your dad forever but you have to all it takes to survive. He sounds like he had been a very responsible father until this issue. You may not like what he is doing to your mum, but he hasn't be a wholly terrible father either. Learn diplomacy. Be diplomatic amongst your parents.

Thank you very much ,but I tried to reach him ,last time we spoke was last year October. Went to his office in Edo (high rank police officer) I waited for 7hours and he didn't show up and I was at the reception.

Another thing is that is he spoilt my name including my mom and my sister to the extent say his not my biological father,my sister is a prostitute and so ,I had to move out and rent an apartment.it is worse than this.

Concerning playing along and taking sides,yes I did played along for months , until I couldn't take it
Remember I told you about taking my mom to kings palace concerning property,there was a particular house he and my mom started together.but after the divorce he wanted to claim it then my mom refuse . My mom is on 3 million naira debt on the building(loan). She started the project her self even till roofing level my dad didn't visit the site.
All of a sudden he started showing interest and claiming the property, on several occasions he got the workers at the site arrested.
After some weeks my mom begged me to relocate to the house for her to secure it, and I did.
This man is so gullible that they normally collect properties from him,infact there was another house my mom built ,he collected the house illegally and the name in the proposal my mum's.

Am not after his property,i only need school fees,i mean around 1millon plus ,the school fees it 500000naira am in my finals and projects and some other huge expenses are coming my work because it's a private university, mind you am not lazy i have my own business as a fashion designer and a commercial farmer,this are still not enough to raised the money between now and September, like my my sisters they are in cake business and and make up and they are doing well too

Now about my immediate sister, this girl is supposed to get 2year ago but my father refuse .he said he won't fund the wedding then my sister agreed to go for court marriage,then he doesn't need to spend a dime just to appear as the Father of the bride still he refused.
Forget about he his a responsible father ,he is an abusive one toward my mom ,this problem started 25years ago, am still blaming my mom reason she stayed in the marriage.
It's beyond natural ,we are all praying about it, .

I understand that you are depressed... Just humble yourself and go to him and ask for assistance... whoever advised you or was encouraging you to tread on that part of court did not give u a wise advice... Because you are an adult no longer a baby..... , so whatever he is doing for u@ 27 is out of generosity....

Just do the I WILL Arise... and go to my father and I will say unto him Father, I have sinned against heaven and before thee.. . I just pray and hope he kill some Goat and welcome you home..

acecouture:
Thank you very much ,but I tried to reach him ,last time we spoke was last year October. Went to his office in Edo (high rank police officer) I waited for 7hours and he didn't show up and I was at the reception.

Another thing is that is he spoilt my name including my mom and my sister to the extent say his not my biological father,my sister is a prostitute and so ,I had to move out and rent an apartment.it is worse than this.

Concerning playing along and taking sides,yes I did played along for months , until I couldn't take it
Remember I told you about taking my mom to kings palace concerning property,there was a particular house he and my mom started together.but after the divorce he wanted to claim it then my mom refuse . My mom is on 3 million naira debt on the building(loan). She started the project her self even till roofing level my dad didn't visit the site.
All of a sudden he started showing interest and claiming the property, on several occasions he got the workers at the site arrested.
After some weeks my mom begged me to relocate to the house for her to secure it, and I did.
This man is so gullible that they normally collect properties from him,infact there was another house my mom built ,he collected the house illegally and the name in the proposal my mum's.

I will advice you to just let things be

Forget about his support now and face your life

You are fighting serious spiritual battles and you don't even know because you are so focused on the physical

or you think the fact that you have issues with school in your final year twice is a coincidence.

Just start looking for genuine hustles . Many on nairaland. You can be a dropshipper with zero capital .

You can dropship different products online.

Go through nairaland business section there are many business ideas which you can start with small money.

If you can feed and cloth yourself you have all the basic necessities.

I'll advice you defer for a while.

you are already 27 and quite old as a starter in the job market.

I don't know your religion. If you are a christian I'll advice you take prayers very seriously. stay away from drugs , alcohol and women and focus on your destiny.

Don't start going from church to church to see prophets so you don't carry more than you can handle , except you are extremely sure they are good.( very rare)

You can pray from your house sef. Don't miss praying at night.

Your foundation is affecting you. The fact that you are the first and only son my brother you will have to be strong .

As for your mother she can go to court to reclaim her properties.


Try to be as neutral in their matter as possible.

You will see that when you take your prayers seriously even your Dad might be the one to pay up your school fees without you having to beg him.

My dear you need to focus on your future. Fight can delay blessings. Try and avoid unnecessary squabbles by all means.

Think out of the box. work hard , because you aren't getting any younger

stay blessed.

I can’t for the life of me get how a parent would forsake their very own offspring. That’s as irresponsible as irresponsible can be ffs

Pavore9:
Truth be told, at 27 you are a full blown adult who should be fending for himself.

..
True..
Buh, time and unforeseen events happen to us all..

BarrElChapo:
Location ? If you need a competent lawyer send an email.

hodsfo@gmail.com

acecouture:
Good evening, first of all I want to apologize for any grammatical errors and blunders am going to make thank you.

I don't know how and where to start from but I will make the story short and brief. My dad took my mom to court accusing her of which craft, threat to his life 2017 and January last year he divorced her,mind you it was 28 year year of marriage. My dad is 60, am 27 years.


I had set back concerning my education,i had to withdraw from a federal university to a private university, 5years was wasted. The main reason of going to a private university is simply because of the university strike ,am getting older... thank God and in my final year now and am doing well ,but my father suddenly withdrew every support on me including my sisters because we took our mother side.

About my mother, months after the divorce he took her again to kings palace concerning property, well he happens to be a successfull man I mean he is worth up to 100 million naira. Out of 13 houses he has and several properties we don't know about he only issued us one and that was the first house he built.

My mom won the case but with annoyance he withdrew his support on me, my younger sister's r through in university(o yes am the first born and only son with 3 girls). Now I have now where to run to ,I haven't paid school fees and am in final year.i don't know what to do

My mom can't raise the money , neither can I .I have a business but is just for feeding
Please I want to extort money from him in a legal way,am not after his properties but just to finish from the university.

Pls and pls I need your sincere advice, I battling with depression (bipolar disorder) .there is more to this story but am ready to answer any question
Thanks you
PS .sorry for the errors once again

u don't have to sue your dad, but ur mum needs to. seems she got the short end of the stick during the divorce. I would have loved to help let us review what happened and see what we can do

Guy jus arange some niggas and kidnapp ur popsy he will cough out even the money u will use and start biz after graduation not only paying ur school fees.....u should be rugged

Ohhh your dad is an olokpa ....chai.....no wonder his mind is hardened .....anyway his f...up can still be treated..

frozen70:


At this stage
Meet your dad one on one, ask him why he withdraw his sponsorship of you and your siblings education

Listen very well while he is speaking and after that he will definitely say that you took sides with mum

Tell him you are sorry and that you are going to bring your sisters to apologise to him

Secondly, if he accepts you people apologise, that is where the real game will start

Play the fool and keep supporting him with your sisters too

Continue this until you graduate and find your level as being stable to stand on your own

You and I knows that what he did to your mum is bad

Keep your support to your mum coded and put her in the light of what you are doing

Forget about his relationship with your mum he is stubborn and wicked and he is out to melt his wickedness on any of you that doesn't give him the stupid support he wants from you guys

Always tell him the sweet words he wants to hear in as much as that will make you and your siblings have enough cash in school

Whatever he is doing, give him your support and play the fool.

Don't argue with him because he will see it as a challenge

Continue with your sisters to play the fool game with him

Don't be surprise you can save some money and give your mum to start something doing

Don't ever meantion your mum issues to his ears, he forbids to hear that

As time goes on when you guys have found your bearing, pull out from him and you will see him suffer more from loneliness and that is when he will start having his own depression



Encourage your mum to Pls play along with you people so that your education won't suffer

Too much sense will not kill you.I hope you won't go home with your wisdom when you die,make sure you bless your children with it.You are so on point dear

franciseromosel:




Too much sense will not kill you.I hope you won't go home with your wisdom when you die,make sure you bless your children with it.You are so on point dear

Thanks dear

Bros be wise, listen to advice of smart people above. Wisdom prolongs life. Surrender to ur father. Make peace with him. It will pain u but find a reason to stay. Accept to be used. To be a mumu. Keep ur eyes on the bigger picture, ur inheritance. Let no stranger come and take what belongs to u. Be patient.

BTW, what assurance do u have that u will secure a good job after ur degree? Am not being pessimistic, this is reality. Be smart

You're not a kid, your dad is doing you a favor by paying your school fees, be humble

acecouture:
Good evening, first of all I want to apologize for any grammatical errors and blunders am going to make thank you.

I don't know how and where to start from but I will make the story short and brief. My dad took my mom to court accusing her of which craft, threat to his life 2017 and January last year he divorced her,mind you it was 28 year year of marriage. My dad is 60, am 27 years.


I had set back concerning my education,i had to withdraw from a federal university to a private university, 5years was wasted. The main reason of going to a private university is simply because of the university strike ,am getting older... thank God and in my final year now and am doing well ,but my father suddenly withdrew every support on me including my sisters because we took our mother side.

About my mother, months after the divorce he took her again to kings palace concerning property, well he happens to be a successfull man I mean he is worth up to 100 million naira. Out of 13 houses he has and several properties we don't know about he only issued us one and that was the first house he built.

My mom won the case but with annoyance he withdrew his support on me, my younger sister's r through in university(o yes am the first born and only son with 3 girls). Now I have now where to run to ,I haven't paid school fees and am in final year.i don't know what to do

My mom can't raise the money , neither can I .I have a business but is just for feeding
Please I want to extort money from him in a legal way,am not after his properties but just to finish from the university.

Pls and pls I need your sincere advice, I battling with depression (bipolar disorder) .there is more to this story but am ready to answer any question
Thanks you
PS .sorry for the errors once again

This your entitled mentality though. You forgetting some of your mates are already catering for their own family and u here talking bulls... If you actually had tact, you wouldn't have taken sides knowing your father has the main source of income and your benefactor. U don't bite the fingers that fed u